I don't believe in love anymore, and I think it might be for the best.

[Anonymous]

After my latest break-up, I don't think I believe in love. I do believe the love that holds a family together, I think. I think I still believe in friendships, I think. But I don't believe in love anymore. and I know that when you can't believe in it, there's no chance of finding it.

I've dated, I've stepped out of my comfort zone. I tried being myself. It all hasn't worked. I just get dumped without closure, or I have to break it off because he'll try to send me mixed messages so I'd leave him alone, like trying to get me to take a hint so he gets off without the mess or guilt.

and then I read in the papers about long (3-5 year) relationships suddenly ending and the guy gets married to another girl and expecting a child within 6 months. (why is it always the guy, in the news). and maybe it's for the best but if I were the girl that got dumped, my heart can't take it. if I were the girl approached, I wouldn't trust him so fast.

I haven't been in a relationship where I felt loved. I've made efforts but it's been adding up to nothing. People tell me love is a risk, but isn't it more of a guarantee for heartbreak? I don't know what to look forward to anymore.

I tear up not because I miss the guy. It's because I was chasing after something that doesn't exist. and I think I'd feel happier that it didn't exist. I think I can do arranged marriages now. I've tried so many things to get myself to stop crying. If love didn't exist, I think I can stop crying. I think I can be happier.

[Anonymous]

No love doesn't exist. Love is only a word we have chosen to describe relationships of convenience! What do I mean by that? We'll have u ask yourself, why a guy leads u on and pretend being in a serious relationship and then come up with this stupid pretext that "I need space" or "I am not ready for a relationship right now" But they spended a considerable amount of time with you and now they are not sure? Later you see them married and with a family! Not ready ha! BS this a way for a guy or girl to tell u the want more you not bringing what they want to the table! Relationship of convinience nor love! Let me tell you that doesn't mean you are less! Not at all is just they want more! More excitement, more money, what ever there is they are looking for! Is that love? No! That is why u see people divorce and un satisfied with their partners all the time! I have been cheated on, lied to even better used! Then disposed as nothing cause Aperantly I am not worthy of a proper break up! The person just left me without an explanation after a two year relashionship. He ghosted me! You see no one takes in consideration the extent of the damage your actions do to others and they just go on their way as long as they don't bother with explanations the other person will be left there like an idiot and feeling totally lost! Is that love! Is that suppose to teach me something? It happen for a reason? What possibly could be good out of that experience? The only person you should love and trust is yourself cause if you don't no one will! My best regards, this is my opinion, I think no one deserves to be lead on or treated badly as for love it should be something that changes people and if you love them you will never ever hurt them cause you would think about the pain it would cause and you would not do that to some one u truly loved!

[poet-at-heart]

alright let me see if I can try to help you out here:

in today's world, finding love is probably one of the most difficult tasks you're going to face. I'm not going to lie, it's going to be really hard and you're probably going to get your heart broken at least a dozen more times, and it won't come when you expect it. love is in fact a risk, but without love what is there in life. what are you going to live for? work? books? yes those things are great and all but those things won't fill the void that requires love. if you ignore the existence of love, then you may find yourself searching your entire life for something to fill that void only to find that there's always going to be that aching in your heart. so really without love you're never going to be 100% happy.

when you're hearts broken, I find the best thing for me to do is to just stop searching and learn more about myself. this is your chance to turn to faith, or try something new. take some risks. go to new places. meet new people. and eventually you're going to find someone new. someone that will want to spend the rest of his life with you and only you.

there's always going to be some heartache involved in love, but once you find that one person that completes you and makes you feel so completely loved, you'll forget all about those other guys that broke your heart. you just have to be open to the idea of love. and sooner or later it will find you. just don't give up hope. take some time off from men and focus on yourself. don't think about it and that's when it will find you.

[dominiquois]

It's because you don't get the difference between lust (Eros) and love (Agape, true love)
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Greek_words_for_love

Lust=selfish
Love=selfless

[Anonymous]

I can totally understand where your coming from, and I myself have had my share of heartbreak..and im not sure if this is what you want to hear, but love does exist...even though you might no feel so or believe so now..LOVE is soo much bigger than what we give it credit for..its not solely between two people in a relationship...its everywhere a kindness is being done..everywhere people sacrifice their own needs for another...everywhere a helping hand is stretched out..Love heals and strengthens...It definitely exists sweetheart...

Its not that you don't believe in love anymore...you don't believe in relationships anymore. That risk of putting your feelings out and investing time in someone that your not sure if they genuinely care about you at all...I've lost that spark in me too...but its not that love is to blame, but the people whom you give it to that will leave a bad taste in your mouth. It seems to me that your not crying because love DOES exist but rather... what if it DIDN'T..that wouldn't make you happier, Love is the only cure for sadness and being happy, is associated with love in some sort of way or another...they are all positive emotions...what would the world be like without LOVE?Hell is probably a good place to start..lol...All in all the more you dwell on the subject you'll see the light at the end of the tunnel...be strong and don't give up faith...love and you shall be loved...sincerely YB