Does dating suck?

Question

What happened to people genuinely getting to know people? Seems it's all about sex, situationships, playing games, lies, etc... No dates and no seriousness...

HiveBee · Accepted Answer

I think dating sucks too. I'd rather a relationship develop organically. You just like eachother and there's tension and suddenly you're making out and poof now you're dating and fucking and it's fun.

But I guess that's just now how it goes. And that doesn't necessarily lead to long term love and marriage and kids type shit.

So then instead you have to go out and "date" and it's basically women searching for a husband, and men pretending to be a potential husband in order to get laid.

So the question becomes how do you separate the fakers from the real ones? Because the fakers will mimmick the real in order to get laid.

I don't know. An organic one that comes from mutual positive warm fuzzies. You can't fake that.

But then we are back at square one where that is an unrealistic way to approach a relationship because that rarely happens.

You could try being more explicit about love and marriage and kids if that's what you want. But who knows if a guy will even marry a woman just to secure access to pussy.

That relationship won't last. He's just settling for any old pussy and he will realize he doesn't love you and that will end in divorce all because he pretended to love you because he knew he could secure the pussy.

Peter_Penetrator · Accepted Answer

I haven’t dated since 2003. I was in a bad marriage for 18 years. I have been divorced now for 2 1/2 years. I don’t go out to meet women nor do l do the whole dating app scene. 2003. Back when we still had pay phones everywhere. Before flip phones. Long before smartphones and texting replaced actually talking on the phone with someone. Now there are all these “rules” or texting etiquette. Folks blowing up each other’s phones losing their shit.

When l am out and about during my daily activities, if l come across someone attractive, l flirt and see where it goes. Especially if l frequent the same establishments. If l get a date, if l don’t get a date, either way l am happy. I could do that whole exclusivity thing too. I don’t date out of the fear of being alone.

Dating should just be a hobby. Just one more thing in life to make you happy and to occupy your time. If you happen to click with someone then go out again. If you’re dating for sometime and the other person flakes, so be it. Take some time, then get back up and try again.

WhiteSandyBeach · Accepted Answer

If only there was a way to bypass all the dating shit and just skip to the part where you're both watching a scary movie with a blanket for protection!

Most monsters can't get through a heavy blanket. It's just a monster rule.

IslaTheWitch · Accepted Answer

It depends on your and your date's preferences and mindset. Compatibility is needed even on the dating level.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

Seems to be fun to me.

icebrg25 · Answer

Does dating suck? That depends how else you going to get to know person. Just text each other for the rest of your life. Texting only go so far. You got to go out. That's how you can tell. Just one person is by the way they interact in public. When you don't know that you're watching them, you get to see how they interact with other people. I mean everybody puts on a front. Everybody wears a different mask behind closed doors so do dating suck. I don't know how old you want to know that person. The only ways to go out on a date listen to what they say. Listen you know the event their opinions see how to drive. Do they drive like a maniac? I mean maybe sucks with some but I love it because that's how you get to know a person who they really are cuz people are b******* you all day long. Tell you this tell you that. Oh yeah I'm good. I'm good you get them out in public and they are the meanest SOBs in the world. So you know that's been time with with people that get to know them. So if they didn't suck this matter of opinion you know. Good luck

OfMiceandMen · Answer

It's one of those luck of the draws kind of deal. Sure there are a lot of people out there and that's all they're after because they are shallow as hell or they got tired of being played so the themselves assume the player role.

But, some of us still date for the right reasons and it's just a matter of finding/targeting genuine people. It's to bad there isn't some sort of meeting place/venue where genuine people can go to meet genuine people. Save a lot of time weeding through the BS'ers.

SolitarySolace · Answer

I haven’t been on a date in almost 9 years. Not because I can’t get a date, but because I don’t want to go on any. I’d rather not be filmed by a woman while she criticizes me. I’d rather not have to deal with a woman asking me for my salary.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

It definite sucks from what I've seen and experienced. I'm sure that some people have good experiences, but mine has been consistently and unappologetically awful across the last 15 years.

Nikki1989 · Answer

The problem is, some people have no clue how to date, let alone be romantic. All they know is the garbage they see and read on their computer or phone screens.

exitseven · Answer

I bet that it does Everyone has unrealistic expectations. People see movies where everyone is rich and nobody has to work and everyone is attractive ans they think that the world is really like that.

lightbulb27 · Answer

was good for me dating my wife, and I know others that date and got married. but i'm sure it's a mess as well and hard to navigate.

Sparkie460 · Answer

It seems like most people only wants to have sex. What happened to relationships. I'm so glad I'm done with dating. I feel so bad for the people who actually are looking for a spouse to spend the rest of their life with.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

I think dating is fun. I've met a lot of nice ladies. I'm sorry this hasn't been your experience.

Bethany22 · Answer

Yeah, situation hips.

Yannae · Answer

I know right! I keep hearing horrible stories and I just want to a happy dance because I am happily taken. You summed it up nicely!

Starrrboy · Answer

Yeah but there's too many people complaining about that.. I'm just wondering, where the hell are those people and why don't they ever run into each other? 🤣..

Miristheiss · Answer

Based on how things appear... it is getting worse and worse.

Billlewis · Answer

I blame the online dating industry.

007kingifrit · Answer

yes things are breaking down as society falls apart. nobody has values anymore. it is best if YOU be the change you want to see, you must be assertive say what you want, and plan dates

zagor · Answer

When was it ever not about sex, etc? Maybe you were just more naive when younger.

Hanrej · Answer

No one wants to lose and everyone wants to win. No relationship turns both parties into winners.

SUMAIREBRAHIM · Answer

Hook-up culture actually it benifits men a lot in general

Myaloura · Answer

Not for me, my boyfriend is the nicest person I met

whistlingwh0res · Answer

Because most men are criminal minded and women are using them for sex and money.

DubiousIntentions · Answer

It only sucks if the girl is willing to.

Carina0 · Answer

Yep exactly

YAsQuen · Answer

true and womens fault

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