My boyfriend cancelled plans with me two times continually?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend cancelled plans with me two times continually, we used to see each other every Sunday, the last Sunday told me that he had some work with he’s mother, and This Sunday told me that he’s sick, and tbh I didn’t like it

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah man, that really sucks. I know how much it hurts when people bail on plans, especially your girl.

A couple things could be goin on here:

- He could be telling the truth and really did have to help his mom/got sick. Stuff comes up sometimes.

- But cancelling twice in a row does seem a little fishy. Makes me wonder if he's lost interest or met someone else.

- Or maybe he's just stressed from school/work and isn't putting as much effort into your relationship anymore.

I'd have an honest chat with him. Let him know you don't appreciate being blown off last minute like that without a good reason.

Ask him directly how he's feeling about your relationship and if anything's changed on his end. Pay attention to what he says AND how he's acting with you now.

If he keeps brushing you off or gets defensive, that's not a good sign. But maybe he just needs a reminder to put you as a priority too.

Don't let him take you for granted. Your time matters! Hopefully he shapes up, but you gotta stand up for yourself too.

Let me know how it goes, I got your back either way. Don't stress too much yet - just open the communication.

[Uby10000]

Talk about it with him, tell him that it hurts you. Sadly you have to remember you and him have still 2 separate lives so you cannot always know what the other one is doing. So these are the 2 main things to work:
1) Communication with each other
2) Trust each other

[Asker]

I’m thinking about discussing this with him, but I don’t want him to feel like I’m needy or I don’t have life

[Uby10000]

You are not needy, you just have to tell him you like being with him and wants to know if everything is alright. Because that's what you want, right? Sometimes we have those moments when we want to see each other and of course missing the 2 Sundays in a row can be mistaken as a bad thing. It may have been merely a coincidence but still don't be afraid to express what you feel right now, bottling your emotions would only damage you further

[Asker]

Yeah you’re right, because we work all the week and we don’t have time to see each other, that’s why , I keep waiting for Sunday to see him , I miss him so much

[Uby10000]

See? It's VERY reasonable that you miss him since you only see each other for ONE DAY OF THE WEEK. This is why i tell you, don't be afraid to tell him how you feel, if he loves you he will do his best to stick with you. Also who forbids either of you to meet in the weekdays as well? Maybe in the evening perhaps?

[Asker]

No, he works from 14:00 to 23:00 , that’s why we don’t have time to see each other

[Uby10000]

I am terribly sorry for you...

[Asker]

Thank you so much

[BoopBoopBeep]

Sucks, sure, but sometimes life gets in the way and we don't get to choose when other things happen.

It'd be worth it to have a lighthearted, non-accusatory chat with him about it

[Paris13]

Sounds like You are Not a Priority and He Has Other "Better Things to Do." Red Flag. xxoo

[LazerBean]

You're upset that he's sick and can't meet up? Girl call down, you have too much free time.

[Anonymous]

Two times is not continually, it is twice. Canceling all the time for 2 months is continually.

[Asker]

So you can think it’s not a big deal?