Hi everybody! So, I'm a bit confused whether this guy likes me or should I forget about him and move on. I would really appreciate your advice.
I know this guy from work and I like him a lot. Before we haven't talked that much and it was me who approached him first, I initiated the first conversation, and after a while of texting and talking at work, I mentioned that we should have coffee sometime. He agreed and we set up the date. The date went very well, we talked a lot, we took a walk and he even walked me back home and we hugged before parting. The next day he texted me that he was still thinking about me, that I was so beautiful yesterday, and he initiated the second date. I agreed. But when the day of the date came, he didn't contact me to set up the exact place and time. I waited and in the afternoon texted him if we were still hanging out that day. He told me that something came up at work and he couldn't make it. I was a bit upset, couldn't he just let me know in advance? Then he told me that maybe we could do something on the weekend, I said that I didn't know yet and that we would see.
He contacted me in a few days and we set up the date again for Sunday. But on Sunday he texted me that he was feeling a bit sick and as he wasn't sure if it was Covid or not, it would be better not to meet. But he suggested another day for meeting. Unfortunately, I am busy on that day. So we said that we would see some other time.
Now I don't know what to think. It seemed that he liked me and wanted to see me, but now he acts like this and cancels our date second time in a row. At first sight, both excuses are acceptable, but I still have a doubt. I don't know if it is my insecurity or he is just not taking me seriously enough.
I really like him, but I don't want to lose time and to end up broken-hearted. What do you think? Should I move on or should I give him another chance if he reaches out again? Or maybe I should directly ask him if he likes me?
You said, "I don't know yet" so there are times you are not available too, yet you blame him but not when it is you that does it. Regardless, two events are not enough to establish a pattern in what he does. Nevertheless, twice is enough to justify questioning if he is serious. I suggest let him call you and/or initiate the next date. Then, if if happens the third time, he has established a pattern that is unacceptable.
Another way of judging if he is serious it to ask, "Is he doing well and you are above his league (not likely) or are you doing well and he is above your league (more likely). If it is the first, those things happened and are unlikely to happen the third time. If it is the second he is not interested except when the date is convenient to him. That is; he will not invest much, money, time, or effort to get into your pants.