Girlfriend finally admits she cheated in a relationship 5 years ago after I have asked her about it for months. Should I worry?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend finally admitted she cheated in a relationship with her ex from 5 years ago whom he dated for six years. It took every ounce of me to get it out of her so it wasn’t like she wanted to tell me. She had dated this guy for 6 years and in the last four months of their relationship they weren’t connected as much, never had sex, etc. She cheated on him with one of her friends friends. She eventually broke up with the guy and started having a thing with this guy. Ironically, the new guy cheated on her for three years so I guess it’s a little bit of karma. She told me she’s learned from her past. Being that she was on the giving and receiving end of the cheating should I worry at all?

[SongBird3]

I genuinely believe that once a cheater, always a cheater. But I also know their are acceptations the every rule. If you want a clear answer, you need to ask her more questions. You needs to ask her, what kind of work did she do on herself? did she go to therapy? did she tell the ex boyfriend? what did she learn from it? She needs to be able to make you feel confident enough in the relationship. If she is not showing any signs that she put in the work, then its not likely this relationship will last. Judging by the fact you had to force the information out of her is a big red flag on her part.

[Sofargone93]

So she cheated on him with a person close to him then told you she learned her lesson when she got cheated on back. She's not an honest woman and I'm sure that's not the whole story. There's other stuff she isn't going to tell you. I can't trust a person like that. He best bet is just saying all the shit she didn't tell anybody else to you. And it better be juicy too. She has to be transparent because you can't bullshit a bulshitter. I'd be on her damn case too. That Years ago and she still acted like she was getting questioned for murber. Couldn't do it fam. Too many secrets and not enough accountability.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Personally I'd avoid this person, karma is karma but a cheater is a cheater, once that term sticks, it's stuck to the person, nothing someone will say will change that perspective for me, loyalty for me is always seen in the best light and when loyalty is broken I consider it a red flag, even if they didn't cheat on me and it was someone else, that situation is helping me dodge a potential bullet in the future.

[Asker]

Even if it was when she was younger and she says she’s learned from it? We live together and I track everything she does and haven’t found nothing. It’s been a year and she ain’t slipped up once. Maybe she has learned and it was just a stupid mistake?

[ChicoFromThe305]

Perhaps, I'm not saying you should end things but I'm speaking personally this is something id want to know before starting a relationship, the lying and hiding kinda adds more shade on top of it don't you think, what you could do is give her the chance she needs, personally don't have the heart for it but if you do then that's good I guess bro

[Paris13]

Sometimes We DO End up Cheating Again as History Can Repeat Itself. Be Wary for Now. xxoo

[Paris13]

Thanks, Gag. xxoo

[Uby10000]

I'm sorry but she either has some sort of cheating kink or she's playing you. Speak to her to see if this is a thing that turns her on if you are fine with it (going out with other guys), or set up the necessary boundaries for both of you. Otherwise, best thing you could do is find someone else.

[aceleon]

yes she is nothing more than a bitch, if she did it once she will absolutly do it again the second the chance is present.

[Flatmanlewis]

At this point the lying ABOUT the cheating worries me more than the act. She was able to hide it this long - what else has she hidden?