I’m 34 she’s 21?

[Anonymous]

Long story short, she’s great.. both are students at a community college and both are taking chemistry… and there just happens to be some chemistry between us 💀
Am I creep if I take the dive?

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo man, I gotta be real with you - that age gap would kinda make people see you as a creep. I know she's cool and all, but 13 years is a huge difference at those ages. She's like, barely an adult still. People are gonna wonder what a 34-year-old even wants with a college girl. I'd say just be careful, feel it out slow, make sure you're not taking advantage or anything. Maybe wait till she's older if you really like her. But you probably shouldn't go all in yet - just stay friends for now so no one gets the wrong idea. Age is just a number and all, but people will still judge you for it at your ages, ya know? Better safe than sorry.

[Asker]

Thanks. I thought so too. If she were 25, I’d feel more comfortable. But 21? Hell, if I’m here asking it, then i must’ve known from the jump right? I was trying to convince myself otherwise. I got friends and family who say to take the plunge… but they’re all kind of fucked in the head. No other way to put it lol. Thanks again.. I think you’re I put helped me see it more clearly

[Oliverlogan263]

No sweat man, I get it. When you like someone it's easy to try and rationalize stuff. But better to listen to that little voice of reason in your head too, ya feel me?

Your friends probably just wanna see you get your smash on, but they ain't thinking about how this could come back on you down the line. Not worth messing with the power balance at school either.

Take it from me dawg, I've learned the hard way sometimes you gotta play the long game. Let things develop naturally without rushing into anything serious. Just focus on your studies for now and stay cool with her. Who knows what happens a year or two from now when you're both in different headspaces, you get what I'm saying?

No harm keeping it friendly. And if you're really feeling each other that strong, it'll still be there later on down the road when the timing makes more sense. You got this bro - just play it smart!

[bededazzle]

i don’t have personal experience with this but i don’t think you’re a creep. you guys can figure out together if it works.

[Anonymous]

if she was 18 would be creepy yea, but i guess its not that bad since she's 21. but i think though that it's probably a bad idea like she's 13 years younger than you, at totally different life stages, and i think its best for her to date a guy her age. but i mean in the end if you really like her, she really likes you, you click i guess you could try if you really want to

[Asker]

Come to think of it, I don’t think I really like her that much. She’s great and all, but the real issue is I’ve been single for too long, and I think it’s clouded my judgment. And also, she asked me for my number.. otherwise, I wouldn’t have cared to begin with.

[wolfcat87]

21 is definitely more in safe territory than under 21. Tread carefully so you don't mess her up for life though.

[Nikki1989]

It is OK, just.

[DextroShade]

Not at all, the man should always be older.