I am undecided because I have had it go both ways. Just yesterday, I had woman I was talking to for about two weeks leave got two days without texting me. Honestly, at that point I was no longer interested.
But she texts me yesterday to say...
"You're a really nice and handsome guy, but I have decided to pass."
Now I thanked her for not ghosting, that it shows she has good character... but honestly, I did not need to hear that bullshit. I mean what does that mean, you do not date nice and handsome men? Thats bullshit right?
I was polite to her, but in the back of my mind... it did not change anything for me. I mean I was moving on anyway; I do not need a woman to tell me I am handsome and a nice guy. I know this dumbass. I am 47 years old; I have dated a lot of women; you do not think I am told this all the time.
If you are going to pass, and send a message make it mean something. Don't send some bullshit and think you're being the better person.
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This is when ghosting is justified:
- If they lie/conceal something major (they have kids, are married, knowingly have a STD, etc.)
- They hit you or legitimately threaten violence. However this doesnât include them hitting you back (talking to the ladies on that bs). Also doesnât include if someone gets upset and raises their voice. There has to be unprovoked violence. When that does happen both men and women need to leave immediately.
- Full on cheating. For me that is genital and/or oral sex. Other forms of cheating can be grounds for a breakup but not ghosting.
- Stealing money from a partner.
But if you ghost someone and none of the criteria above was met then you are a selfish cowardly pos. Period. You being scared of confrontation isnât an excuse to do that to someone. Your âfeelingsâ are not âthe truthâ they are just âyour truthâ. But there is no âyour truthâ or âmy truthâ there is just âTHE truthâ. A decent person will give closure why they want out.
Anyway this was done to me a few years ago. Ex girlfriend ghosted me after 9 months of dating over a minor argument. She was much younger but still if f*cked me up for a long while. Hurt a lot.
I'm a serial ghoster, I'm not good with goodbyes or confrontation. I've usefully confronted these people once before abd they've begged me to stay and I've been left to feel as if I have no choice but to wait it out to ghost them and find a opportunity for when I have no reason to see them again.
I only ghost toxic, bad people too who never really appreciated me or my friendship so I think its deserved and they should use self reflection to realise why I did what did and not have to be told why.
Sometimes ghosting is the right thing to do if the reasons why youâre ghosting someone can be devastating and hurtful for the other person.
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Depends on who is ghosting you and for what reasons. If it is a family member that can be bad. If it is a love interest, you need to take the time to reflect. Was it justified? Or is that other person overreacting? Either way you must give that person time. When ghosted itâs best not to lose your shit and burn a bridge. If that other person overreacted, give them time to regret what they did and cautiously accept them back into your life. Make them expend 95% of the effort to regain your trust. If you are adult enough to accept responsibility if you are at fault, and by not burning that bridge, you have a much better shot at being forgiven.
Good things come to those that wait.Although there are circumstances where ghosting someone is completely understandable, you should always communicate especially when emotions are involved. Being ghosted really really hurts, especially when itâs with someone you have finally let your guard down with and they vanish. Your number is blocked and you have no way of contacting them so youâre left confused, hurt, and wondering why. It can be harmful to oneâs self esteem and confidence. Itâs kinda like being a puppy. Someone takes you home and you begin to get comfortable, establish trust and then you go for a ride and bam you get left in a dark alley without any warning or explanation. Of course nobody owes you anything much less an explanation for their behavior but you canât run from or avoid problems in life much less yourself. Always be upfront with people about who you are and what your intentions are. People will respect you more and be more likely to trust you.
That depends on the level or connection. I have little problem with someone ghosting someone else they have never met.
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Yes I dont think u can argue its not rude or shows high levels of disrespect
If it's intentional I block the person and the way I find the show is I just ask them quite simple
It is a form of gaslighting.
So "rude" would be an understatement. Psychologically abusive would be more accurate.
Nobody is entitled to anything in a relationship. Granted getting dumped does suck, but at the end of the day the union would be over regardless of how they deliver the message.
Yeah it's definitely rude.. But people have done it so much that it's become a command easy thing to do..
I think it depends. If they won't leave you alone and you've made it clear to cease, there's not much other choice.
If it's unforseen and "just because", oof.If you were in a relationship and the other person did not turn out to be psycho drama, then yes.
Maybe rude, but also doing you a favor not to waste more of your time.
Only if she's truly earned it. Otherwise no. You should never ghost. Ghosting just proves you're weak.
Obviously. It shows that you are immature and cowardly
I ghost if chick's do weirdo ass shit. If u do weirdo shit expect to get ghosted.
People who ghost are cowards and to any of y'all who favours ghosting y'all are cowards to, plain and simple.
Very rude, just be honest and say i do not want to talk to you
It depends on if they deserve it or not.
Kinda is, but sometimes there is no better choice.
more than rude it is saddening.
yes especially if they did nothing wrong
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