Do you expect a text before a date?

Question

I’m meeting someone at a restaurant in an hour. We spoke last night and she sounds excited. Should I text her I’m on my way when I leave the house or just meet her there as we agreed to?

Static_In_The_Attic · Accepted Answer

A conformation text or phone call before a date is always a good thing. As for your situation I’m sorry to hear she stood your up & didn’t even have the decency to send you a message the minute she came up with the I’m sick bullshit excuse.

What goes around comes around so this is what you are going to do.
Set up another date with her at the same restaurant & let her get all dolled up & do the same thing. When she texts you tell her to order a drink & grab a table you’ll be there in 10 minutes & just don’t show up & when she texts you again tell her you are sick.

AviatorTom · Accepted Answer

You did the right thing. It's always good to text and ket the other person know you're coming, and let them know if you expect to be on time, or maybe late.

I had a first date where I got stuck in traffic so I texted her that I'd be late at the restaurant. I ended up being 30 minutes late, and she told me she would have left if I hadn't texted her. That was really good, because she's my SO... 7 years and counting.

desperatelyhungry · Accepted Answer

Yes I do. Whike I keep in mind that he not sending a last minute text doesn’t necessarily equate to it not happening, I do get half a mind of not going because I can’t stand the thought of being stood up. If I extend the invitation I will send a confirmation text day of, so if I’m invited somewhere I would appreciate the same respect

Anemone978 · Accepted Answer

She was a bitch.. so you didn't lose anything.. if she got sick you think she would of cancelled instead of waiting til the day and an hour after the time to respond..

OlderAndWiser · Answer

You should text when you arrive at the meeting place, and let her know where you will be waiting and how you are dressed so she can recognize you, etc.

MiddleAgedClimbee · Answer

It's very exciting to se a question from Barry! I haven't been in the dating scene for a long time, so I would think not messaging each other would lead to more excitement. My wife and I had our first date, we agreed upon a time to meet at a restaurant, and there were no calls before, we were relying on sheer faith, and hope that we would both show up. Obviously, it worked out :-) :-)

deus_ex_sisyphus · Answer

A morning text, saying something on the lines of: "Hey, I'm looking forward to seeing you later." The subsequent, "Hey just left, I'll be there in 45." is also a great choice to send if she left your first text on read. If she doesn't respond to either text and she's more than 5 minutes late to the date, delete her number and move on. Sorry you had to go through man, we've all been there at one point

NathanDavis · Answer

I've always made sure to, with every plan yes... and it's always been appreciated and reciprocated, so yes... you never know, better safe than sorry

Kokoaquest · Answer

Usually I text them the day before, then the morning of and then like 2hrs before the date but usually this is because I had already spent about a couple of weeks of talking with them. Full conversations that cover topics that are casual but revealing to their character.

Knightend · Answer

A text is recommended and polite. No reason not to send it.

I'm sorry your situation turned out as it did. Don't let it get you down. I'd give her another chance as some people are just insecure or get super nervous before date's, especially if it's a first date.

If it doesn't work out, hold your head high and move on my friend. Best of luck to you.

Peter_Penetrator · Answer

Only if something important comes up and she can’t make it. Especially if she has children. A woman’s children come first.

Now, if she text and she can’t make it for some petty reason then my attraction level for her drops.

What ever the reason for cancellation a text ahead of time is the respectful thing to do.

WhitneySnow · Answer

I’m sorry she couldn’t make it. But to answer your question, it’s always nice to get a text before a date letting you know they’re on their way.

JacobJordan · Answer

wife response: that girl does not value your time leave. when my husband and I started dating he didn't text me, he didn't even have my number. he told me "I am picking you up at 5:15 for our date" He showed up at 5:10 with a bouquet of flowers we left at 5:15. I was also ready at 4:30 and very nervous by the time he showed up to pick me up.

beautyjoyfover200 · Answer

I would message it let’s me know that we’re on the same page of what’s going on as so where we’re meeting or who made it first to keep a look out for the date to arrive etc.
I’ll feel anxious if I made of this far to the destination and the person didn’t show up or there been a miscommunication the whole time.

Nightblade23 · Answer

I'm so sorry that happened to you if a guy asked me on a date I would want him to come pick me up and if I got sick or something happened I would have called and explained to him before hand or met in person and told him that I'm feeling under the weather and try to reschedule the date

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

Just meet her as agreed upon unless you're late, which you shouldn't be, because you left early to check out the location.

haana · Answer

definitely text her and let her know you’re on your way. She could’ve texted you earlier if she’s not feeling well and can’t make it

LazerBean · Answer

You did the right thing, I'm sorry that she did not. I wouldn't encourage you to try again with her. That level of inconsideration is unacceptable

Drumlin2001 · Answer

You did nothing wrong. Little but if bad firm from her, I assume she was sick all day and could easily have told you before

spartan55 · Answer

I think that is the courteous thing to do. Good luck!

Nikki1989 · Answer

I have messaging disabled, so people can't text me. Ha!

Anonymous · Answer

I'm sorry, hun, this is something everyone experiences at least once if they're putting real effort into finding Mr/ Mrs Right... it sucks, but it's their loss.

Bad_milk · Answer

Yea I always text them, like an hour before hand because they could cancel or something could come up like that bullshit that you dealt with, she could be feigning it or it could be real, gotta give her another chance to find out

ThrillSeeker01 · Answer

I'd just meet her there. A text might come across as anxious (even if you're just trying to be polite).

electromagnetic · Answer

You took all the measures required. I’m sorry your date didn’t pan out. Very impolite to not communicate earlier that she was feeling well.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

If I was dating a girl I would hope we could exchange text messages to allow one another know we are going on the date instead of making trips for nothing.

Miristheiss · Answer

No, set the time and just go and be on time. No need to keep texting or "making sure".

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Most of the hot chicks we agree to go on a date with... will send their dick pics right before the date.

mandyfire98 · Answer

A text is normally ok.  I'm sorry to hear she ghosted you. That was shitty of her.

7Phoenix7 · Answer

Text her when you're on your way!

Fireguy17 · Answer

no, I wouldn't know why I should. Usually everything is done in advance so the only time she would need to text me is if/when she is bailing because of either getting a better offer or something else.

Anonymous · Answer

Definitely always send a message beforehand. Us girls can start to think maybe we are going to get stood up. Having said that, she should have made contact with you to let you know she wasn't able to make it

Joshydavid25 · Answer

I think you should just meet her there as you guys agreed.. So she won't send you any second guessy type responses.. Of course you're already on the date, so I hope it worked out for you.

linka_pat307 · Answer

Keep talking and sharing what each is doing at a moment

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I usually text before meeting up with anyone, date or otherwise.

fuddly · Answer

Probably you should have confirmed before Eg text and say... Let me know when you're leaving Only then you know she's going

Jupiter1 · Answer

I’d even go to the extent of sharing my location when I’m on my way to the meeting site. She doesn’t have to share her location but at least acknowledge my text. Location sharing would be a nice bonus.

Iron_Man · Answer

When you get to the restaurant, text her but don’t try to take her home and have sex with her. It’s the first date isn’t it?

Teabaggin · Answer

Well yeah, that will make it less awkward and is also a opener for a conversation for ex. Asking where the person is sitting exactly

Chi_Mayne · Answer

Yes you should! So u know if it’s the person is going or not.

Robertjo16 · Answer

Wow. Thats terrible. I'm so sorry. 😞

ayeeitzhollyy · Answer

She should’ve told you in the beginning then wait last minute. Red flag I’m sorry.

Joshgag2000 · Answer

Yes it’s very important to text before a date in case anything changes

Anonymous · Answer

Did you shoot your usual annoying "How would my answer help you" while texting earlier? Lolol

jefSalinger12 · Answer

if she knows the address yes. But the important thing is you always go to pick her up and drop her off on a date

Daffy0 · Answer

I would definitely text her and let her no your coming and maybe add some humour aswell... breaks the ice when sitting at the table

Anonymous · Answer

say im excited to see you

Anonymous · Answer

Don't get stood up hopefully.

Jazzy54 · Answer

Wow, I’m so sorry. 😔

Jennz6 · Answer

I want more than a text

annabananna · Answer

Wow very rude of her!

Brandi555 · Answer

She should’ve texted you she was sick.

boobliker · Answer

just meet her there as we agreed.

Staximus · Answer

Just delete her number.

Radiate143 · Answer

Oh wow. She sucks.

dudeinohio · Answer

Update! Don't leave us hanging!

Lester102 · Answer

Yes & why not?

BerthaFelistar · Answer

yeah why not olololol

Redstang88 · Answer

Yeah I always check in day of

whistlingwh0res · Answer

don't be such a jackass.

JonesT10Apr · Answer

yes definitely texting couple of days before

Joker_ · Answer

yes.

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