Usually we text immediately to express appreciation for time well spent, gratitude for mutual favours given during the date such as paid meals or career counsel or emotional support or permission to borrow items from one another, along with questions about our safe arrival home and time taken returning from the date, as well as commentary on what we are doing the rest of the evening, on a date your nervous and try to impress the person, so you want validation that your effort was appreciated and your romantic value affirmed and acknowledged but if it is somebody I’m not close to, I think waiting 2-3 days is good. Just to give the person space and acknowledge they have a life outside of it.
When I felt like I wanted to talk to them.. Why wait to contact someone if that's what you want to do? I think people worry too much about looking needy or desperate instead of just doing what comes natural to them... If he's bothered I contacted him, then at least I'd find that out sooner than later
I would do it as soon as I got home. To tell them how much I loved the date.
Or maybe ask her to text me to make sure she got home safe and sound.
I am not interested in the "playing hard to get" game. If I like someone and ask her out on a date, then i am here to make this work. I'm not going to waste my time waiting to try and play it cool 😎.
I meant this here as in this answer is a great answer and how dating should be, particularly the: "If I like someone and ask her out on a date, then i am here to make this work. I'm not going to waste my time waiting to try and play it cool"
If it was a great date, I'd text her while still standing outside her door and say " I'm getting that awkward 'when should I text' thing out of the way right now. Had a great time, hope you did too?" If I get a positive response, I ask her out again.
I would text an hour after I reach home. I don’t like playing games (I’m only 17, but this is for when I grow up). I’d let him know that I genuinely enjoyed the date and that I would like to go out with him again and ask if he’s interested. Communication is key.
I might actually do it the same evening, depending on how things were left at the end of the date. I might just say something like: "wanted to tell you again that I had a really great time" or "it was really great getting to know you a bit, maybe we could do it again." After that, I would leave the ball in her court for at least a few days.
I don't know what she would be comfortable with but me I could do it right away no problem to me. Feel like this would depend a lot on what is said at the end of such date or them just messaging right away. For example stuff that could be said at the end could be, Text me later which would probably be a hour or 2 depending on time of the day. Or if I said text me when your back home just to know your safe etc.
By the time I expect them to be back home. I don't play games and I only bother going on dates with people I've already been talking to for a good while with whom the compatibility and mutual interest is near guaranteed.
For me dates are more a form of officializing the connection rather than testing the waters, and I'd hope that the other party is on the same page about it.
I don't quite understand the waiting to text someone for a certain amount of time... what's the point of waiting if you want to talk to the person?
personally, if I feel like texting the person then I'll do it right away, and I will double, triple and quadruple text if I care for the person, I don't care. but of course, the interest has to be mutual or I wouldn't bother at all.
Comes down to circumstances, so may be a text to make sure they've got home safely (but I'd do that for all my friends anyway), if I knew they'd got home safely, then I'm not a natural fond of overtexting so I'm probably a week long guy (though that may change if I'd had a couple of beers lol).
If meet someone in real life and we date and i like them im going to text or call when my heart tells me to.. and most of tbe time its right away. If i meet someone on line and we start talking I will say I will send you my phone number you can block your phone number and then call me that way they're kind of feel safe because you don't know who's online anymore it's crazy but I always tell them that I won't ever call you or text you not unless you ask me to because like I said gorilla I would just met rather meet somebody in person that way you don't have that problem LOL
rite after i get home usually. i dont wait. i dont see the point. like if da girl thinks im desperate becuz i messaged her rite after we got home then maybe our date didn't go so well
but I've never gotten any response that seemed bad when i did dat in response 2 a date that seemed 2 go really well. the girl sounded as excited as i was 2 talk when we got home and also plan da next date
I'm not one for mind games, I'd probably text when I got home regardless of how things went, or the following morning depending on how late things ended, and make it clear if I was interested in seeing the person again.
Not long at all. I would let them know whether I would like to see them again or not. I used to just say nothing after an unsuccessful date but I now think it’s kinder to just say that I didn’t feel a connection.
Right after I get home if I was interested. I don't see any reason for playing games. If she's the type who does, then I wouldn't be interested in that anyways.
If the date went really well, sending a text message an hour or two after the date saying something like "I really enjoyed our date" is a good thing to do.
So you’d set something up right away rather than giving it a few days? If you wait a few days (but have sent a few texts) does that mean you’re not interested or just busy?
I'm just bad about texting in general. If Ii let something sit then I forget. I could also be busy, so it depends. Just give it time, im sure it will work out.
@Blonde401. I honestly feel like, as a guy, we're either "too interested" or "not interested enough.". Why is everything always perceived as an extreme? Honest question.
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