Does someone's past matter to you when looking for potential in dating?

[ChicoFromThe305]

I'm not just talking about body count, I'm speaking in general past which body count is clearly a part of it as well but I'm not a hypocrite cause I personally care about body count and the past and I totally don't see a problem if for example a woman is like "this mf used to beat mfs and shit in the past, I wouldn't date him" totally understandable, everyone has limits and it's completely fair to not want to take the risk with that person, people say all the time that they don't care about the past but if someone was a serial killer for example, no one in their right mind would just ignore that, just cause someone doesn't care about body count doesn't mean they don't care about past in general, the difference is just that the body count doesn't cross that person's limits, so I'm asking this now, do you personally care about a person's past in general when dating?

[NathanDavis]

of course it does matter...

it matters because when I want to be with someone, I want to know pretty much all about them, how and who they really are, and a big part of this is our past experiences, in great part... our present is our past and it might be much of our future

but, I also go about this the smarter way... it's not like we're completely defined by our past either, especially the mistakes and wrongs we might have done, it's more about how we dealt with the consequences of our actions, choices and circumstances...

what have we become today

[ChicoFromThe305]

Sounds like a pretty fair way of looking at it

[Hanrej]

Yes. I recognize people can sometimes change but it's not an easy process and many times fail even if the intent was sincere. Therefore their past matters, patterns concerning their behaviour, values and such hints at what kind of relationship we'll likely have together.

[mandyfire98]

I don't care at all about their body count. I do care about other aspects that are important though. Like history of violence, how they've treated other partners, if they were criminals, if they have personality disorders. There are a lot of actual serious things to be concerned about other's past that isn't body counts.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Indeed and my personal limit is body count, just how others is something completely different than intercourse, what you said is highly understandable, thanks for sharing

[Lisia]

Yeah, I don't care as much about people beating each other up lol 'cause my ex did that but they can't be an aggressive person in general, they should have a good reason to. I also care about their bodycount. Also murdering animals and humans is a big turn off and kidnapping, raping,.. y'know obvious things..

[ChicoFromThe305]

Yep in extreme cases I wouldn't expect anyone to stick around, you've got a good mindset, wasn't your boyfriend your first lover tho? Or am I do confusing you with the wrong person? Either ways, I like your mindset Lisa 🤣💯

[Lisia]

Yeah my ex now 😅

[ChicoFromThe305]

Whaa? You are lying 😭

What happened?

Aw man, you relationship gave me hopes on long lasting relationships ☹

[Lisia]

Well it did last long-.. it just wasn't good for my mental health 😅

[ChicoFromThe305]

I understand that, so you broke it off? To show seriousness im going to call you by your real name, Victoria don't forget that good choices don't always feel like the best choices, it's long term when you realize the choices were the best choices, you feeling alright tho right?

[Lisia]

I'm okay, just the good memories coming back now and then. It sucks really but it's for the best. Also thanks for remembering my name and asking 😊

[ChicoFromThe305]

Yep I can imagine so, and np, you have a memorable personality, remembering is the easy part ha

im just keeping it real, you seem like one of the good chicks so I only wanna see you winning out here, just make sure the next guy is an upgrade or this whole thing would be somewhat meaningless, best of luck Lisa 😆💯

[Lisia]

Yeah exactly hahaha and thanks you! 😊

[ChicoFromThe305]

🤣💯🙏🏽

[Avicenna]

It really depends on the details, TBH

[ChicoFromThe305]

True

[LazerBean]

Of course. A person's past matters, and in my opinion a person's family's past matters as well. One of the best ways to tell how much and in what way a person is damaged is by looking at their childhood and upbringing.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Oof, that sounds fair enough LazerBean

[Paris13]

Not Usually But with my Last One, It Followed Me At Times Dealing with His... xxoo

[ChicoFromThe305]

Dealing with his what? 🤠

[Paris13]

Something That Accidentally Came to Me through his Pix He was Showing Me... xxoo

[ChicoFromThe305]

Oh well fair enough ha

[Paris13]

lol Have a Great weekend!!! xoo

[ChicoFromThe305]

Likewise Paris 😊💯

[Veles]

Yes Chico, the past is the best predictor of the future.

[ChicoFromThe305]

I like the way you think V 😌👏

[Veles]

thanks for the MHO

[ChicoFromThe305]

Wdym I just asked the question 😂

[Veles]

I can see the future, Chico

[ChicoFromThe305]

Are you trying to change the future here V or where you trying to get MHO and trying to trick me to give it to you? 🤔

[Veles]

I assure you, fate has already decided that I will win the MHO

[ChicoFromThe305]

But what if someone with a better response reaches my question V? 🤔👀

[Veles]

You will give me that award Chico, I can see it in your eyes

[ChicoFromThe305]

Don't try to hypnotize me 😂

I'll think about it Veles 😆🥂

[Veles]

I voted for @worst for the second award, by the way.

[Worst]

@Veles thank you

[ChicoFromThe305]

That mf always gonna be last on my book, he can be the first at being last 😂

[Worst]

Thanks lol

[ChicoFromThe305]

Always bro 💯

[Angxl3120]

Not really, I just hope they're not a criminal or something 😂

[ChicoFromThe305]

Oof, understandable 😂

[Angxl3120]

Yeah😅

[serenalovesramen]

Yep. I was talking to this one guy which he was nice, but his “friend” said that he was really rude with his previous girl. So soon as I heard about that I said goodbye 👋

[ChicoFromThe305]

Yep sounds like a pretty obvious red flag right there, his friends helped you out foreal

[serenalovesramen]

Yeah he was a real one

[ChicoFromThe305]

Indeed he was, not common to run across nowadays

[exitseven]

Yes, if she was a liar or a druggie I would not want anything to do with them

[ChicoFromThe305]

Makes total sense to me lol

[Nikki1989]

Not this again.

No, someone's past is none of my business.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Okay that's you

[PBandJ_Nerd]

I probably wouldn't think about it much to be honest.

[Anonymous]

a lot!

It always amuses me when women get mad at this judgement from a guy. But that's because women use too much emotion and don't look at it logically. People don't really change at thier core. We all do stupid things to be sure. But people's CHARACTER does not change. And a person's past is invaluable for telling you what type of person they are.

[IslaTheWitch]

It's better to know than not.

[Anonymous]

Yes.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Nice 👏👏👏

[Worst]

yes...

[ChicoFromThe305]

That's real 💯

[Worst]

So far every user on this question has blocked me lol

[ChicoFromThe305]

I told you respecting people is important, what you want me to tell you 😂

[Worst]

Chances are I've never even interacted with them

[ChicoFromThe305]

That also happens too but I believe you've spoken to these people before, it's kinda hard not too cause these people have been here for a while

[Worst]

Mandyfire, no... the other 2 Uber mods are cancer anyways

[ChicoFromThe305]

So you knew exactly who they we're, how 😂

[Worst]

I logged out and checked

[ChicoFromThe305]

You can do that? Interesting, Very cheap of gag tho no lie

[Worst]

You can do a lot of things

[ChicoFromThe305]

Indeed

[MissStrawberry912]

Yes and no.