How has your taste in the opposite gender changed as you’ve grown older and more mature?

Question

I def care less about looks.

caring__1 · Accepted Answer

I used to believe I was very flexible and could deal with anything. It wasn't that I was attracted to women with issues (anger, insecurity, yelling, self-centered, critical, controlling, etc.). It was that I was tolerant of the differences and believed they would change as they felt more safe, secure and comfortable with me. I eventually realized what you see is what you get, and people don't change for others. I now am less tolerant of negative personality traits and am much quicker to close doors on potential opportunities.

As far as physical appearance, I have become more tolerant over time. I used to have an ideal look I was drawn to. Unfortunately, society doesn't promote the look I like, so it was very hard to find women I found to be very attractive who didn't feel flawed and inadequate. It's no fun being with an insecure partner.

Relationships would be so much happier and more fulfilling if society promoted uniqueness rather than conformity to an ideal. We are who we are, and we can only use what we have to use. For every type of person, there are people who are drawn to that type of person. Making the most of what exists, rather than attempting to be something we're not, will lead to much more positive experiences. We can pretend we're something we're not, but reality will always eventually come to the surface, and then partners see us as using bait and switch to deceptively hook them.

When I was young, youth was attractive to me. Now I don't see myself with anyone who looks significantly younger than me. Sure, I can appreciate how youth looks, but I don't need the headaches that go along with those who spend significant time, effort and money, attempting to hold onto their youth. Wrinkles are fine, and skin doesn't need to be taut to enjoy being touched. That doesn't mean I now find myself drawn to those who are the complete opposite of what I used to appreciate. I just limit size to no more than my size. By the way, waist divided by height proportion is a much better measure of a person's size than BMI (which doesn't take into account muscle or bone mass). I've encountered women who weigh more than me who are slimmer than me.

NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

I don't think it really hasn't changed much... as I've never really had a particular or strongly preferred taste... and I've always liked when girls are interesting, and/or smart, funny...

but to agree with you, the younger I was (middle-school) the more I would idealize girls because of their looks, and the more I could be infatuated by their looks as well...

as in, whenever I saw a very pretty girl I sure wanted her or thought she would be all that I liked, smart, interesting and funny... lol

but no, before my middle school years were over, I had realized that this is not always the case lmfao, but more importantly... that I should get to know someone first for who they really and how they actually are and not get wowed by their looks alone

Little_Bumblebee · Accepted Answer

The biggest is that when I was a teen I really liked more thin and lanky dudes?

Now I prefer a man who's more... meaty? Chunky? I don't know what to call it.

Though I have always been about vibes with the person and how I feel when I'm with them, so it has never been crucial when it comes to looks. It's mostly about their personality and demeanor overall. Always have been.

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

Not much. I’m still picky when it comes to posture, the shape of their nose and the style of their hair. I guess I’m a tad more lenient on their teeth not being as straight, their eyebrows not being as thick, and their chest not being as toned as i prefer. And I made exceptions to my age rules in 2017, 2019, and 2023

OlderAndWiser · Answer

As I've gotten older, it no longer takes an 8/10 to get my attention, and I can be quite happy with a 5/10 if she is intelligent and is a kind soul.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

I care less about looks than I did year ago.

drummerdude25 · Answer

Not really, in terms of physical preferences, just that I realize that someone that’s super chill and can go with the flow is super important to me…

I’ve had too many experiences feeling embarrassed in public because the people I was with couldn’t just enjoy the moment for what it was. Non-issues became night-derailing ordeals…

Not even talking about girls in particular, it’s just like something in an individual that I can’t put up with. Like if we’re going to hang out, let’s start by being sensible, grown adults… ya know? lol

mstbooblover · Answer

Has my taste changed over the years? Not really actually. When I was young I only had genuine interest in girls, but silly enough didn't dare to approach them... I've never really bothered about a beauty standard. It's rather a form of general harmony of body and mind that makes me having feelings for some particular women, who definitely can have very different appearances.

Having been married during many decennia till my wife passed away, and thus time having passed, I'm more and more aware of how much I like big saggy breasts, a preference that probably has been in me since having discovered the existence of the other gender. Mind that for me the lady's personality will always have the priority over any physical feature.

These last years I checked my own tendencies with different people, and still I have to state that my taste actually still did not change: I still prefer women by far, and only became more aware of what I always liked and appreciated.

HawkPerception · Answer

Honestly I don't think much has changed. I've always been consistent and mature in what I look for in a girl. I've been a philosophical guy even when I was much younger and thought about what truly makes a relationship work and what would make me happy in life. It's to the point where I developed a theory of what chemistry really is around 16 years old and that view hasn't changed since then. Obviously the view is subjective, but it's my truth

DJB72 · Answer

In terms of what I find physically attractive about the opposite sex nothing has changed as I've got older, I've just learned that age makes everything relative.

In the really important stuff, I place a far higher value on character than cup size now than 35 years ago...

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

When I was 16 model type was my type, slim thick, perfect model look, I'm sure y'all know what I'm talking about, I didn't know love then tho, I fell in love with the first woman which was a thicker chick with curves and had a cute face, she had tattoos too, then from there I liked thicker girls, then I became more open and can see beauty everywhere.

Unit1 · Answer

Not much has changed. Generally I got no type. I like what I like.

If anything I have no-go types and these are gold diggers, single mothers, smokers, cheaters, heavily promiscuous girls, religious zealots and girls, that want to have kids.

As I encounter more women the no-go types gets additions such as political morons, girls with anger issues, social media addicts and girls, who are beyond just the conventional (20%?) crazy.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

Words always enchanted me :) With time, I started to value more brains and humor. But my love for words is still here :D

Anonymous · Answer

I just gave up and just let my girlfriend peg me and became her bottom. I would tell her no, I am the man, and try to act manly and tough. Eventually, I just said fuck it and gave up, and I let her dominate me.

Maybe when I was less younger and less mature, I would feel like a bitch, but life is too short for me to care about that anymore.

jxxrn · Answer

I care more about stability and emotional intelligence. Looks are last on the agenda. When I was younger I was the type of woman that would kick the “nice guy” to the curb. It’s something I regret now

TooExtraterrestrial · Answer

I now understand why other men prefer to live the life of a bachelor. You get to a certain point where all the knowledge and wisdom you've gathered as you age makes you incredibly incompatible with people who aren't as knowledgeable as you so that whole youthful naivety comes off as the biggest turn off. You begin to wonder if there is anyone who can match or challenge your intelligence, or at the very least have the capacity to understand what you know. But unfortunately there aren't that many people like that.

Lionman95 · Answer

I´m more into shy girls now. When I started dating I only wanted to date girls that are active and in some way dominant so that they tell me what they want and seem to care not about anybody else´s opinions.
That changed when my self confidence grew and I understood more that many girls are different or like the guy to decide.

Sevenpointfive · Answer

it hasn't changed at all. i've always liked an age range and that hasn't changed. i think something can be said for those traumatized school boys that were raped by women and v/v with girls and male teachers

Thestupidusername · Answer

No. I've always knew I wanted a serious commitment. Even as young as 9 I knew. Thats why I never let things go anywhere if I didn't see a future even if mu crush liked me back. And i've always cared more about personality..

Dinklex3 · Answer

Looks wise, yes. I didn’t care for muscular men, now that’s my preference 🤷‍♀️ Like, I used to be one of those immature girls that would say “ewww” to ripped men.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Physically, not much.. I've always had a wide variety in what I like.. Personality wise, I used to like girls that had some slang in their accent, a little twang.. Now, I like talkative, nerdy girl, that act kinda dorky..

Yannae · Answer

It actually remained the same. I've always liked girls my height or taller, growing up, that never changed. The personality didn't change either. I'm still going after the same type of girl I used to look for when I was in highschool.

genericname85 · Answer

when i was young, i liked skinny big boobed girs. pretty much the barbie doll or average anime chick body, which in real life no real woman has. today i like more chunky girls. not like "fat" but yeah. a bit more to it.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Not really. Always had a thing for strong women. Though I had a mental block which held me back in dating for years. Physical appearance was very much secondary to personality

RageBabe · Answer

I've realised that what I was accepting was not worthy of what I really deserved. Fuckboys have lost my tolerance. Physical appearances didn't seduce me; it was the emotional connection.

Lisia · Answer

Same as you, I don't really have a particular taste anymore.

Sparkie460 · Answer

Other than going from just liking blondes to liking brunette and red hair too, my taste hasn't changed. I've always gone by eyes, smile and personality

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes, looks don't matter to me as long as she has a great personality.

exitseven · Answer

I imagine that I would have little patience with stupid.

_no_one_ · Answer

I guess from looks to looks + mental stability

serious_miss419 · Answer

I’ve got no taste. It all leads to the same thing, I’m not into the headache.  Solitude all the way.

TallAnon · Answer

I definitely care more about who they really are, but I wouldn't say I care less about looks. I just got more picky.

Ruenella_ · Answer

I used to like super skinny guys, but now I welcome all body types. I still dislike beards tho 🤣

BarryLiverstone · Answer

These days I’m less attracted to immature girls tbh

Nice222 · Answer

Yes very much. I used to be attracted to the beautiful girl that loved going to bars and clubs. Now I love the more stable stay home type.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Much less tolerable of drama, but physical appearance has changed as I like what I like.

CubaPirate · Answer

I've been happy with what I've got for many years, so no

BLP11520 · Answer

Well I see more beauty and understand what is important like personality

Ironic_Method · Answer

Everything is pretty much the same. Apparently I had it figured out early :P

Anonymous · Answer

i used to like certain kinds of boobies, but now I like them all. :D

bananathunder · Answer

yes. I preferred really skinny girls when I was younger. Now I like curves a lot more

KrakenAttackin · Answer

You care less about looks because you can't pull Chad's the way you used to.

equinoxmist · Answer

I care more about intelligence now.

Amara_09 · Answer

I realized that I am worse than Christian Grey.

Wood3nWhal3 · Answer

The booties keep getting bigger 😵‍💫

Nahid1707 · Answer

Yea Anna in some ways

HouseMoat · Answer

So you'd date an ugly guy?

Iron_Man · Answer

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