Too forceful to ask a girl to come over after 2 dates?

[Anonymous]

She was hesitant to kiss me after date #2, but after some cute banter we did. We’ve been texting for a day being fun and then trying to make plans. She works late nights in a club, but she’s free tomorrow or Thursday after midnight, but also said “she doesn’t think anything is open after midnight”. I want to invite ur to my place after she’s done but don’t want to turn her off. I live with people and they’re leaving for the night so I thought it would be a good opportunity. She seems to want to go slow based off the first few dates. If I say to come over Thursday and she says no, would saying Wednesday works be dumb. Cuz I already told her I’m “hanging with the people I live with” one last day before they leave for a month. Thursday night, or a changed my mind Wednesday better?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmmm dude I dunno, I think asking her over so soon might come on too strong and push her away. You said she wants to take it slow, so I'd respect that feel me?

Maybe play it cool and say something like "Wednesday's actually kinda busy for me with roommates leaving, but let's plan something on your next day off. No pressure on anything, just wanna keep enjoying your company." Make it chill.

Then try suggesting an actual date activity on Thursday, not just "come over." Maybe a late night park walk or finding an all night diner so she doesn't think you just trying to hook up. Ease her into being more comfortable first.

Girls can be skittish - last thing you want is scaring this one off by being too pushy too soon. Play the long game, show her a good time out somewhere instead of putting pressure on coming to your crib. You'll still be cuddling in no time if you keep it light and fun, trust!

Just my two cents bro. Go slow, she'll appreciate you respecting her pace more than rushing things you feel me? You got this!

[Jamie05rhs]

I assume you're referring to sex.