Have you ever lost interest in dating?

Question

Got asked out this week, one of them being the person I might have found interesting in the past, but I feel zero interest for some reason.  Why’s that?

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

I've never had an interest in dating. I think it's gay and way too formal. I have no game or gift of gab, so that route was always a dead end for me. I prefer the organic interactions... she'll show interest and I'll just put it out there that I wouldn't mind bumping uglies with her. She can either go for it or not... I don't really care, she's free to make her own decisions. Plus... trying to manipulate chicks by impressing them and all that bullshit seems really lame to me. I mean yeah it works for some people... but I'm not a fucking salesman and I'm not going to "dance monkey dance" just to get my D wet.

It (dating) is just too formal for me. She's either interested and trying to get me from the start, or nothing is going to happen. There is no requirement in this life for me to impress anyone... even random chicks I wouldn't mind banging.

Now with all that said, I'm looking at your case and kind of wondering if you see all that too. Does the guy just come off as sort of lame, manipulating, or does the whole situation of dating come off as inorganic af?

NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

no, never had a reason to lose interest...

but, this does not mean that I always said yes and went out dating everyone who asked me out... lol

sometimes, you cannot just reciprocate the same interest in the other person... and other times, is not the best time to be dating either...

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

Yes! In fact when I was in my 30's I took an entire year off from dating. I got so tired of getting used, hurt, unhappy so I took an entire year of no dating.
I just paid attention to my son and we would go out to eat a lot, go ice skating and roller skating. To the movies. To church.
I felt so much better inside.
Plus I hated the interview when I would meet someone new., especially since I don't do drugs or drink alcohol, because most guys do that instead of talking.
What do you think of a 65 year old man smoking weed? I used to tell him "Here I am with a guy who is smoking pot while I'm in my 60's. Your doing the same thing guys would do when I was 14. That is so freaking ridiculous!! 🙄

Minahh · Accepted Answer

Yeah like currently 😃 I was in a terrible relationship, and went through a situationship (which I didn't want to get into at all) and few bad dates. Now I'm just focusing on healing and all the shit I have to go through. I believe the one will show up or at least I'm going to be wiser while looking for him.

AviatorTom · Answer

A healing leg will change your outlook on life, it takes priority. Wait until your leg is fully healed, then you will enjoy dating again.

Avicenna · Answer

It's totally normal to take a break from dating or too feel temporarily disinterested

MysticDevice · Answer

A long time ago.

I got tired of catshishes,

I got cheated on despite absololute loyalty from me

I got tired of partners being spoiled and ungrateful

I got tired of gaslighting and emotional manipulation.

I've been doing perfectly fine on my own and live in peace.

smne35 · Answer

Yes it happens from time to time, go through these phases where you just not into it at moment and especially this time of year right after x mass, which can and do wear you down mentally physically, with g gift buying wrapping and it can get pretty stress full, so don't trip you just feel comfortable relaxing alone at this point, or you just ain't interesting in him cause he's not interesting period, but what ever it is end the old year reflecting on it, and make plans for the new, on what you want to accomplish and where you want be in life one year from now, and next year at this time go over to your notes see how you did and make new plans for the next year, to reach ones goals is to take one step at a time, a little bit of something is better than a whole lot of nothing, have a wonderful new year!

1ash-Silver · Answer

I lost interest in dating although I never had anyone in my life to be feeling that way, my sister says I appear to be like someone that had a terrible break up. I guess you are either used to be by yourself and you are very comfortable that it is difficult to imagine "splitting" your time 😂 or you have a different idea in mind of what guy you really want to be with right now. I suggest every week you take one day to reflect , maybe 15-20 mins to look at how you felt and responded to guys approaching you and if you see that the more men do this the less you are interested in men in general then you are likely longing to be found by that special person. We need to to pay attention to ourselves , I know sometimes we are so busy being ourselves that we become comfortable enough to not look at ourselves.

Fireguy17 · Answer

yeppers, it is a lot of work, you try to weed out the ones that just want a free meal but it still happens, or the don't want to eat alone before their real date, or look nothing like their pictures so you don't even recognize them when you meet them, their age is off, it just got to be more of a pain in the butt, so I just decided to be single and enjoy life.
It could have been 5 years or so. I wore out a lot of motorcycle tyres then.
I just came and went as I pleased.
Sure I could get laid when I wanted to but it was just mutual 1 night stands.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

It's hard to say if I'm interested at all... not only in dating but in any relationship, at least for now.

But some events are too fresh, and I still didn't sort out my own emotions.

I think, for now, I don't treat dating as something I would do...

7Phoenix7 · Answer

I definitely have. After a 14 year relationship, I'm just enjoying my solitude.

aceleon · Answer

never had interest in it a couple of years ago i had a slight interest more like curiosity but it vanished quickly after seeing that real life dating had nothing to do with the fictional ones as far as my self awareness goes any relationship of mine would just me trying to ignore my partners shits in order to have sex and considering how touchy feely i am even with my male friends i think we would have a tons of fight because of my public displays.

Anonymous · Answer

2023 was a shit year for me and pursuing or dating, my mind set in 2024 is going to be a beast! I'm going to be cold and the word "pursuing" women is not going to relevant in my vocabulary. Females are cold, females are emotional, females have this devil mindset guy has to be 6ft tall, have a 6pack, make 6 figures but what is she offering. It's time for me to say F feminism and not care about their "Feelings" because I got my feelings and heart stomped on enough. In a world filled with a billion different ideologies, lost souls, extremely picky and superficial girls im done with this shit. Type to focus on myself and I mean it.

RavVid · Answer

I think dating is an act of hope. In getting sex or possibilities of a relationship or a magical once in a lifetime connection.

Hope ebbs and flows in life.

Maybe being injured is a factor and there is a natural self protection instinct in play.

SotiCoto · Answer

Totally.
In fact over a decade ago I lost all interest in bothering any more.
I mean... have you ever been with someone who left you feeling like anyone else you bothered with would just be a poor substitute? That everyone else would always be compared unfavourably to that one perfect someone?
I just lost all interest in even trying after that.

msc545 · Answer

I have in the past and still have little interest. Not worth the hassle and grief involved.

iFarted · Answer

We change with time and our taste is things change.

LeeTina · Answer

I need to make a decision based on whether the other person is a man I like.

Tomisworthless · Answer

Always thought I was too ugly to date turns out people just see me as gay instead. Just earlier I went to get my pizza from the restaurant and while there a woman with her two daughters kept saying “all the dicks all the dicks” then when I got my food and said thank you as I was leaving another woman in line says “so sus” and sus means suspicious of being gay. Funny enough I’ve never had gay desires

Jerre · Answer

I have never lost interest in dating. I date 4-5 times a week, out to dinner, for a long walk on the beach, bbq cooking at my house, etc. people’s interest in another person goes away unexpected so very difficult to explain why you lost interest.

DarkCarousel · Answer

I take a while (a looong while) between relationships and don’t really “date” in between. I honestly don’t have the desire right now to get out there. It would take a strong connection with someone, for me.

coolbreeze · Answer

Dating is tough today because everybody has high expectations. I seen dating profiles where girls will put a checklist of what they are looking for in a guy.

SereneScribe3 · Answer

Yes, that's totally normal. It could be that you're going through a breakup, are focused on other things in life, are aromantic, or are not interested in modern dating.

love_conquers_lust · Answer

No. I’ve been frustrated. I’ve taken strategic pauses as it was the responsible thing to do.

Sonorous · Answer

I wouldn't say I lost it. I'd say that I never really had a strong interest to begin with. I just like being around people I like.

ritxi · Answer

Yes, I have. When I was younger I felt in love of a girl who was giving me false hope during two years. I lost my interest in dating after that during several years.

SphynxUK · Answer

I’ve never actively dated as such. It’s not a high priority of mine. And after spending a long time married, I just cba most of the time.

exitseven · Answer

I broke up with a long time girlfriend and for the next year of so I had a string of crappy relationships and finally decided I would give up on dating

TaureanBull81 · Answer

I have yesssssss after my last relationship breakup and would much rather a regular friends with benefits casual arrangement now.

lightbulb27 · Answer

Yes various times. Even race car drivers take a pit stop

RavenDarkheart · Answer

Not lost interest, just have very little to no success.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

I don't know and yes i think that i have lost interest in dating from a long time ago... Anyways, i'll only date for a serious relationship!

collie22 · Answer

I have some interest mainly cause a friend told me I should go out with this guy she knows about but I'm still not over skater boy so I don't know.

Booklover_90 · Answer

Maybe you don’t want to date right now. Plain and simple. Don’t force it. 😊

stratford · Answer

Unfortunately, the brain in my pants doesn't allow that.

Rickyboy100 · Answer

Yes! If I had some and it failed of the same reason I am fed up and it will last a couple of month if I try again. If you want to know the reason pm me..

Likes2drive · Answer

Yeah a few times after having no luck for so long, at least you get asked out, guys don’t

LiamJHayden · Answer

Not yet, but I have lost interest in certain women.

DreamLife7 · Answer

No, as long as the man is normal, intelligent, wealthy, and attractive I'm fine with dating.

Darkest-Knight · Answer

Haven't been on a date in over 33 years, and couldn't care less about going on one.

grega239 · Answer

Happened a few years ago. can't be bothered

Guido · Answer

When I got divorced there was a period of time, I wanted nothing to do with women.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah I have lost it in the past years, women tend to bore me, few of them really try to connect on a soul level and seek a genuine connection, even my passion and desire are so dim

TadBehaya · Answer

Lost it since my last break up last year.

Anonymous · Answer

Once I worked out I was asexual and aromantic, I've had no interest

Lumineux · Answer

Not completely? but I've had moments where it seems like too much

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

BECAUSE YOU THINK YOU'RE TO GOOD FOR HIM

strateguy632 · Answer

not yet, fortunately

Nikki1989 · Answer

No, dating is so much fun.

kevypatyy7 · Answer

Having confused feelings, yeah I have ever,

EmpressAJ · Answer

Yes and it’ll be a while before I regain interest

OddBeMe · Answer

I’ll ask the wife.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Absolutely, I am there now.

kingmaker21 · Answer

Sign of you're getting mature & older.

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

Yup. Sure have.

Ressykevin · Answer

No, I have never lost interest in dating

justabuddy · Answer

Several times infact.

wiltingrosepetal · Answer

Nope

elizamichale1 · Answer

Nops never

butterly248 · Answer

Yeah

Anonymous · Answer

its hard so I don't bother

serious_miss419 · Answer

Yes.

boobliker · Answer

yep!

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