Have you ever lost interest in dating?

[Flower7]

Yes

No

I feel that way right now.

[shaysh87]

I've lost interest because no man has ever caught my interest. They're all boring, uncharismatic (especially since this generation has seen a huge deterioration in social skills due to all the texting / social media).

And when a guy does catch my interest, he's old, divorced, with two kids. Or he has issues and doesn't like me back. OR old, unattractive, married with kids. I'm looking for a guy thats not too much older, has the right personality / character. . Apparently its almost impossible to find.

[Flower7]

I agree that most guys are very boring with no conversation skills!

[Rohan-Thanekar]

Hey @shaysh87 can you please help me out with my issue privately. I think you have proper knowledge about it

[RebeccaBI2000]

I did for a period of time. When one guy pisses you off, it sometimes turns you off. I felt like it was time to focus on myself.

[lightbulb27]

yes a few times, mainly early life, but after dating, online dating, etc... I just went and lived life and kept busy living life for years when I was in 20's... and ignored my issues until they came up again. In hindsight... rest and regrouping is ok, but if things aren't going well... gotta do some work, discovery on the self. Ignoring challenges is not a solution to anything.

You can't turn off the hormones (so easily) and you can't deny your desire for love and connection, security, etc..

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes, I've been like that since I turned age 36 so you figure 18 years now

[Flower7]

Why did you lose interest?

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

@Flower7 Yes, I lost interest cause I live under stress and just can't get things together

[Flower7]

Very understandable. It’s very hard to have a relationship in the middle of chaos!

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

@Flower7 Yep thanks for your kindness well appreciated

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Thanks for Most Helpful Guy :)

[kitty71]

Exactly like me I lost total interest many many years ago and now I dont even want to date anyone or even get laid for the same reason.

[Desconhecida]

Oh, yes. I think most of us already have in a certain point.

[sage2021]

There was a time in my life when I promised myself to not date at all for one year. I spent my time with just my son and myself and a few friends. It was really liberating to not even think about going through the whole thing, especially going on a date and seeing if he calls after that date. It was always some stupid game and I didn't want to play.

[Flower7]

Taking a year off seems like a very peaceful thing to do!

[Chlo3_2001]

Yep. I'm done. With it all. Plus, I think going to therapy, my job, advancing my career and studies are better for me right now. I know I'm young but I owe any future partner that I'm In good health and can commit and be happy with them. Otherwise, if you don't set yourself up right and enter a relationship expecting it to work out you can't be surprised when it doesn't. I also tend to just get drawn to crappy guys and genuinely, I'm over it.

[Flower7]

I am drawn to crappy guys also lol.

[Chlo3_2001]

Hugs ❤

[honeynut-scenarios]

I used to be the person that always felt the need to be ‘talking’ to, or dating someone. I would say, “my heart is far too big not to share.” But relationships take work, and this past one has been exhausting to say the least. Over the last couple of months, I’ve realized no love a man could ever give would feel even remotely close to the love I can provide for myself. For that reason, I’m not interested in dating at this time.

[captain_voidwalker]

I lost interest at around age 26. I think I just looked around and realized I worked very hard for the things i have and a woman would just be to large of a risk. I run a business and have employees so a divorce would basically not only wreck my life but thiers as well.

[Flower7]

You don’t think you could just date without getting married?

[captain_voidwalker]

What would be the point

[Flower7]

It would be a relationship without the risk of financial loss.

[captain_voidwalker]

Not necessarily all it would take is one broken condom and boom trapped in 18 years of baby jail

[Flower7]

Oh yeah, that’s true also.

[HighlyVolatile]

Oddly it's when I did that I found my wife. But I wasn't so interested in dating her, and I think she was at the same stage. Lots of work for little reward, you know. Screw that, I'm down for good times with friends. But as we became closer and closer, I was like maybe it's worth the work for her. Plus I wanted to see what she had under those clothes.

[CurlyGirl42]

yes, most of the time I don't feel like dating, and then the interest occasionally pops up. Now it is more than half a year since I had any desire for it.

[Flower7]

I feel exactly the same! The interest sometimes comes back randomly. But overall, my heart isn’t in it.

[exitseven]

One year I had a whole string of bad relationships. One night I got fed up with a girl I was dating and decided I was going to give up on girl for a while, maybe forever. I met my future wife the very next day.

[Flower7]

It often seems to happen that way, that as soon as a person gives up, that’s when they find someone!

[DonkeyDan]

Yes, after my divorce I dated for a little bit and then decided that I just didn't want to date anymore, I just wasn't interested in a relationship with anyone.

[Flower7]

So you’ve stayed single ever since then?

[DonkeyDan]

Sort of yes, I've not actually been in a relationship for abiut 3½ year now, i see girls casually and I have a regular friends with benefits vut we are definitely not in a relationship, maybe in the future. I honestly can't be doing with the whole dating thing.

[gfedcba]

More the other way around, when I was younger I had plenty of situational opportunity, but lacked social skills. Now I have plenty of social skills, but circumstance, fate, whatever you call it, puts one obstacle after another in my way to make success incredibly difficult... I'd say it dating was never interested in me as conditions rarely allowed for it.

[bubbles08]

I’m in my 20s men still just want sex right now


I’m going to use my 20s to talk to guys but not date them.


Focus on yourself lol 😂

[Flower7]

Men only wanting sex doesn’t change with age, just FYI !

[bubbles08]

Lmaoo trueeee

They aren’t looking to settle down in their 20s or ever LOL

[Flower7]

Yes trust me…I’m 36 and most guys my age still say they’re not looking for anything serious.

[bubbles08]

Omg I don't know what’s wrong with men.. it’s so unfair that we can never get what we want

[Phoenix-gb]

I'm in that middle bit like some other commenters. I want to find someone and do all the dating stuff, but rejection is making me question whether it's all worth it given the rock bottom confidence and self esteem it's leaving me with.

[JustiReno]

Try Columbia bro you’re hella rich and hella handsome there 😉

[ArrowheadSW]

There have been times that I have "taken a break" from it. I clicked "No" but right now I've got a bit much on my plate and I don't want to be involved with dating at the moment, although I'm still somewhat interested in it.

[melanieeeB]

Yeah, currently I'm not dating, not planning on dating and etc


I actually stopped actively dating like 3 years ago, still developed a relationship last year but I will say he was a biiiig exception

[Nobefore]

Yes, I don't have any interest in for more than ten years. I don't stress about it. when times come it happens. Enjoying life does not need to require dating.

[RobT312]

Yeah. In my early 20’s I had a series of bad girlfriends and dates... I kinda took a little time off dating and had some one night stands and it made me appreciate dating again

[Jamie05rhs]

Yes. I was just on Okcupid earlier and I think I swiped left on 20 people in a row. After that I was just like "fuck it" and I logged out.

[JSmuve]

I know that experience! Then the ones you do swipe right on, nothing.

[Jamie05rhs]

@JSmuve Right

[Jamie05rhs]

What's frustrating is the 1 in 100 who I actually do swipe right on probably has no idea that she's special. She probably thinks I'm swiping right on dozens of other women, when that's not the case at all.

[JustiReno]

I tried Tinder for awhile honestly my profile sucked so bad but I only got big girls TS and a couple flakes was pretty down. Tinder can be better in different countries tho you could try Columbia, Thailand, Philippines, Argentina all pretty far away and LDR are tough but this could be an option for some

[Jamie05rhs]

@JustiReno Thanks, man. Yeah, I actually get a lot of interest from Filipina chicks, but unfortunately I'm just not that attracted to them. Malaysians and Indonesians are cuter, in my opinion, but they're just so far away. It doesn't seem feasible.

Honestly, South American women are extremely attractive to me. My problem is I keep getting matched with Brazilians, and they don't speak Spanish- lol.

I'd love to meet an American girl, but they just seem to be sorely lacking in moral values.

[JustiReno]

Yeah man honestly it will be tough expect a tough 2 years if it even works out but it’s so worth it to expand your dating pool in this way. Think I’m high school you mostly stick to your own school and branch out to your town, college you meet a lot of people, but after this going international best way to expand your dating pool in my opinion

[Jamie05rhs]

@JustiReno. Yeah. Thanks, bro.

[TexasRed95]

I have only had one date but the constant rejection is enough to wear you out.

[Flower7]

Yes, rejection is extremely discouraging!

[ChiTown33]

Yes and no. I haven't lost interest in it so much as I have no interest in pursuing anymore. If she wants to ask me out fine. Otherwise I'm quite content to live my life. 🙂

[cryscrys1]

Yes since my early 20s
I am a sexy observer and a self lover
Thanks