"When you're young you live quickly. However, at some point as I see it, you may fall into a kind of cycle where you realise how serious things may be to you and maybe you need more time for feelings. You may experience something similar to others (does others mean me?). And this in return may motivate you to seek real stability."
My message to him prior to that was something along the lines of "Yes some part of you may die but that doesn't mean you can't bring that part of you back to life by healing. Maybe you stop having high expectations in certain situations and I too struggle with that. But you don't have to be lonely with that, there's always people who understand"
This all started by the way when he started talking about the mental abusive he suffered from his ex and I tried to tell him some kind words. But his last message was really hard for me to understand in any different way other than that it sounds like complete rejection to me lol? Like he noticed I want to help him maybe but when I said I struggle as well he thought "how is this girl gonna help me when she can't even help herself"
I'm scared he rejected me π Yes I asked him to elaborate but he's at work rn. Help
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Interesting wording, presuming that's a direct quote.
He's sacrificing his happiness with you because he fears you will find more happiness and stability with another person.
As an outsider you two are trying to play healer and hero - it doesn't work. It only results in one or both being burnt out and resentful.
So he ether needs to pull the sword out of his aaa and embrace life's possibilities - both risks and rewards, especially with someone. Alternatively you two could go solo or travel just as friends.
Wait so in your opinion it's the opposite of rejection? Because that's what it sounded like to me 100%. He was talking about himself in his message, I had to translate it to English we're both german so maybe it reads different. I must have re read it like 30 times lmao. So far we're just talking. I hope you're right though
Sounds like he's rejecting the idea of "himself being with you".
But why? It just all comes down to me thinking he just may not want me. He messaged me first 3 weeks ago though and last week he even made plans to meet in like 2 weeks
Because he hates himself more
How old is he and why do you do this to yourself?
He's 25 I'm 21
He sounds older which is troubling. Means heβs experienced manipulating girls.
Just leave.
Basically yes