Guys, I blew him off twice. do you think he’s close to giving up?

[DreamCrescent]

we only went out on two dates. but he texts and sends voice memos or we talk on the phone for hours. he’s really wonderful to talk to but i’m not attracted to him romantically. i don’t want to have to deal with friendzoning him or letting him down easy. i just hope he loses interest

thw problem is after our second date, he called me a “sleeper” and sent multiple about how he appreciated my curves and ass. so i know he’s attracted to me.

he invited me to NYE party but i was jet lagged so that was a good excuse. today he waited till i almost finished at work and texted asking if he should choose a place and i pretended i needed to work late. i was hoping he’d be upset but he just said “it’s okay you were upfront with me so no worries”

will he eventually give up?

[OlderAndWiser]

Problem here is you went on one date, you knew you weren't attracted to him, and you accepted a second date. So you used him for a free meal?

Do you think you are a better person because you are not being honest with him?

This is the behavior that gives dating a bad name.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

The heart wants what the heart wants & as for you if you are not interested him I think you should be open & honest with him & tell him & do him a favor. You lead the guy on & after two dates & free meals you should be ashamed of yourself.

Do him a favor & tell him so he can find someone much better.

[Bendi21]

Just tell him as soon as possible. When I had a girl I used to sexchat and talk with a lot and I confessed my love to her she started lying that she is busy and started leaving me on unread all the time then she eventually ghosted me while she was keep giving me hope. I don't wish this to anyone.

[DreamCrescent]

thanks for the advise. I’m sorry you went through that. sometimes it’s easier to hurt someone than confront them. i know it sucks

[nexiside]

Exactly, don't hurt people just for your sakes. Think how it would feel if reversed. Just tell him ASAP it's over

[ShadezMcgee]

Jesus, just tell him you aren't interested in him like that. You are doing him and yourself no favors by avoiding it. Plus, it is rude and passive aggressive with what you are doing.

Have some accountability

[spartan55]

Just tell him, how is that so hard? You stringing him along is worse than whatever you think will happen by just being honest.

[spartan55]

Seriously, you have no business dating if this is how you handle your affairs.

[DarkWinterNights]

Why are you playing games with him? Just tell him you just aren’t feeling the same way about him and let him move on to other women.

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

Clean cut heels quickly. A jagged wound does not

[iFarted]

Heals* Almost had it there buddy, almost...

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

@iFarted oooh, good catch!

[Ironic_Method]

Stop being a child and just tell him. I don't understand how people think that leading someone on is a good thing.

[Paul09]

You're a grown a$$ adult. Own it. Tell him. Before you cause unneeded drama. Can't always sit there looking pretty and waiting for everything to happen.

[Staximus]

Stop with the bullshit and just tell him you're not interested. Get it done and over with already.

[Pete671]

No he seems really keen tbh, maybe just see him to give him a blowjob if you enjoyed doing so?

[Jamie05rhs]

Stop lying to the man and just tell him what's up. You're going to ruin him for all other women.

[iFarted]

Just be up front and tell him you're not feeling him that way... wth?

[Billlewis]

I think he's getting there... lol.

[Danny_dan92]

You’re sending mixed signals

[DreamCrescent]

i know :( i’m trying not to be brutal about it. he hasn’t done anything wrong. he’s actually a sweet person and i don’t want to have to deal with saying no thank you to him. i want him to lose interest

[Danny_dan92]

Be brutal

[Billlewis]

I agree with Danny -- be brutal as hell because deep down, that's what he wants you to be.

[DreamCrescent]

shit 😖 okay

if i can’t do that tho, what would it take for him to lose interest

[Danny_dan92]

Stop talking to him.

He thinks you’re interested in him cause you’re engaging with him and you haven’t made it abundantly clear you do not see yourself dating him. Because he’s interested in you, and knowing what girls typically do with guys they aren’t interested in. It’s why he thinks he has a chance

[DreamCrescent]

@Billlewis i mean it’s kinda easy for you to say, isn’t it? ugh i don’t want to be mean, he’s a nice person. i just don’t want to take another step in a relationship with him because he’s not my guy.

if i say that, you know guys get defensive and all like you didn’t give this a chance how do you know or you haven’t gotten to know the real me yet. i just don’t want to have to handle the defensiveness

[Billlewis]

If I may ask, how old is he, and has he lost his virginity? If so, then he'll probably be able to handle some meanness.

[Danny_dan92]

End of the day this is why girls should never have friendships with heterosexual males. And the same thing goes for the other way around.

Cause if one has feelings for the other and it it isn’t mutual? It’s all bad

[DreamCrescent]

ummmm i wasn’t looking for a friend anyways. we met on a dating app

i couldn’t care less if we were friends or not. just don’t want to continue dating him even tho he didn’t technically do anything wrong

[DreamCrescent]

@Billlewis what’s virginity have to do with it? are you trying to be perverted? like how young would a guy be that I’m dating?

he’s 43

[Danny_dan92]

You met on a dating app, don’t want to be with him. Yet you’re talking to him and spending time with him….

Really

[Billlewis]

Being rejected is typically harder for younger guys and guys who are still virgins.

[Anonymous]

I would have given up after the first time.