Is bringing a girl flowers on a first date way too old fashioned?

[Anonymous]

[SeymourBill420]

It's quite pointless. It is quite old-fashioned. But it's definitely very pointless. Because, you spend all these money on these flowers, that only last 3 days. And she's more beautiful than the flowers are. So, I usually would rather tell her and then show her how beautiful she is versus give her something that is less beautiful and more very expensive and considering flowers you buy in a flower shop don't last long at all. So, I would hope it's old-fashioned and I would hope that women would be more smarter nowadays and not want somebody to waste money on that kind of crap when you shouldn't really need to have to buy gifts in order to impress somebody. And if she doesn't like you for you, then you just wasted all that money on flowers. And, if you don't get her flowers then she wasn't serious at all if she doesn't want to pursue further since she didn't get flowers because Flower giving is more like trying to bribe somebody to be with you. I would rather have somebody like me for me. And then it doesn't matter about the flowers

[OlderAndWiser]

In my experience, most women think that a guy who makes that much effort on a first date is trying too hard, is desperate, overcompensating, etc. And, of course, red roses would only magnify this perception.

When I was dating, I often brought a lady a single white rose on a first date. I explained that, in the traditional color code of roses, a white rose symbolizes new beginnings. To the best of my knowledge, I never had a woman react negatively to that.

[Asker]

I think they were probably more impressed that you thought about it "that deeply."

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Not at all, cute German guy I dated in February, went out to bring me flowers from the little flower shop, on a first meeting.

I thought it was very cute.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

It definitely made me more willing to say “yes” to go on a 2nd date.

[Rizzlekicked]

No I think it is beautiful and so sweet! What a momento to remember the date by! Defo earn points!!!

[AviatorTom]

Not at all. I brought flowers on several first dates. The lady always appreciated them.

[Asker]

If a guy brought me flowers, I would think it would be absolutely rude to throw a fit about them. Obviously if you are allergic, it's best to let them know, but otherwise, just be grateful for the gesture even if you hate them and maybe on down the road when you know them a bit bitter, let them know, but day 1, just say thanks.

[Lliam]

If it's a first date, I don't even know how well we'll hit it off. A first date is for getting to know each other. I'll pay for the date for sure and I hope we have a nice time. But I think it would look look overly desperate or like simping to show up with flowers on the first date to meet a virtual stranger. I was never into wearing a suit and tie like we were going to the prom, either.

If we hit it off and schedule a second date, I might surprise her with a flower or small bouquet that time to show how much I like her and hope to continue our relationship. But I wouldn't want her to expect flowers on every date, so I don't know.

Of course, I was dating before SnapChat or whatever and didn't spend months texting and chatting before a woman would consent to meeting in person. I would meet her and ask her out. She would accept. And the date was when we got to know each other. A lot of dates went well, but sometimes we just didn't click.

[Asker]

That sounds perfectly reasonable. I personally don't think if someone brought me flowers date one, I'd just assume he's going to bring flowers every date, that seems a bit presumptuous to me and that to me would be super over the top for getting to just know someone.

[FunkyMonkee]

I don't even know what girls see in flowers. Okay, they look and smell nice for a day or three and then they wither and die. What thrill do you get from a gift that will be dead in 3 or 4 days? $10 or $20 for a bunch of flowers and they get thrown in the garbage a couple days later! I could've used that money at the roulette wheel and possibly won a fortune. I think that, instead of blowing all that cash on flowers, a guy should take his girl to the casino and make a few bets with that money. If she loses, nobody's out anything because you were gonna blow the cash on potential dead flowers, anyway but, if she wins, great!! Now, SHE can take ME out to dinner! But, seriously, wouldn't you rather have the cash than the flowers?

[wiltingrosepetal]

Eh you could say the same thing about balloons. They'll deflate or pop within a week. The bright colours spark up the room and add more decorative flair. And besides, the whole flower gesture is supposed to imply gentility. A guy picking up the prettiest flowers to make a good impression is as far away from the aggressive side of masculinity that you can get. It's the same reason we love to see a man hugging a dog. If he's willing to do something gently, he'll treat her gently.

Let's just say, gambling on day 1 wouldn't yield as positive of results. I'd think he had a serious addiction 😭

[Asker]

I would think you had a gambling problem if on a first date, you took me to a casino to gamble.

[FunkyMonkee]

@wiltingrosepetal I've only ever been to a casino once in my life about 5 years ago. No addiction here. I'd just rather do something constructive with the money. I'm not even all that interested in money. If I was Elon rich, I'd give loads of it away to others that really need it.

[FunkyMonkee]

@wiltingrosepetal Oh, and, I hug my dogs! Even dogs that I've never seen before take one look at me and fall in love! They just know that I'm the kind of guy that'd treat them well. Too bad women don't have that ability! The only thing that attracts them is dollar signs!

[wiltingrosepetal]

yay another man that thinks all women want is money. woohoo

[FunkyMonkee]

@wiltingrosepetal It's what they nearly all say! My ex-fiance cheated on me because I wasn't making enough money as he was. At least I WORKED for MY money!! He sifted through peoples' garbage and brought some of it home and made really stupid art out of it and took pictures of this junk and sold it to magazines!

[Asker]

Women aren't all gold diggers. Maybe just the ones you associate with. There is a VAST difference between women saying that they want finical stability in a partner, aka, we don't want to struggle every single week to pay the bills, and just using a guy for gifts, food, etc. Also take some accountability---you have the wallet, stop paying if you feel like you're getting used because if you keep doing it, that's on you or you're after sex like a lot of guys that keep gold diggers around.

[FunkyMonkee]

She wasn't when I first met her. She had loads of her own money, her dad was a famous author in India, he brother works at an airport and made lots of cash, they were both always trying to send her a thousand dollars and she kept sending it back.
I've never been interested in money and I was interested in her only for HER. She never asked me how much I made and I never asked her how much she made. I didn't pay her way all the time, she would either go Dutch or pay my way sometimes. Shortly after we started seeing each other, I had two or three jobs and the band.

[robhazelnut]

If they had talked for a while beforehand and already started to get to know each other that way, then it's not much of a gamble getting her flowers on the first date. If they're from his own garden, that's a way to show off that he can grow things.

Additional thought: That said, I'd rather give a potted flower for any sort of gift so that it lives unharmed.

[jamesgoldman]

I don't think so but equally I don't know hayfever and a steamy chip shop led me to chocolate because you can put that in the fridge at least

Now I'd pluck for jewellery, I have a little silver heart on a chain that I paid less than a bar of chocolate for if I ever tangle with dating again

[Joshydavid25]

I would do it.. But only if I knew the girl for a while and finally asked her out on a date.. That's more of a romantic gesture, and nowadays people are a bit too casual in dating for it especially around the first one.. So, it's probably a bit extra.

[RebelinSteel]

First date yes, where do you put them, you need to carry them around, first date include a movie, a bunch of flowers will not be useful lol. Also pointless cash for a first date, as you may not like them.

[KEN5846]

No women love the smell of flowers. Most women love nature. My mother would always would be in her garden planting flowers and watching animals play. Nothing is to old. It's a better option to use flowers then chocolate. Flowers they can actually try to keep but most the time they will die after a while but still meaningful to women.

[kevypatyy7]

I totally agree with that.

[NamerOfStars]

No- but given that she may have a dislike for that flower (which would be unfortunate) or even an allergy (which could be catastrophic), it's a little bit risky if you don't know her that well.

[systemsareyo]

So cringe. I've never liked giving flowers or receiving flowers. Only time I'd even ever give flowers to someone is if they really insisted it like it's a hospital or funeral. I am just not a flowers believer.

[Staximus]

Sounds like you should only go out with dudes

[systemsareyo]

Out with nobody thankfully 😎

[ScienceThumper]

Maybe you are just an efficient person who doesn't like to spend money that doesn't bring you money in return. You are a skilled investor.

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[ScienceThumper]

Fuck.
Emojies*

[BoopBoopBeep]

I've given flowers from my garden or when I had trail runs I'd pick a single wild flower to take. That always went over well.

[Lionman95]

Maybe I think the problem is that guys don't know they should or guys underestimate the impact flowers would have.

[KittyKat90210]

I think it's sweet. I'd like to get flowers on a first date :)

[IslaTheWitch]

I like flowers. I also don't make assumptions. In general, I don't mind.

[Anonymous]

So cute!!! One time a guy got me a box of chocolates & wrote a small letter ON OUR FIRST DATE! I literally have his paper till this day (its been 4 years already!)

[EmmaMary]

I've always considered it to be a lovely gesture.

[rosemilk]

kinda weird if you don't really know the person.

[ArrowheadSW]

In my opinion, it would probably make the lady uncomfortable. Seems a bit too serious.

[Wraith_Cemetery]

Girls constantly complain that the guy isn't serious enough. But bringing flowers is "too serious"?

[Minahh]

No. It shows he values her. These woman are being so nonchalant and then get pissed why they're not treated right. Because they accept poor behavior.

[MissBoogus]

My boyfriend brought me flowers, chocolates and jewelry it was so nice. He was going to get coffees too but couldn’t hold it all lol

[Asker]

Wow, he did all that for a first date???

[MissBoogus]

We had been talking online for a few months first but yeah