Let's talk about the double standard (no the other one!): why do guys date girls 10-15 years younger but girls don't date guys 10-15 years younger?

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Why do guys date girls 10-15 years younger but girls don't date guys 10-15 years younger (generally speaking of course)

SeymourBill420 · Accepted Answer

My reasonings for dating somebody that would be 10 or 15 years younger than me would be because mentally she is more funner and not dried up like older women are. And she has a number of years left where she is going to be fun. And I can make her feel younger in the mind the body of the spirit and the soul and have longer time to do that versus somebody my age (mid 40s) and dating a woman my age or older. Because if they're in their mid-40s and they're single at that point, and especially if they've have multiple husbands, there's definitely a reason why they have multiple husbands. They probably haven't learned anything in quite a number of years. So, I'm not looking to play Rusty Dusty old games with somebody I'm looking to love somebody and enjoy the rest of my life with somebody. I don't want somebody that you're going to have to tell that they do this wrong and then they do the opposite.
But, a girl 10 or 15 years younger than me would maybe have a handful of relationships in that time, maybe one marriage at most. But, it's not repeated infractions. Because if you have two three ex-husbands, then really you're not relationship material because you have abandoned somebody. So, that shows that you can't be trusted.
And, another reason why I would not want the data woman about my age is because most likely she would have kids at that point from her previous rejected relationship, because the woman always wants to keep the man's kids. And then, they're going to get in the way of our relationship. I'm like never going to see my girlfriend at that point. So, a girl 10 to 15 years younger than me might not have a kid, and there's a better chance at the kid lives with the baby daddy. But, I wouldn't even want to get into situation with kids regardless. Especially if he's a jealous baby daddy. But, if he's jealous, then she's the one that hurt him. If he doesn't give a fuck, then he was the one to hurt her, but, it also could be a red flag too that she's got some issues. But, they're definitely would have to be a conversation about why her and her exes have broken up. Because, I'm not going to want to get into a relationship with somebody that doesn't understand what happened or thinks something different happened than what actually happened.
And girls 10 to 15 years later or usually a lot better in the bedroom. Older girls when they get to a certain age all they really do is just lie there and provide a warm wet hole and don't move much. And sometimes you can't look at their face. Women don't have that problem they can look at an ugly man's face anytime in any day.

But, the mid 40 year old women are usually pretty grumpy bumpy, and I don't want to be with somebody that's grumpy bumpy. That's a reason why you're singles when you're grumpy bumpy. Exact thing what happened to my wife.

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

There is a dominant submissive dynamic between men and women. Men generally prefer smaller, shorter, weaker, and younger women. And women generally prefer bigger, taller, stronger, and older men.

Females want a man to look up to and provide and protect. And psychologically, they don't associate younger men with those traits. There is also raising kids that comes into play. If the man doesn't have those desired traits, in their eyes he's deemed as not a good father figure. They also generally prefer dominant men in the bedroom.

Men on the other hand, don't care about women with the ability to provide or protect. We are attracted to traits that are associated with fertility. Youth, skin, proportions... beauty in general. All a man cares about is physical attraction and personality. It's not to say that older women can't be physically attractive, but older women tend to be less fit, care less about their appearance, have sagging skin and cellulite, and many don't want or are past the age where they can have kids. Men also prefer to dominate women in bed, being able to toss them around and physically manipulate them. We prefer women that we can give experiences to rather than women that already have a ton of experiences.

This is just the dynamic of men and women and it will not likely change any time soon. We are biologically attracted to those traits.

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

I dont want someone that old. I prefer someone close in age 0-4 years. And i’d likely date someone 4 years younger before i dated someone 4 years older

Apple1996 · Accepted Answer

I've been noticing a lot more women dating younger men. I wouldn't be surprised if in about 10 years that its the new normal

ManOnFire · Answer

A lot of men like the novelty of having a younger woman, but I am not one of them. A lot of women believe that men 10 - 15 years younger than them are less mature, so they don't often date them unless they're women in their 40s or 50s who just don't care anymore. I always go for older, and you should too.

Avicenna · Answer

Most of the time guys don't date women 10-15 years younger than them. I have found that some women do prefer dating older guys as long as they are in good physical shape.

A woman has to take care of herself really well to date a guy that much younger than her, especially once she is older than 45.

AviatorTom · Answer

I think you have it backwards. Women who date guys 10-15 years younger are called Cougars. There is no such term for a man who dates women 10-15 years younger.

HighValue · Answer

Men want someone young enough to still have healthy kids and that hasn't damaged herself too much yet from bad life decisions.

Women often want someone older that has a more mature/manly looking face, is stronger, more intelligent, is a better leader, etc.

Darklydarkened · Answer

Because if a girl is about 25, 15 years younger is basically 10 And when a woman hits around 40, why would 15 years younger guys wanna be with them?

linksdeath · Answer

this is complete bullshit i am only looking at girls that are 10+ 20+ 30+ my age because girls my age or younger are giving me no play. in fact i had a few girls get mad and punish me for trying to talk to them because i wasn't attractive enough or young enough to talk to them!!!

Rizzlekicked · Answer

I think it's because women in general are judged more harshly in society in comparison to men

Anonymous · Answer

Women tend to value what kind of material value a man brings to a relationship, which most younger men do not have, while men tend to value the appearance and beauty that younger women have. It’s shallow but it’s reality.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Most men don't grow up will they reach 30 or older. No one with half a brain needs that in their life.

zagor · Answer

Usually girls prefer a more mature guy, but a lot of women do date younger. My sister dated a 21 y. o. when she was in her 30's. Both her husbands were younger than her. Yet she gives me shit for going for younger women.

The_Canddyman · Answer

Men have more value and appealing traits as they get older. Women have more value and more appealing traits when they are younger.

Obviously this only stands for the part of society that actually does this 10 to 15 year age gap. I remember Last time I was in the dating game I wouldn't go down to far because the next generation isn't appealing to me.

RedInnocent68 · Answer

Because girls want stability. Guys just want sex. Some alpha females act more like guys because it’s too difficult to find equal partners and default to just wanting sex.

Berethor · Answer

Woman's fertility is falling fast, also men looking for looks, women looking for money.

DextroShade · Answer

Men are attracted to innocence, beauty, and fertility which younger women have more of while women are attracted to money, status, and competence which older men have more of.

Anonymous · Answer

Women deep down whether they verbally admit it or not want to be led by the guy they're with (she still wants to feel like an equal, just be led) It's not as confusing as it might sound. Remember we're talking about women here.😆

Well if the guy is that much older she surmised he's probably more mature (also not always true). So it increases the likelihood she's got daddy issues. Especially with the epidemic of single mothers raising daughters

Anonymous · Answer

The things that make a woman valueable to a man are at their peak in her early 20s and decline from that age forward. Conversely, the things that make a man valueable to a woman only begin manifesting in his late 20s or early 30s and continue to increase for a long time after that. It's just human nature.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Girls like `em older, guys like `em younger! See how great that works out?

sheikalana · Answer

Men tend to be more immature and childish the younger they are.

sweetart1 · Answer

Because men don’t mature until they are older. Plain and simple.

Twalli · Answer

Because historically guys provided and girls reproduced.

slatyb · Answer

Because women's fertility ends before men's does.

Yoursweetgirl · Answer

Who told you they don't? They do 😂😂😂

Anonymous · Answer

Most guys are creepy

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Daddy issues?

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