If a man should provide for the woman, what should she do in return?

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rigmarole · Accepted Answer

The world never worked that way. Men and women both use to work extremely hard on homesteads. After property taxes and income taxes were imposed on land, people had to find income to pay the tax which often resulted in men leaving the homestead for a period to do a job to earn cash to pay tax and keep the farm. Women were still doing hard labor to keep the farm working when they left for work. Advances in technology innovated by men made certain household tasks easier for women for a period of time via washing machines and driers for clothing, dishwashers for the kitchen, refrigerators to keep food fresh so that you didn't have to can as often, electric vacuum cleaners so make sweeping go faster, etc. These technological leaps made house life easy for a brief time so the myth that women got to just stay home and be provided for arose. Yet at the same time inflation began to rise and as a result women had to enter the work force. Now a family really can't even be considered middle class unless you have two college educated adults working full time jobs because currency has been devalued and no major technological leaps have occurred. You want to live in a Hollywood movie fantasy land that never really happened.

ChiTown33 · Accepted Answer

If the relationship is transactional that is not a healthy relationship. If a man and a woman love eachother generally he wants to take care of her (I hate the word provide. It sounds so transactional) but the guy wants her to be happy when he truly loves her. And generally speaking she wants to make him happy in return. This is why it's important to know who your partner is. It's not just about falling in love. It's about being present and staying in love. Remembering WHY you love that person. This is why a lot of relationships fail. Because whether you're together for 5 weeks or 50 years. You'll always be two different people. You always have your own drivers and motivations and so many things in this world will impede on your time with that person jobs, kids, social commitments. That's why it's always important to make time for eachother and keep feeding that fire.

Good relationships don't just happen. They take effort on both persons part. One person cannot sustain a relationship.

Ms_Facesitter · Accepted Answer

I'll give you at least five points you can do, there are more

Make him feel at home. When he's coming back from work, hug him, ask him how his day is. Get everything ready so he can just relax right away.

Get to know him, to really know him. If you've been here for some time you notice how many times one gender doesn't understand the other and instead of listening, a lot choose to just argue. Be patient and try to understand him, not men, just him, understand your man.

Make him food. Comes with the make him feel at home thing. Have a warm meal ready for him. And if he's already home, maybe make him a snack. Or make him a snack for him to take with him to work.

Submit to him. It doesn't mean that you have to do everything he says, but let him take the lead. If he's a good man, he'll look out for the both of you.

As my username suggests, of course I have to add something sexual! Lust for him, make him lust for you more. Drain that man. Take his soul.

And let an extra little one, just let him now how much you love him, how much you appreciate him.

Bella2423 · Accepted Answer

Preparing food, taking care of kids, keeping the house clean…. etc. She must try to create a good environment for him at home, so he can focus on his job and because he is protecting her from a brutal world out there.

dynamicyandere · Answer

For me, as someone who  does  fully support my significant other financially, I’d say emotional support, companionship, love, connection, intimacy, peace of mind, and just really help me recover and recharge from a hard work day or work week — creating an environment where I can de-stress and relax.

Summeroflove · Answer

It depends on what both people want. If you mean financially. She needs to be loyal, supportive, nurturing, emotionally, physically, mentally, taking care of the housework if she’s not working then she should take care of all the household needs.

Some housewives and stay at home moms. Just have this fantasy where the man works hard and she gives nothing in return. That will end in misery.

AviatorTom · Answer

It's a partnership. She should take care of the things that he doesn't. In the traditional family, that includes caring for the home, children, food, etc. In the modern home, it includes whatever the couple decides to share.

Avicenna · Answer

Well, that's isn't really how the world works anymore in most places, but she should take care of the family in return.

VanillaSalt · Answer

If you perform a service you expect to be fairly compensated for it. Everything has two values… What the seller think it’s worth and what buyers are willing to pay for it.

If a man provides you with a service like provisions then you and him already have a determined set value for that service. Now you compensate him back with something of of value that is as close to the same value as what both you and him see it. For example if a man give you something you think is worth $10 and he thinks is worth $20 then you have a decision to make. Do you meet what he thinks he’s put in or what you think he’s put in? If you don’t give him is $20 worth in value in return he will be less likely to give you anything of value again. You have to find a balance between the value you and him offer and expect.

There are of course other things to consider. Women don’t like to follow but expect men to lead. I’m not saying you gotta be in his shadow all the time but if you want a leader you gotta let him lead. If a man’s providing protection then doing what you want without regard to his feelings makes it harder. Do you think fathers and husbands should be able to stop a wife or daughter from dressing too provocatively? He’s expected to protect you but he can’t do that if you are out there screaming I’m an easy lay with your clothing.

MasseurDeMojo · Answer

Men and women provide for each other. That is to say that the mam does work to bring food, clothing, and shelter. He may work from sun up to sun down. While he is away working hard, she is at home using the resources he provides to make the home, work; she is also using her own skills to turn his resources in to further income. A lot of housewives over the years have run a home based business to have a bit more income for their home. They do this in support of their husbands, who are the main bread winners.

What we had in the 60's and 70's was a result of what went on during WWII, when we had women to take over a lot of the hard jobs while the men went to war. After the war was over, a lot of women were very happy to give up those jobs to men, and did not desire to do them again.

Within the last 20 years, women have started back into those jobs to prove a point. Today you find many of them regretting their decision. They want it now to where They can stay at home and work at home, and give to their husband when he is at home after work.

What a woman should give to a man is the same thing a man should give to a woman when they are married. You should both be giving to each other 100 percent!!

Tiptoetamm · Answer

I'd say for one you get at least a part time job for yourself keep you busy and give you extra money for whatever you wanna do. Then he can focus on himself providing for the household. It's not fair to put 100 percent of the responsibility on one person that's just wrong. For me my independence makes it easier for my man to do what he needs to do for himself and whatever he needs to do for us, the household, kids if you have them. List goes on. It's a partnership not one sided never should have been never should be

DJB72 · Answer

He provides a house. She gives him a home.
He provides food. She gives him a meal.
He provides sperm. She gives him a family.

Everything he gives her, she multiplies and gives back. It's the natural order of things.

So if he gives her 💩 he's going to be in real trouble...

Anonymous · Answer

Women and girls are crazy, they follow western extremist feminist thinking and they hate men/guys. That's why I keep hearing emotionally broken women say all guys are the same. Even if a man or guy provided, she has such stupid expectations that can't be met and purposely does this because she thinks she's the best thing on the earth, that's narcissism at its finest. World War 3 is happening ladies, so y'all who followed those stupid ideologies and kept bashing men and hating men, well many men will die serving in war once World War III and in other ways so there ya go.

aceleon · Answer

i don't agree with the man should provide part since providing is not even a masculine trait.

but she can at least do the house chores without guilt tripping him and sometimes the sex could be just about him and not a if you scratch my back i will do yours thing.

MementoMori_ · Answer

Bear his children if he wants them.

Be the primary person who takes care of the kids while he is busy bringing home the bacon.

Be the primary person responsible for taking care of the home related duties like cooking and cleaning to maintain a comfortable home for the family to live in.

Support his work in every way possible as he should support the family and her work in every way possible.

chrissykerdock · Answer

pretty much obey his wishes i did that i was felt ill at ease and felt i had to obey his commands

mobiusforniner · Answer

Why does it always have to be about this for that? Expectations on giving and receiving? Love with conditions isn’t love.

The question should not be, “what can you offer me?” It should be “how much more can I give?”

Simslover92 · Answer

Budgeting the bills, taking care of the household, taking care of the kids, cooking, sex, etc.

synesthesiae · Answer

I think in a relation all each other have to do is love one another that should be the main expectation. The expectation that one person is going to do something for the other is poor place to start a relationship on.. Unless its some kind of understood transactional relationship based on money or sex.

Billlewis · Answer

She owes me nothing, but there are a few things she could do, if she wants, mostly domination and humiliation related.

SixFootSexy · Answer

Good question. Most women have no idea, knowing how to cook is a great start.

systemsareyo · Answer

It's a bit old fashioned. Nowadays all genders earn an income so I don't really see the question as necessary, however I suppose two respecting adults should always treat each other with respect and courtesy.

Anonymous · Answer

If he gives you a house you should give him a home.

Give him a shoulder to lean on.

Make sure the house is clean and there's something to eat even if it isn't home cooked.

Smile, show affection and love. Remind him of why he does what he does.

Apple1996 · Answer

Be able to support him in whatever ways he needs. That might look different for every man

LiamJHayden · Answer

In a traditional family, the husband works outside the home and that work supports the family financial. The wife works at home, raising the children and keeping the home running smoothly. That type of family rarely exists any longer.

MissBoogus · Answer

Keep him and the kids comfortable and happy, provide meals and a clean house. Offer love and support.

RedInnocent68 · Answer

There should be some sort of balance. If he’s the provider, it could be frequent sex.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

Provide mental, emotional, romantic support... And not take half his shit.

normalice · Answer

Remember to say please and thank you before and after daily blowjobs

Nikki1989 · Answer

There should  NEVER  be such rules or boundaries in a relationship.

KostasKouvalis · Answer

Sex, cooking and taking care of the house/kids. Mostly sex. That's how it works in a traditional marriage

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Each person and relationship is different, therefore that's totally up for the man and woman in that relationship to decide on such matters.

sheikalana · Answer

She should make sure he doesn’t have to worry about anything house related.

Guido · Answer

If she stays home and he works and supports her then she takes care of the home and kids and makes sure she keeps him sexually satisfied.

Anonymous · Answer

Give him children and take care of both. Try not to bite the hand that feeds you.

Likes2drive · Answer

Take care of the house and kids if there’s any besides intimacy

Forceinhand · Answer

Keep the home, emotional support, primary food arranger, things like that.

whistlingwh0res · Answer

I think it’s time for everyone knows that we are equal. A woman can be a provider and a man can be receiver vice versa.

grega239 · Answer

Show him that his effort is valuable and appriciated.

sage2021 · Answer

Nothing stopping her from doing the same.

InspireGlow678 · Answer

Nothing, love isn't transactional

Anonymous · Answer

easy, cooking & cleang & sex

Kaamraj · Answer

Care and sexual affection.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Suck his dick until it turns blue

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

Clean, cook and homeschool

smne35 · Answer

You got to ask, you return the love,

Anonymous · Answer

Blowjobs and make sure to swallow. its only fair.

Anonymous · Answer

Be a strong independent woman, you don't need a man!

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

Didn't Proverbs 31 already address this?

blueonblack22 · Answer

Thank you for thinking this way.

Vegasrunner · Answer

Sex, silence and sandwiches.

sheenagwapa · Answer

isn't it the man should be the provider?

roy_ricky09 · Answer

Just be a woman who she's supposed to be

linka_pat307 · Answer

Enjoy the provided things

DarkLegacy · Answer

Be the perfect housewife.

boobliker · Answer

what the other one want to give!

Draxler719 · Answer

Let him suck her tities

Anonymous · Answer

I would NEVER keep a woman.

Tomisworthless · Answer

She just has to bring herself

DreamLife7 · Answer

At 34 are u really asking this?

Chthou95 · Answer

Don't be argumentative is a start

noohair · Answer

Provide what the man needs.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Suck his cock.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Provide for him

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