What does it mean when someone says you’re moving too fast?

[twinson]

I’ve been dating this guy for 1 month, but lately he’s been very distant. He tells me I’m moving too fast. What does he actually mean?

[OlderAndWiser]

I think it usually either that:

1. you are either talking about "us" and your future, as if you are assuming that you will develop a long term relationship, expecting to see him on a regular basis, etc., or

2. you are pushing to advance the level of physical affection being expressed.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Last year I was dating a guy for two months, in these two months, he said: he loved me, he started talking about marriage and he started calling me his girlfriend, all without ever clarifying with me. I felt like he was moving too fast, as I was not ready to be in a relationship at that point…

So, I had to stop dating… Because I didn’t want to lead him on and give false hopes, when I didn’t feel the same way as he did.

[SphynxUK]

You’re probably expecting too much too soon. A month is early days. Worry less about where you’re going in the relationship, and focus on the now and enjoy time spent together.

[AnusNdaPainus]

It’s like sensory overload

lots of people aren’t used to being in relationships and being showered with love and affection

I had this same problem with my girlfriend and I didn’t want to make her feel like I didn’t appreciate her but I just needed time to get used to being treated well by someone who truly cared for me

most people don’t have someone like that

[snowy]

When someone says you're "moving too fast" in a relationship or a similar context, it typically means they feel the pace of the relationship's progression is quicker than they are comfortable with. Here's a breakdown:

Emotional Intimacy: The person might feel that the level of emotional intimacy or the depth of feelings being expressed is too intense or premature.

Physical Intimacy: It could also refer to physical aspects of the relationship. One person might want to slow down the progression of physical intimacy to ensure it's in line with their comfort level and the emotional development of the relationship.

Commitment Level: "Moving too fast" might indicate concerns about the speed at which commitments are being made or discussed, such as exclusivity, moving in together, or plans for the future.

Frequency of Interaction: This phrase can also refer to the amount of time spent together or the frequency of communication. One partner might feel overwhelmed if they are spending a lot of time together very quickly or constantly in communication.

Personal Space and Independence: It may signal a need for more personal space and independence. The person might value maintaining their individual lifestyle, hobbies, and social circles alongside the relationship.

Processing Time: Sometimes, individuals need more time to process their feelings and the development of a relationship, especially if they are cautious about making decisions or have past experiences that make them more guarded.

Expectations and Pace: It often highlights a difference in expectations and desired pace between the two individuals involved. What might feel natural and right for one person could feel rushed for the other.

[molonski2]

It means " slow down " relax , take things as they come don't push , we are a chance but not too quickly , don't push too hard , we are not just " moving in " Sabai Sabai.. Relax , relax.

[Demonatrix]

It means that they are not on the same page as you and you both need to clarify and communicate to understand where the other person is at.

[Joshydavid25]

It means you're going faster than they want to.. You're ready for more when they either aren't or don't know if they want to.. Basically you like them more than they like you.

[EmmaMary]

For fuck's sake Grow Up and start acting your age. smh

[Booklover_90]

Are you bringing up marriage? Your potential future together? Have you told him you love him? If so, it’s probably moving too quickly.

[qtpiee]

Have you been talking about a future down the road or something?

[Twalli]

You are moving the relationship along further than he feels comfortable with at this time. Move it along at a slower pace.

[Bklynbadboy12]

It's self explanatory you want more than he's willing to give right now

[Roudyrebel8]

He either doesn't feel the same way or he's scared

[Anonymous]

What could possibly be confusing about that.

[purplepoppy]

It means you're moving too fast.

[HappyWoman34]

He’s not interested enough to commit.

[rosie95]

It means you are moving too fast!

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Give a slower hand job 😏

[Tomisworthless]

You need to slow down

[Kingofkings1992]

You’re moving too fast

[Anonymous]

Its a sign of desperation.

[Danny_dan92]

Slow down