Im an average looking guy and 5’7 and 19 and still a virgin. I cold approached 15 different girls and all of them rejected me.
Im gonna keep approaching girls, but switch up how i approach them. Im not afraid of rejection, I’m just tired of rejection.
I might start using psychological manipulation on women, as i know a lot on how to influence people.
I just don’t understand how average looking guys are getting girls but I’m not.
I feel bad for your generation , mainly because this society has gone to hell in a hand basket , I blame social media for a lot of it. Most Females today think they were put on Earth to be catered to and most females are sadly drawn to status , if you aren’t good looking or you don’t make a lot of money , you are sadly nothing to them. Most females today are very selfish people, mainly from all the shit they see and read about or hear about from social media and their toxic single girlfriends, that more than likely been around the block a bunch of times. I am not saying Men are any better but most men will not commit to a ‘girl that can not be loyal and honest to him , if he does? , then sadly he is a simp and likes being walked on by girls’. That’s a whole other story. So if you want a girl to be interested in you , you have to either make her laugh or make good money and pretty much have popularity , because most females are drawn to like I said , status. Also don’t fall for a girl that wants to be dominate over you , find a girl that wants to be submissive to you , the second you allow a girl to have dominance over you is the second she will leave you or cheat on you. A girl wants to feel safe and protected by her man and she wants a guy she can look up to and crazy to say she also wants a man that other girls’ want as well , Most females love drama whether they say they do or not , every girl needs drama in her life for her to be on her toes. Why most girls’ chase after the bad boys because she wants to be the chaser , not the other way around. Always remember you can buy a girl a 10k ring , you can buy her a 70k car , you can buy her a 500k house , but all you are getting from her in return is preowned. Don’t treat a girl like dirt but treat her like you are ok without her , Most girls ‘ love that shit , they won’t admit it but that’s how most females think
answer: psychological manipulation.
use it if you can, no one plays fair this days kid, don't waste your time on being righteous.
Say, do you have female friend? Sometimes, you maybe thoughts you doing something normal but to girl, you look like doing something unhinged or weird. I have a guy tell me, he got a crush towards his classmates in college. He only have conversation with her maybe twice a week. The only conversation they have is college related. Normal students stuff. One day, out of nowhere he go to his crush after class and said 'can you wait for me until I have money to marry you'. To a guy, it looks normal but for girl, he definitely fail hard. Not just wrong time and place conversation, she doesn't even know him that much. They didn't have the sexual tension or anything. Also, conversation about marriage is very heavy stuff so better not start with that. So yea, please have female friend as your dating advisor. Have female friend that you and she knows, we just friend.
So, a lot of us get hit on or asked out by a lot of people, most we don't know at all. We have to be picky otherwise we waste so much of our time and energy.
The fact that you're tempted to use asshole tactics like manipulation, is one good reason as to WHY we have to be picky
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There was a documentary a few years ago that investigated this basic question. The conclusion was BASIC BIOLOGY.
Both men and women are born with an innate desire to procreate, to continue the human species. The biological differences between male and female explain a lot.
Males can ejaculate several times a day, with each ejaculate containing millions of sperm. A male can easily impregnate a female. And males have the ability to do that for many years, from puberty until their death, which is typically 60 years or more.
Females release one egg a month, and only have a few days where they can get pregnant. And females can only do that for a limited time, from puberty until menopause, typically about 40 years.
Because of this, women are picky in their mates, desiring a male who can not only impregnate them but also take care of them. In comparison, it's a numbers game for males, and males are less picky in their choice of a mate.
This biological choice game continues to everyday things, making women more picky than men, in just about everything they do.
Getting a date with a girl is pretty much the same thing as making new friends. It's not complicated at all. You just talk and if you hit it off, have both a good time, the girl may be interested in dating you. If you don't, you just move on to a women who is more interesting and interested.
Having sex with random horny dudes is not something women are usually looking for. However, if they are, they will at least expect a little flirting, which, again, is just talking and showing genuine interest.
It sounds like you're acting like door-to-door salesman who's trying hard to make a sale by knocking on as many doors as possible.
Approach a girl like you would anyone else. Expect failure at first but keep on being rejected: that's the only way any dude can get more easygoing and confident when it comes to talking to ladies. You're pretty young. I'd say that it's normal to kind of suck at this at your age, but if you accept rejection and you keep going for it, you'll eventually succeed. Guaranteed.
Don't be a douche bag:
Women aren't stupid. Why would you think that "psychological manipulation" would even have a slim chance to work? Would it work on you?
Don't listen to all those stupid "dating gurus" like Andrew Tate or the idiots who call themselves "alphas", as if human relationships and elephant seal mating rituals were the same thing.
If you don't respect women, they will sense it and shut you out. If you're only after their southern love tunnel, they will too.
For problems of abundance. I am explaining better:
If women have a choice in selecting a partner, they will become fussy. This attitude also derives from male behaviour, which continues to give compliments to women, often undeserved, a bit like a fisherman who baits to attract fish to him with the effect that the fish eat groundbait and don't bite.
Things like social networks, dating sites, etc. amplify the problem. They give women the illusion of false abundance, which, however, is not real. Although they propose a high number of potential partners, the number of truly potential partners is very, very low. The satisfaction that a potential partner generates decreases as choice overload increases. The reasons are that excessive partnering options increase the perceived risk of a wrong decision and are difficult to process. At the same time, the perception that there is an abundance of potential partners available may increase the pressure that one has to find the perfect relationship and leave no excuse for failing to do so.
In the male panorama of dating apps you can find everything, and often there are married or engaged men looking for something else, increasing the illusion of abundance of potential partners.
"I cold approached 15 different girls and all of them rejected me." Of course, that almost never works. Try initiating a conversation, and then if they engage with you, you might ask them out.
"I just don't understand how average looking guys are getting girls?" No, you don't, and that's why you are having no success. You seem to imagine that dating is like a video game and you just need to learn the right moves. Start by talking to women without hitting on them in the first three minutes.
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Doing so tells everyone that you're just looking for flesh to masturbate with, there's no humanness in your pickup lines, there's no reason for them to fall in love with you, and by admitting you're average you imply that there's always a 50% chance someone hotter than you offered them sex that day. These are your only options:
You can also quit being average.
But then you risk other accusations.
Step back and think, dumbass.
If you applied for 15 jobs, and get rejected, are you going to blame them, society, and "the market," or your shit CV, and lack of tact?
Maybe you smell like a corpse, dress like a corpse is your best friend, or give the impression you sleep with corpses. Fuck knows.
But know this, if you're trying the same thing 4 or 5 times and it's not working, then it's likely not the others fault.
You've either been watching too much porn, and think relationships start as you see there. Or watching too much Disney shit, and think that's how it's done.
You might like everyone, but that doesn't mean everyone must like you.
Befriend people, learn about them and what they like and dislike. Meet them, and spend time together.
Approaching girls if they don't know you will always end with rejection. No one would risk closer contact with a pervert or a psycho. Put some effort into getting to know people and showing what you can offer BEFORE you ask for something.
There's actually a national news article about this from about 2 years ago I saw online. They interviewed several college upperclassmen girls at UNC Chapel Hill, as they had gone out to clubs/restaurants. All were single. 1 of them gave a very open, detailed interview, and she was frustrated by the "lack of guys." Her exact words from the article were how "if you take away the guys already engaged, and the ones we won't consider dateable, basically we're all fighting for the same 10 percent of guys." And she really couldn't figure out why her and all of her friends couldn't find anyone!😃It's because they're all only looking for either sugar daddies (NUMEROUS articles recently from college women about that, and that's become HUGE with them), or guys that are "hot, single and well off." Problem is... they ALL think they're going to find those few guys. They're not very good at math. Everyday college females outnumber that description of guys 100 to 1. At least.
People have different preferences and standards when it comes to dating and relationships, and these preferences vary from person to person, regardless of gender. What one person considers picky, another might see as having clear standards or healthy boundaries. Building healthy and fulfilling relationships often involves finding compatibility and mutual understanding between individuals.
Good luck man in your future endeavours.
u I dont think most are too picky they tend to get loads of attention from guy so get to choose from what they have not agree to the first thing
I think its a combination of evolution biology, social media, hook up culture and dating apps.
The most desirable men like movie stars get more coverage, making them seem more common and at the same time there is way more single men than women available.
Because they can be. Men are extremely disadvantaged early in life. Most have nothing to offer modern women. Focus on your career and getting where and what you want in life first and foremost. Once you get there around 30 you’ll find relationships are easier to come by- if you even still want them.
When I was your age, I used to approach girls all over the place and with success... I wish I spent that time becoming financially free, working on my life purpose. You are wasting your time. If more young men put that same effort into their life purpose they would be better off. I wish someone told me at that age...
unlike us men who are ok with whatever pussy we have available to us women do not just want any penis in them. they want the best penis in them, the penis that cums out gold semen, rewards her with things to brag about and is willing to beat the shit out of all the other inferior penises that try their best to get in them
" Why are women way too picky? "..
" I just don’t understand how average looking guys are getting girls but I’m not. "..
There are no rules.. you go out there and like who you like.. and get who you get.. attraction is very complex and nobody owes anybody anything !..
Those types of women have been spoiled and treated like a princess heir whole life. So blame the parents. So many are starting to believe they can find a rich man for them lol. Instead of actually getting into a real relationship. The. There Disney, barbie , makeup , that control their lives will be.
Stop repeat asking this shit.
It's not picky to have standards, just because you can't meet them doesn't mean shit.
Manipulation is toxic… please don’t go that route 🙄 I’m sure everyone is selective to an extent. Not everyone is your cup tea just as we aren’t everyones. Rejections sucks, but it’s important to be respectful and learn from it. You move on.
It's because they can afford to be picky. If you had women throwing themselves at you everyday and you had an overabundance of choice, you would be picky too.
Dude, you are only 19 years old.
I look at myself and I know that women are not way too picky.
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