What sort of pictures should a woman put on a dating site (or avoid putting) when wanting to attract men looking for more than just hook ups?

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I read should be like showing interests, doing things. Obviously not cleavage or sexy looking? I go gym and pub and coffee shop and do painting and study. But it's hard to get a decent pic doing those things or hard to take if public area haha. Like I would love a gym pic but so embarrassing trying to take a selfie with onlookers!

GuyAnswersGirls123 · Accepted Answer

This goes against most popular advice but I'm an extreme extrovert. What I would be most interested in seeing if I ever tried online dating (never did and probably never will since I'm married) are wholesome group photos.

I don't mean ones of a woman getting plastered with her drunk girlfriends at a nightclub. I mean ones like barbecues with the family, pictures together with valued colleagues, wholesome pictures with her closest friends, any pets she has if she has any, things of this nature.

Those photos can't be glamorized too much since they're group photos and they communicate to me -- better than any self-description -- that this woman is outgoing and has this mutual interest in common, perhaps that she's bubbly and invites good company, not shy (I am allergic to shy women), that she's wholesome, has family values, a strong sense of belonging in a community, etc.

DextroShade · Accepted Answer

Here are some things to avoid:

Bikini pics
Suggestive poses
Pictures of yourself on yachts or in supercars
Pictures of yourself at exotic destinations
Pictures of yourself partying or at the club

Here are some things that will make you look like wife material:

Pictures of yourself dressed modestly
Pictures of yourself cooking
Pictures that show your living space is clean and organized

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

We're always going to go on looks first especially online so you might as well put your best looking photo. Guys are going to think sex no matter what, you can't avoid it.

TenderFantasy · Accepted Answer

Not sexually suggestive or raunchy ones.  Pics of her doing more normal things.

coachTanthony · Answer

Church clothes ladies Church clothes.

normalice · Answer

It's not possible. The ratio of men to women is like 100:1. But the ratio of women to men who are genuinely looking for relationships is probably like 1000:1. There is no reliable way to ward of the 100 without accidentally excluding the 1/1000.

PositiveNote · Answer

It really does depend on the guy. Some guys think that any skin is flirting, and they immediately wanna fuck you. However, guys who are serious — I think – look past everything and try to check the boxes as to what they believe a serious woman should be like. Let's face it, if you go after every girl that dress is sexy, you'll be all washed up and too tired to have a serious relationship anyway!

Zestyassmf1997 · Answer

That’s a really tough question. It’s easier for me to tell you what not to put. Don’t put photos that are obvious thirst traps. I mean your cleavage showing, barely covered, whatever. Do put photos that show that you actually do stuff with yourself. Maybe a photo you took on a hiking trip, or a picture of something you cooked. If the photos you choose are designed to entice thirsty dudes, you will attract thirsty dudes. I also cannot stress enough to make sure you have a reasonably interesting bio. “Watching movies and listening to music” are not hobbies. Everyone does that. Unless you’re a movie/music aficionado, list interests that are unique to you. Finally, talk about what you want. Don’t talk about what you don’t want. One is positive, the other just comes off as dismissive and negative.

RavVid · Answer

I think look feminine and happy and look as though you could be introduced to mom without embarrassment. A dress or a skirt and if you can look elegant it's better. Don't see why you cannot do coffee shop pics; invite a girlfriend to help.

Do you have a pet - that implies a caring nature. It is good you have interests but we're not going to queue for a woman that paints. On the other hand if there is dish you are good at cooking well that is worth including.

I think orientate photos around female attributes that men care about.

Pics at a pub implies you get drunk and take 50 selfies. Gyms have got too much negative press recently so avoid in my view. Showing a lot of skin is not good. Excessive carnality is only good for short term liaisons and I think says you are up for that. We do like looking at scantily clad women but we also know why you are scantily clad.

tzdc21 · Answer

Make sure you smile. The ones that don't smile are not inviting. And as you said, no pictures of revealing clothing, and if you do put pictures of you in a bikini or something, make sure you only put one on there, and not multiple. The more there are, the more we'll be convinced you're not a safe bet for a relationship. And just take a picture of you with your gym gear on at home.

JacobJordan · Answer

If you don't want hook ups don't dress like a hooker. By this no short shorts, short skirts, don't wear belly shirts, don't wear shirts that show off your breasts. Minimize the make up make yourself look like a woman and you get a different type of guy

Squatting_Slav · Answer

Photos of you reading on the beach, with pets, at a show with friends, at a concert, in smart work clothes, and look your best in all of them ;)

Those sorts of photos tell me she's intellectual, not to be messed with, sexy, loves animals (nurtuting), has a healthy social life. basically they tell me she's not looking for an ONS but a man to match her status.

livin_hi_808 · Answer

This is a pretty neutral and fair answer to represent the men.

I feel that a woman who dresses more conservative would either gain the eyes of most guys but then girl who dresses more revealing and/or slutty, will attract fk boys.

blueonblack22 · Answer

Anything that doesn’t show too much skin is fine really. You can show off your figure without being provocative.

SongBird3 · Answer

Honestly, if you can stand out without having to show a lot of skin, you'll be good. I like to balance: 2 that are pretty, 2 that are funny and 2 that are showing of interests/hobby.

SixFootSexy · Answer

Dating apps are for hookups. Period. You might stumble into a guy that wants a relationship, but it will be in spite of the app, not because of it.

BLP11520 · Answer

Pictures of yourself and normal life with a normal smile something people can relate to😊

Nikki1989 · Answer

No woman needs a dating site. You can walk out the door and meet a hook-up within the hour.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Use pictures of your face only. Avoid using pictures that would be considered sexually arousing.

shortster · Answer

Avoid bikini and lingerie photos. Group photos are no good either. You want graduation style photos.

pickles77 · Answer

Something modest is good. Sex appeal just attracts guys looking for sex.

jjj101010 · Answer

I mean there’s not much u can do about how others view u and what they think

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Something in nature, maybe.

RedInnocent68 · Answer

One where she doesn’t look like a girl? 🤔😂

Alex-Snow · Answer

Get a friend to take one of u.

marish01 · Answer

Take a look at insta models

cootjuhh · Answer

you can handle every picture

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