I met this girl online and she goes the university I just graduated from in nursing. She is an out of state student and so she lives off campus. We talked for sometime about the situation ship she had for two years and that the guy moved back home out of state, the over from where she’s from. I showed empathy and talked to her normally and was being myself. She appreciated how I was acting because she likes that it was different from what she’s used to (whether if she’s concerned about weight, appearance, or flaws I didn’t care). She claims that she hasn’t been intimate for a while and that she spotted me on the app online by chance. We met up at her place after a couple of days and we talked about her school life and how her friend said to pass me over to her if things don’t work out (she was upset) we ended up getting to 3rd base but no sex. I stayed the night and she ended up taking my hoodie from nursing. I went to her job and bought her dinner because she was nearby when I was ordering. I ended up coming over later that night and we did even more, especially to the point where she handcuffed me and we explored some kinks a bit. She says she wants a relationship but she's about to graduate and move back home and try to get graduate school figured out so she can come back after she takes some tests and applies. Basically a gap year. She says she wants a relationship. But she graduates like in May and with all of that time what do you think she really wants. Her drive is so high and she’s into a lot of things and I’ve slept over so much. She asks if I tell my friends about her and she’s learning my schedule. Do you think she’s really serious? Or do you think she’s using me to get her rocks off? We are going out on a date soon. But it’s hard for me to get a read on the situation.
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So I met this girl online and some and her have been talking for a couple of days and she handcuffed me and we slept together the first time I came?
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Yo dude, this does sound like kind of a weird situation. A few things stand out to me:
- Moving that fast physically could just be her way of feeling connected before she leaves for her gap year. Doesn't necessarily mean she's "using" you.
- But at the same time, it will be tough to have a real LDR if she's leaving the state in a few months. Might just end up being a fling.
- I'd chill on getting too invested emotionally till you have a real talk about what she's looking for long-term once she's done with school.
- Definitely go on that date - keep getting to know each other without benefits first. See if you actually connect on more than a physical level.
- Proceed with caution telling all your boys details. Play it cool for now since nothing is super serious yet.
Overall I'd say enjoy what you've got but don't get your hopes up for something serious long-run just yet. Guard your heart a bit and don't be afraid to have an honest convo about intentions at some point. You feel me?
Wow Brodie thank you this was amazing advice
You’re welcome bruh anytime my friend
I hope this is all fake because all this is bringing to you is pleasure and sin. She is not relationship material and every time you lay with her, you are exposing yourself to demons gaining entry to yourself and your life (as she is too). She is just using you for pleasure but you are reciprocating so both doing the same with each other. It is fruitless and totally pointless. She has likely suffered some kind of trauma or bad experiences before leaving her very open and unsure of how to get close and trust. She does not need any of this, she needs deliverance and intercession prayer!
I hope this is a troll as that pink anonymous is suggesting. I really do.
Really?
What did I do 😂
My excuse is that I’m young