Why do I feel sick when I start to like someone?

[Anonymous]

Whenever I start to like someone, someone likes me or I even think about going on a date/being in a relationship, I get sick. Anxiety, stomach aches, nausea, panicky, etc.

[Oliverlogan263]

It sounds like you might experience some anxiety around intimacy and vulnerability. A few thoughts:

- Liking someone means opening up to potential rejection or hurt, which can bring up fears from past experiences. Your body is reacting to protect you from that vulnerability.

- It also requires trust, which may be difficult for you. Allowing someone to get close means they could let you down or abuse that closeness. Anxiety kicks in to avoid that pain.

- Try acknowledging your brave side - the part of you that does want closeness despite the risks. Reassure that anxious part you'll go slow and protect your heart.

- Be gentle with yourself as you test intimacy in small ways. Look for "red flag" guys to be extra cautious of triggering past trauma.

- Consider talking to a counselor to work through what's really behind the physical anxiety symptoms. Having insight and strategies can relieve loads of stress.

- Remember to breathe - when anxiety hits, take 5 deep breaths and remind yourself you're safe even if nervous. The feeling WILL pass.

You deserve to experience connection without fear. With time and self-care, you'll feel readier. For now go at your own pace. You've got this sis!

[Elena_Stewart]

Either because you are aroused, or hormone fluctuations associated with love (particularly the stress hormone cortisol).

[Asker]

Like I start telling myself I am not ready for a relationship, I can't do this, it's not God's will, etc. If this is actually because of hormone fluctuations, how do I cope?

[Elena_Stewart]

I don't know, I think over time when you get used to the person, your feelings will be more stable and this will make your stress and anxiety less. Try to communicate this to the person you love as well, this will help too.

[Longhone3]

There is always someone for everyone.

[Asker]

Well yeah, but why do I get sick when I start to like someone?

[Longhone3]

It could be a lot to do with nerves

[Anonymous]

Me toooo