Dating, do you think it's worth it, or a waste of time?

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TenderFantasy · Accepted Answer

I think it's worth it if you want to find a husband and have a family.

But since I can't even really do that.. the last guy I was with was VERY judgmental and critical of me.. I don't really know if it's still really worth it. You give of yourself, your time, invest your emotions and then they STILL take you for granted, reject you and break up with you. Not forgive you or accept your flaws. So yeah.. it's a risk to do it so I don't know if it's really that worth it? I don't want to give up though I really don't! I've always dreamed of at least becoming a mother and /or a wife, someone's love and life partner like my parents, they were able to find that, but well.. times have changed so maybe the universe is telling me to keep up with the changes? ! I don't really know! All I know is I am pretty, I got a lot of great qualities like I am educated, know how to cook and do domestic stuff, I'm good at sex, sure I don't have a great job at the moment, but still... there are a lot of women are the UGLIER way more GHETTO in personality with the fake eyelashes , weaves and just plain unnatural unlike me but I STILL get rejected 😞 and it HURTS! I don't act like a bitch and I am a nice (maybe sometimes TOO nice) person a lot of the time unless you try to screw me over. I am NORMAL! So yeah..

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Accepted Answer

If I met someone interesting I’d be fine dating them. Right now I have taken a break from dating, for 4-5 months already.

The men who have asked me out recently, didn’t awaken any special interest in me.

However, I think dating is fun and a nice experience to learn about men.

ProbablyClueless · Accepted Answer

I enjoy the theory of dating. The actual practice has been awful, but only because I've had so many situations needlessly blow up and become unpleasant. I do genuinely enjoy meeting people and talking, and such.

My mom commented the other day that she didn't see me as someone who would enjoy casual dating, but I explained to her I would probably enjoy casual dating a great deal if I was ever able to find someone who knew how communicate like an adult, was honest, and didn't devolve into an emotional flip-flopping toddler.

WhiteSteve · Accepted Answer

Definitely worth it. It’s probably the greatest source of agony most of us will go through in life, but when you do find that person that’s right for you and you can share your life together, that’s the good stuff, that’s what it’s all about right there.

Rosexøxø · Answer

I don’t think dating should be top of the list- something people are always hyper focused on. I think it should be something they get to occasionally. Like picking up a news paper, and seeing what’s the daily options and such, but not staying the whole day reading it and reading it over and OVER again, lol.

Surviving and living is more important, so when people learn to prioritize this and be responsible, then being on a look out for someone compatible and/or understanding can be very reasonable and promising.

If people are struggling to support themselves or lack self care, then they should take a step back from the dating scene and try to get themselves a bit more situated.

It’s definitely not a lost cause, but it’s technical, you know?

I met my husband when he and I were unemployed and looking for work. I’ve moved to a nicer place and busier area and he has gotten promoted within a short time of just 2 months. We love each other, this is true. Just because that happened for us doesn’t mean I’d recommend everyone date while they’re unemployed and marry unemployed people lol.

Life is economics-wise is certainly tough, so we have to be a bit understanding. It’s just simpler to focus on survival and essentials and be calm and polite with those that you meet. Don’t throw the heart in with the wings free of charge every time she bats her eye or he gives a flirtatious comment.

dragoblack · Answer

Dating nowadays is a big ol' trainwreck of ghosting, insecure people that get hateful when told "no", manipulation tactics, unrealistic expectations, too many expectations, people who dont want to talk about themselves, people quick to jump to worst conclusions, lack of putting in the effort to get to know a person before the relationship, unrealistic understandings due to past trauma, toxic people who won't work on getting rid of their bad habits, and people who just want to jump into a relationship after getting laid.

Kiss_Me · Answer

Before I got married, I realized it was foolish to date with the hope of finding a wife. I dated only for entertainment purposes, or to have a +1 for those social situations that semi-required it. Eventually I found someone that was worthy of the emotional investment. Looking back on my single life, I can honestly say I went out on my fair share of dates, got to experience a lot of personalities and characters. Hell, I even have a few regrets. However, my dating style enable me to find my wife. We get along well, have the same values, and enjoy enough of the same things to have fun. Mt 5th wedding anniversary is this coming Fall.

Dating not a waste of time. Like all things, it depends on how it is managed.

Juxtapose · Answer

It's kind of hard to enjoy dating! What woman is going to view you as special when she can just replace you with the next guy that is 1% better than you because she has thousands of options at her fingertips?

I want to feel special and valuable, not expendable.

And also being the one expected to initiate and plan just makes me feel like I'm dating a doll rather than another human being. I crave interaction and input.

At least with a dominant woman I feel wanted and I feel like she cares enough to put in effort.

NobodyXox · Answer

Dates can be very enjoyable. I like to meet new people and some of my dates have brought me to places I would never think off. I've learned to play pool and darts, I've driven a (go) kart, I've sung kareoke, that was all really cool to me. And I've discovered plenty of new restaurants, bars and cafés I can now take my friends too.
Dating can be trying if you crave some stability and someone to come home to, but it also has a lot of nice aspects.

mandyfire98 · Answer

I'm glad I'm in a relationship obviously but if I wasn't I'd still date probably because I enjoy being in a relationship. It's not something I stress about even if I'm single but uf the opportunity arises I'll date.

itsclearlynicholas · Answer

I voted cat person lol I should've been more patient and voted A which is give me that single life, I'm enjoying single life. Look I just never desired to settle for less and I'm glad I haven't settled for less than I've realised that I deserve. And it should always go, two ways. Aka two people should both desire each other, rather than that stupid cat mouse chase. I don't chase. cringe. Or not anymore. Cringey cringe. Regrets are but life's lessons to learn 🤕😉

HawkPerception · Answer

I believe it is worth it, but it's not worth dating the majority of Western women. For the most part, they've adopted feminist views and are very materialistic. Everything is about money for many of them. The old days were 99% of people living in poverty under royalty and people still loved each other no matter where they were in life. Western women are pampered and are disgusted by the thought of roughing it even a little. Again... I'm not saying all western women, but the majority of them.

Anonymous · Answer

As a guy in the U. S. who doesn't have a felony record, doesn't talk ebonics, doesn't listen to rap all day smoking blunts, isn't a bully, isn't a wannabe gangster, isn't trying to fleece people for money online, volunteers in my community, doesn't have kids or baby mommas and doesn't hit trendy bars trying to be a city fuckboy, it's an ABSOLUTE COMPLETE WASTE OF MY TIME. It's why I'm moving to Mexico, I've spent time there, and not in tourist areas. I can say 2 things for a personal experience fact. 1. Any of the above "values" that people frequently possess in the States are NOT WELCOME anywhere in Mexico, and will get one permanently hurt FAST. 2. Monterrey, NL Mexico is FAR more upscale than Huntington, W. Va, or anywhere in the Ohio River Valley for that matter. There's a medical facility there.

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

I want a family and a wife so yes. I do not want to date casually for fun or for sex but for a purpose.

A family and a wife is a purpose a motivation to be better and work harder. Dating is an essential part of the process for compatibility and aligning goals.

Sharkstealth · Answer

For me it's been very worthless because my only few dates were a nightmare. 1 was ok. Most gals I got with because of groups of earthy friends or circles. I didn't really date because we all just did lots of outdoorsy things together and paired off.

Screenwriter · Answer

I simply don't see how you can get to know someone unless you spend time with them. You don't have to CALL it a "date," but you have to hang out and do things together.

IT can be as formal or informal as you choose to have it. But in-person interaction is the only way to get to know someone.

lightbulb27 · Answer

I once avoided it, I gave up on it. I went back, I suffered and made huge mistakes. Eventually met my wife and got through the challenging times and we are very good now, living a good life.

It's worth it because you will learn about yourself and will grow. I didn't say it will be pain free or that you will get everything you want when you want it.

Other social systems are easier than the mess of "dating" we have today.

Katebfun · Answer

I'm not on sites nor am I actively seeking out male attention. Dating is good for experience so you know what's a deal breaker. Its not easy to reject and he rejected in dating. Often it's hard to find a genuine connection where both parties like eachother

RebelinSteel · Answer

I like dating, or the hunt of it, but I ticked I’m a cat person, cos well I like cats

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

I don't think anyone would do it if they believed it was a waste of time, just cause some people are a waste of time doesn't mean the whole idea Is, the only way it can become a waste of time in general is if you make it that way, it's just not easy and creates frustrations but over all I think a true connection between a couple is good, everyone should have It, it's good for the soul.

RefriedBeans · Answer

To each their own. Dating and marriage have their pitfalls, but finding a friend with benefits is as easy as falling off a log. Everyone is on the same page.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

Everything in life you do is worth it when you think of yourself as worthy of what you deserve.  go out there and make a difference for yourself and others.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

I am in fact a cat person because I have two rescue kittens who would yell at me should I pick another answer. That said, I enjoy dating and I'm not looking for anything serious at the moment.

Drew-1990 · Answer

It will be worth it one day with the right person. But to be honest, if I could skip dating and go straight to a relationship I would but I know that's not realistic sadly.

RingOfFire · Answer

"I'm a gonna date till i gots me that big ole family life" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Paul09 · Answer

I haven't been on a date in years. It always ended up being a waste of time. Felt like I was interviewing them and paying for their meals. They did not show interest back. They did not ask anything about me. vso one sided. On paper sounds fun. In reality for some of us it is a huge pain. And today it seems too hard to find someone to date. I guess I'll be single forever. Ah well I'll make the best of it.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

With the people I keep meeting I think it is absolutely useless in these days, the gen is fucked up. It looks like I will be a cat lady lol.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

The whole idea of dating/ marriage is a scam. The only reason people do it is because they’re programmed into believing it’s something they want.

JacobJordan · Answer

Hmm I am married so I would say it was definitely worth it. That being said if I was single and in the US you couldn't pay me enough to consider dating an American woman

LiamS95 · Answer

It can be worthwhile it depends on just what you're looking for.

stark04 · Answer

Waste of time if you don't have long term plan. For me having a wife and family is more important than going on dates everyday every week.

DextroShade · Answer

I'm glad I married one of the few remaining good women because dating in 2024 sounds like a shitshow with all these entitled, narcissistic, ran-through whores.

Tanya456 · Answer

It's inevitable. So is marriage. Then you get divorced and wonder what went wrong.

Paris13 · Answer

Dating Can Lead to mating. Never a Waste. xxoo

Kai_Kai · Answer

I personally feel like even if you’re not necessarily looking to marry or settle down just yet it’s still important to date someone for at least a little while as you can learn a lot from it and so that way if you do ever wanna settle down and marry then you will have the experience needed to be more successful in your relationship.

petitedollbabee · Answer

Depends on what your goal is, and what type of people you’re looking for. Ultimately I’d say it’s worth it if you’re smart about it and know exactly what you’re looking for.

Yannae · Answer

Depends on how you gonabout it and what kind of person you choose to invest time in. I struck gold last year so for me it has been well worth it.

CozyCoffin · Answer

I wanted to get married and have kids, but after being rejected so much, i see it as impossible.

Phoenix98 · Answer

With the right person it's worth it, with the wrong person it is a waste of time.

Willoughby23 · Answer

Waste of time, I really don’t have any interest in getting to know a woman and if I did she would just cheat on me anyway. I don’t mind hookups but Im not really down to go on a bunch of dates just because I might get to have sex.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Dating is worthless.

Making friends, falling in love with one of them, and then marrying them, is not worthless.

The method most people use to find a mate is stupid af, then they complain they can't find a match.. 🙄

Anonymous · Answer

if i had to do it all over again, i think it'd be easier to just be single

douride2 · Answer

For myself it is a waste of time at this point in my life.

BoobMan · Answer

Definitely worth it! What else are you going to do?

SolitarySolace · Answer

Absolute waste of time as well as money and I’m sure other resources as well.

Subflics · Answer

It can be worth it and it can be a waste of time. I'm single so it's been a waste of time so far but I've learned valuable lessons never sell yourself short but know when you got something worth keeping

Androktasia · Answer

waste of time. there are better things in life to do

exitseven · Answer

I enjoyed dating most of the time. I suppose it was like falling off a tall building. All is good except for the sudden stop at the end

Zoi99 · Answer

I gotten both were they talked about their ex and another good conversation.

whistlingwh0res · Answer

I think it's waste of time. I mean we need to be practical. but I think we need to pay attention to people around us more.

Biya123 · Answer

I think without commitment , dating is useless. If a relationship isn't going anywhere than its useless.

Shiningtempest · Answer

Dating doesn't mesh with my strong need for a stable & predictable lifestyle.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Dating is too expensive, too dangerous, and too exhausting. Hoeflation is a very real phenomena. I don't know why any man dates these days.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

It's only worth it if you think like a man. If you think like a woman, you won't get anywhere.

Fuentes · Answer

Worthless af lol

LazerBean · Answer

That just depends on the person.

Adamzinho · Answer

Its worth to explore and know exactly what you really want

Anonymous · Answer

It's a waste of time for guys like me, we know that women can always find someone, and we know what kind of men they want

Wwwyzzerdd · Answer

Waste of time/money

Jennz6 · Answer

I love being single

grega239 · Answer

Waste of time

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

It can be worth it

JayBones · Answer

It's definitely not what it's cracked up to be.

Wiredone · Answer

I don't date anymore

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