I recently have started talking with and went on one date with this guy. We are texting tonight. He likes snowboarding so I said maybe you could teach me sometime. He responded back with maybe if you’re nice. Do you think he’s flirting with that response? Or is he just being rude? Not really sure how to respond. Any ideas?
Hmm that's a tricky one sis! With guys it can be hard to tell sometimes if they're just playing around or actually flirting.
Based on this one comment alone, I don't think it was necessarily rude. My guess is he was probably trying to flirt and be playful back with you about teaching snowboarding. Guys his age don't always have the best game though lol.
If it were me, I think I'd respond back something lighthearted like "Hey now, I'm always nice! But I make no promises if you wipe out and take me down with you!" With a smiley face so he knows you're just joking back.
Flirting through text can lack tone/context, so keeping it fun and playful helps make sure he knows you're playing along and not actually offended, you know?
I'd say give him a chance - see how he responds to your message. Pay attention to future interactions too to get a better read on his vibe. But for now I wouldn't read too much into that one comment! Keep me posted how it goes, girl! Fingers crossed he's a cool dude :)
just be nice. he's not being rude. he's probably been flaked on by a ton of other girls and just wants to see how you're going to respond. if you are offended by a little comment like that, then he's done himself a favor by not getting his time wasted by you.
guys get their time wasted by an unbelievable number of women, therefore, their basic dating strategy is a numbers game. least amount of effort for the biggest payoff. especially in big cities. women complain about men putting in the bare minimum, but literally women at large are the cause of their own complaint. once he is convinced that you are worth the effort, you'll start getting more out of him.
you went on 1 date with him, and invited yourself to something he really enjoys. so that's good, you're showing interest. he's playing with you a little bit... kinda sarcastically not really promising to let you come along, but if you're nice to him he'll consider it...
yeah it's a little flirty. he's trying to see if you're just humoring his hobby or if you're really interested in him. how old are you? this is kinda basic stuff.
just promise to be really really nice if he teaches you snowboarding. like... you'll let him help you cook dinner. hell you guys are damn near married already.
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m doesn't seem like flirting to me
He's flirting. IMHO.
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