I'm a black lady from Africa and I'm more attracted to White guys and Asian guys but I haven't yet gotten anyone who is genuine?

[Anonymous]

I've been on a couple of dates with white guys but they weren't really genuine most of them were pervs which I don't blame or judge but I'm more of a passionate person or a lover girl, so I was looking for something serious, I'm not into hookups really. So I'm I the problem for actually believing and being delusional that I can actually find a genuine guy in this generation?

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I might be both generationally and culturally out of touch being in my 40s from Japan, but I still think the best chance of finding a good one comes from friendship first.

Like find a mixed-sex group of friends and hang out together, invite new like-minded people into the group, and find love interests there. Then you already get to know people outside the context of dating, and your mutual friends can vouch for each other's good character.

That's how I found my wife in Japan (a friend of a friend I met at a picnic) and that's also how my little sister, who lived in the US, found her husband (also a friend of a friend she met at her home party).

Then we don't have to date in order to get to know each other. We already know each other, get along really well already, and then go on a date.

[BarryLiverstone]

When you say they acted like pervs in what ways? It’s a challenge to be genuine with strangers. You gotta get to know someone and see if you vibe first

[Asker]

Inappropriate touching, and one also flashed his private parts to me and mind you we were in a restaurant, and for getting to know someone I completely agree before the date we did talk a lot and we vibed but during the date he was a completely different person and it made me feel so uncomfortable and for a moment I did think that I had misjudged his character/personality
I'm the type of person who just tries to see the best in someone regardless of what they've done before or who they are and I guess that's where the problem is sometimes

[BarryLiverstone]

Clearly flashing his dick on a date is immature so good call there. Regarding the touching, many guys don’t know how to read body language and escalate on a date. You may just wanna let them know before the date what your boundaries are (like you could say you look forward to a hug, or maybe a good night kiss).. that way they don’t touch areas you don’t want touched.

But ya, good to talk before the date but also be sure to do things in public and if the guy isn’t being respectful you cut your losses.

Did you think these guys would do any of this?

[Asker]

No I didn't think they would do that, they seemed mature, respectful during the talk even by how they looked and dressed as well, I didn't expect that..

[BarryLiverstone]

Did this happen on the first date or over multiple dates?

[Asker]

The First date

[Asker]

The inappropriate touching happened on the first date but the flashing was the third date

[Kelley1]

The online dating world is stacked against black women and Asian men. According to Christian Rudder’sOKCupid blog, stats from 2014 show that 82 per cent of non-black men on OKCupid show some bias against black women. Similarly, Asian men’s dating profiles are consistently rated the lowest by single women using online dating sites.

[BoopBoopBeep]

I'm sure they're out there. Where are you meeting men?

[kareka]

Yea sure u will find someone if u searched in the right way

[Anonymous]

Do you live in Asia?