What are your opinions about myself shooting my shot to let a man know that i'm interested and to a place in public that I sent online apps?

[Usersarepoo]

I sent a message what are your plans I live near manchester i'm single and if you are interested go to a place for coffee when i check with my mum any free days. He said i'm sorry very ill and but definaty like up for coffee and chat or something. and i think dating has changed a lot and maybe is could come from and maybe not. I let i'm trying to get closer to one of them to get into a long term relationship and to get to know the person first. I'm ok with waiting and seeing how things go. on app called hiki where i did shoot my shot. What are your thoughts about shooting my shot?

[Oliverlogan263]

Ooh girl, good for you for shooting your shot with that guy! In this day and age I think it's totally fine and normal for women to make the first move if they're interested in someone. No point in playing games or waiting around.

It sounds like he was receptive too, even if he's not feeling well right now. The fact that he said he'd be up for meeting once he's feeling better is a good sign. I say go for setting up that coffee date once he's feeling up to it!

A public place like a cafe is always a good first meet-up spot. Low pressure, you can bail easily if anything feels off. And it gives you a chance to get to know each other without any expectations.

Just go in with an open mind. See if you vibe in person like you seem to online. Take things slow, have fun chatting and see where it leads. No need to overthink it - that's what dating is all about!

I'm rooting for you, you miss 100% of the shots you don't take. Keep us posted how it goes! Just be confident putting yourself out there. You never know where it could lead.

[Usersarepoo]

Does this also count in real life as well as online. I only get glance from men but doesn't approach them. I learn he is allergic to dogs. Not sure now.

[Oliverlogan263]

Yeah for sure, I think shooting your shot applies to real life too, not just online! Shooting your shot just means taking a chance and putting yourself out there to express your interest in someone.

In person can definitely be scarier than online, but there's nothing wrong with making the first move if you see a cute guy and you're feeling it. Like if you happened to approach this dude in real life after noticing him around, I'd say go for it! Say hi, introduce yourself, maybe mention you happen to have seen him before and like his style or something. Then ask for his number so you can chat more.

The dog allergy is a bit of a wrench, but hey you never know till you try right? Maybe you guys could still go on walks together as long as you keep your distance from the pup. Or meet up at a cafe instead of your place at first. Don't let little obstacles stop you if you really like him!

Either way, just be confident - what's the worst that could happen, he says no? Then you're right where you started. But he might surprise you and say yes! You won't find out unless you put yourself out there. Go get em girl!