My boyfriend of 9 months never post me saying that his account is based to talk about golf? Lie?

[Anonymous]

[kylee2437]

Absolute lie. Especially if he is actively posting other people that are important to him.

[kylee2437]

Ole girl trying to defending a man neglectings actions blocked me, however I will leave this here. It’s understandable why you feel this way and really in all honesty there’s no other explanation of a man not wanting to post you aside from him wanting to keep whatever option is poking around on his social media. This isn’t to make you insecure , this isn’t to say he’s necessarily cheating but a man that sees his woman invalidated will do ANYTHING to make sure she doesn’t feel that way. If posting you is too much to ask for, then there’s something deeper on his end because a post to make YOU happy should never be that serious on a man’s end.

[Asker]

Yes I agree with you. I mean he took a few pics of us but never posted while he post photos of himself... so

[kylee2437]

I say it’s a red flag and definitely something to take mental note of. Don’t let the “you have big issues if you take social media seriously” people invalidate that because golf is important enough for him to post, so why aren’t you? It’s a bs excuse.

I had an ex that similarly never posted me and while I took offense to it, there was other details that showed he really didn’t care. And his lack of care is the reason why his business was being posted about, but not me. Once we broke up, he made sure to post all his friends and him drinking on his “business page” it’s bs

[kylee2437]

And also not posting your partner is only okay if both people decide it’s okay, not one person making excuses as to why he can’t.

[Asker]

Yes , also he puts golf as his priority. For this we had to cancel our meetings cause he is in USA while I am in Europe. He is not even earning money from that just trying to become professional and can't say when we meet again just say soon soon

[kylee2437]

Sounds like a waste of your time personally. He’s trying to be progressive and stringing you along. It’s been 9 months, seems like you have been invalidating in many ways. I’m not telling you what to do here, however I don’t really see you being a thing in his future if he does end up progressing to where he wants to be. It’s giving place holder vibes

[kylee2437]

Invalidated***

[kylee2437]

And personally wouldn’t he want to show people that he has a lady supporting him through this if he truly felt she’s special?

[Asker]

Yes I feel the same like I am not the one for him. Sadly. When we were on our trip he did not even offer to pay for anything , I did not receive a birthday gift, nothing for Christmas or Valentines day while on our trip I paid for his meal also got him a gift...

[kylee2437]

Cut him loose. And tell those other girls on the other answer to go touch grass for assuming anything about your life before knowing your relationship. I know for a fact when women feel this way , it’s because there’s more to the story usually. I wish you well

[Asker]

Thank you 😘

[tzdc21]

Oh wow, how horrible. He doesn't post you on social media and it's the end of the world. SMH. Stop basing everything on social media like it's some kind of contest. Because it isn't.

[kylee2437]

How about before bashing her, read the rest of the comments and learn. Hypocrisy is becoming way too common

[tzdc21]

@kylee2437 I have read them, thanks very much. And I agree with them. If you're basing everything on social media then you've got bigger problems to take care of.

[kylee2437]

@tzdc21 clearly you didn’t sweetheart because her relationship as a whole is a problem. You and the people that resort to saying stuff like this are too shallow to ever understand why people in this day and age in fact do take things personally from social media.

[tzdc21]

@kylee2437 First off, I'm not your "sweetheart," Second, I argue people who take too many things from social media are shallow. You always having to post your life online for the world to see, to show off how great you're doing, or looking at others on social media and trying to compare your life to theirs by adding posts of their own is a massive problem. I don't feel the need to post important things on my social media. I don't need to shout out to the world that this is my important thing. And I don't expect others to do it for me because it's not that big of a deal.

[kylee2437]

@tzdc21 no the issue is , is people saying social media isn’t that important but have nearly made social media their everyday routine. So at that point, saying social media isn’t “that important” is you gaslighting your partner and also you lying to yourself. One big huge excuse that only dumb women continue to buy into and don’t QUESTION

[kylee2437]

Her questioning this, makes her indeed not dumb.

[tzdc21]

@kylee2437 Social media, while it can be beneficial, is also becoming more and more of a determent to society and your comments right here prove it. It's become so part of our everyday routine that people like you think it's necessary to post on there. That it's necessary to always place important things onto there. Truth is, no it's not. And that is not "gaslighting" by not posting about her/him on social media. This proves my point that many people nowadays are putting WAY too much stock in social media.

[tzdc21]

@kylee2437 I guess that means if a guy has no social media then he is a terrible person to you now huh? Or if he does have one social media account and hardly ever posts anything he is sus or has no life right? SMH.

[kylee2437]

@tzdc21 honey bun, this is now you trying to gaslight me to stick up for another guy. If you have social media, you make it an everyday part of your life , you have NOT ONE single reason to try and say “it’s not that important” none. Absolutely NOTHING you can stand on to specify that it’s not THAT important

[kylee2437]

She’s from Europe and she’s from the US , obvious online dating arrangement. Tell me again how social media isn’t important to him? I’m waiting

[kylee2437]

He’s from the US*

[tzdc21]

@kylee2437 I'm not gaslighting anybody, or sticking up for anybody, so nice try. I don't know the dude personally, so I can't speak for him. But I can tell you how social media is not important to me. Because I am mature enough and aware enough to understand what social media can do to you if you're not careful, and how addicting it can be. One person posts something and everyone flocks to it like hungry fire ants. It's really embarrassing. I am mature enough to understand that social media is not everything, and I don't NEED to post every single part of my life onto there. If you feel that it's a requirement to post every single important thing on there, them, as other comments on here have already told you, that's a maturity issue on YOUR part that you need to work on.

[kylee2437]

@tzdc21 and if that you true , you probably wouldn’t be on this app , attempting to insult people you don’t know, right? Because social media isn’t that important. Again , hypocrisy is becoming WAY too common and it’s quite sad that people find social media oh so important until it comes to doing things that may disappoint or upset people that have become apart of your real life.
By the way telling people that social media isn’t that important meanwhile being on social media everyday is gaslighting

[tzdc21]

@kylee2437 I don't NEED to be on here thank you very much. I like to be on here every once in a while, but I don't need it in my life. It's not hypocritical at all. It's one thing to like to go on social media every so often, but it's another to make it your entire life. And you're proving my points I made about what social media can do to people who are constantly on it. It's actually hilarious at this point. So go ahead and keep responding, and proving me right. You're making my day LMAO.

[kylee2437]

@tzdc21 continuing to gaslight me sweetheart, as much as I am on social media and quite at least ADMIT IT, I enjoy being on here. And you can ask ANYONE that knows me on here, very RARELY do I pop up on this app anymore.

It’s the point that people are PRETENDING that they aren’t on social media all the time meanwhile they indeed are. Tell me you aren’t on your phone everyday on social media websites?

[kylee2437]

Aka this man literally pretending that golf is all that matters on social media meanwhile he literally met this woman on social media. It’s a lie. And his excuse is bullshit

[tzdc21]

@kylee2437 Actually no I'm not on social media every day. And I only have one social media account that I have even touched in weeks. So nice try. But continue making my point and making me laugh. You can't see it, but I'm rolling around on the floor due to your "gaslighting" allegations lol. Keep responding, you're only making this better for me lol.

[kylee2437]

@tzdc21 yeah sure buddy, I very much so believe that from someone that found this app in the first place.

[kylee2437]

No it’s even more funny that you have the nerve to defend a man that didn’t get his girlfriend a Valentine’s Day gift 🤡

[tzdc21]

@kylee2437 Valentine's day? Really? You're just itching for an excuse to argue at this point. I don't really care for Valentine's day to be honest. And don't bother wasting your breath trying to convince me to do otherwise because it's not gonna work. And I guess in your mind since I'm on here for one day that means I'm obsessed with social media, lol. Okay. And I love how you're making random comments about stuff I'm not doing. I said I wasn't defending anybody, which you clearly didn't read. I'm just saying it's inaccurate and immature to base everything based on social media. I love how you keep proving my point when you're trying to prove me wrong lol. You're making my day.

[kylee2437]

@txdc21 oh good god so you are pointing issue at her but have no concept to understand that this man is an overall loser. Got it. Losers gotta defend losers, we know that.

[tzdc21]

@kylee2437 Ah, and now we've gone down to name calling. Again, real mature on your part, lol.

[kylee2437]

Nope I just state facts. Defending a man that does nothing for a woman but keeps her around is definitely a loser move, especially when you are claiming she is bashing him for asking a question that involves the way he’s been treating her.

[tzdc21]

@kylee2437 More wild and make-believe theories, smh. You really have a lot of maturing to do don't you? Getting all of these little non-existent realizations just based off social media is utterly ridiculous, immature and practically embarrassing on your part. And you've shown that with every post you've made.

[kylee2437]

@tzdc21 actually no it’s what this girl explained to me because I’m not an idiot that makes assumptions about people before getting to know their situation. Making fuss about insulting her boyfriend all while meaning insulting her for having relationship concerns. How thoughtful of you. Maybe it is a red flag on your part that you only come on here to talk about sex with women according to the questions you ask and bashing women who have relationship concerns. Have a great day now

[tzdc21]

@kylee2437 Oh and I was calling out how she, like you, is clearly putting too much stock into social media when in truth it's not that important at all. But seeing how you've disregarded everything else I've said, except what you wanna hear, this is probably gonna go through one ear and out the other with you.

[kylee2437]

@tzdc21 go ask some more questions about anal sex, sir.

[tzdc21]

@kylee2437 "I'm not some idiot that makes assumptions about people before getting to know their situation."

Funny because that's exactly what you were doing to me all this time, so that's false. In fact you proceeded to do it right after you finished that sentence 😂😂

Tell you what, I'll ask those "anal sex" questions when you learn how to properly articulate yourself in an argument. Have a great day! 😂

[kylee2437]

@tzdc21 no actually I just can read through bullshit and we know for a fact you make social media an everyday part of your life, it’s just whether you want to admit it or not. Admitting it would defeat your argument.

More importantly , it further proves that she shouldn’t be settling for a long distance relationship where the person only isn’t posting her, no one knows about her, and more importantly he ain’t doing shit for her. It’s a trash relationship. Glad me and her settled that and I hope she doesn’t listen to the people bashing her for caring about being posted on social media because wanting to be posted on social media is NO different than any other kind of affection out there. Have a great day

[Asker]

@kylee2437 thank you very much. I totally agree. I asked him about presents. The thing is that he said he sent me a birthday and Christmas gift. He is actually Irish but now lives in USA. Anyway, yes, we met online then we met in real life. During our trip I noticed he did not even offer to pay for small things. Later, after some time, he said to me he sent me gifts from Ireland. However, they never reached me. Then he said they were returned to him which is hard to believe. My relatives live in Ireland and I always get their gifts. I also sent him a gift and he got it.

[kylee2437]

@asker he sounds like one big huge liar to me. And if he actually cared to give you those gifts (mind you it’s been almost two months since Christmas) he would’ve made sure they got to you somehow. He’s a liar

[laly520]

reminds me of one golf obsessed guy named tyler

hope he isn't another tyler

[HelpfulWoman]

why do you care? if you're basing your relationship on a social media presence you got bigger issues

[Booklover_90]

This. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[kylee2437]

I disagree. People post what is most important to them, and personally I think trying to invalidate her feelings this way is pretty harmful. It’s the principle

[HelpfulWoman]

@kylee2437 again, if you think social media is what defines your relationship, that is a YOU problem and shows absolute immaturity.

[Booklover_90]

Social media has only really been around for the last 20 years. Therefore, that’s why it’s not a big deal.

[Booklover_90]

If his family and friends know about you and know that you’re a couple, that’s all that matters anyway.

[Asker]

@Booklover_90 his parents don't know