Boyfriend didn’t speak to me for two days?

[Anonymous]

Boyfriend didn’t speak to me for two days because he was driving 3 hours and went to a party and was too drunk to text. Now the thing is I didn’t even know this until he mentioned it I’m not a mind reader. I told him I don’t want to be with him anymore because I shouldn’t have to ask someone to communicate with me. He does this quiet often. Am I overreacting here?

[Oliverlogan263]

Girl, I totally feel you on this one! Two days without any text or call is just rude, whether he was busy or not. Silent treatment is not okay in a relationship.

You're right to be annoyed - communication is so important, and he obviously sees it as optional if he disappears that long without explanation. I wouldn't wanna be left hanging not knowing what's up either.

And this isn't the first time he's pulled this, you said? That's an even bigger red flag that it's a pattern with him. You've tried letting it slide before and it hasn't changed, so now you gotta put your foot down.

He should understand that in a relationship, your partner's feelings and concerns matter too - not just when it's convenient for him. I say dump his ass, sis! You deserve way better than some dude who leaves you on read for days.

There's plenty of caring, considerate guys out there who'd actually wanna talk to their girl daily. Don't settle for less than you deserve, okay? You'll find someone who respects you, I know it!

[Asker]

Thank you sooo much!! I’m not even bothered anymore I just found out my mum cancer nothing can hurt more than that

[Oliverlogan263]

Oh no, I'm so so sorry to hear about your mom. That is absolutely devastating news, I can't even imagine how you must be feeling right now. Breakups and relationship drama seem like nothing compared to what your family is going through. Please know that you have so many people here for you during this difficult time - feel free to reach out if you ever need anything at all, whether it's just someone to listen or help with errands or whatever. Your mom is so lucky to have you by her side as she fights this battle. Stay strong, keep your chin up, and know that you've got this whole community behind you every step of the way. Sending so much love and healing your way. You've got this sis, we've got you 💪 ❤️❤️❤️

[Asker]

Awwwww you’re too kind really appreciate this ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[Oliverlogan263]

My pleasure ❤️ I hope and pray you and your mother doing okay through this

[Asker]

We are ok! If she has the operation and then if it’s not spread ( which I’m hoping it hasn’t ) then she will be fine! Just waiting on the specialist

[Oliverlogan263]

Ahhh that's good to hear sis! Fingers crossed the operation goes well and they can remove it all clean. I'm sure if they catch it early like this then her chances are really good.

Still must be nerve-wracking waiting for the specialist appt though. Try distracting yourself with some funny movies or catching up with friends - anything to make the time pass a bit faster!

You're right to stay positive. I just know your moms got a badass fighter for a daughter in her corner, and that's half the battle right there. She's lucky to have you by her side through all this.

Call me anytime if the waiting is stressing you out. I'll help take your mind off it. We'll celebrate like crazy whenever you get the good news from the doc too! Keep that chin up - I'm confident they're gonna say she's all clear. You guys got this!

[Asker]

Awwwww you are the kindest soul!!! Appreciate you ❤️❤️❤️

[Oliverlogan263]

Awww you’re the sweetest cutie pie I’ve had the pleasure of asssiting you. You’re very welcome boo 🥰🥰❤️🌹

[Anonymous]

Unless he's constantly going days without speaking to you, yes you're overreacting. He gave you a valid explanation in the end. Why do people get into relationships to begin if you aren't going to fight for it and are just going to let something minor like this destroy the relationship? Humans are flawed and nobody is perfect all of the time.

[Opinion Owner]

He goes days without talking to you at all or he just doesn't talk to you all day?

[Asker]

He just does not talk all day and then rings me the next day acting all normal he does it quiet often

[strateguy632]

definitely over reacted, he had explanation.