My boyfriend didn’t speak to me for days but didn’t have an excuse? What do I do?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend didn’t talk to me for almost a whole week. I was texting him and he was reading them and not responding. So i texted him today and he finally responded. We hung out and I started asking questions like why wasn’t he answering this and that and he said because he was tired. At first he said he didn’t remember me texting him at all and I showed him the messages which he changed the subject. So I started asking more questions and he starts getting upset and says he doesn’t want me interrogating him and that was another reason why he didn’t text me.

[holdem4884]

There's definitely more going on than what he's said. Think back to before this happened. What was he saying, what has he been hinting at lately? He may be upset or irritated about something and he's not being straightforward about it now. Maybe he wants you to read between the lines or maybe he's losing interest. If he's losing interest, as much as you might want to, don't push him, it will drive him further away.

[Asker]

Accusing me of cheating but said he was joking when he was accusing me. His first excuse for not talking to me was he was tired then it changed to Im delusional and not right in the head. He won’t tell me what I’m delusional about.

We had a disagreement before he went ghost. He always ignored me when that happens but come back the next day. Another time he blocked me for more than a week when I pissed him off. And when he unblocked me I had to text him first.

This time he told me he didn’t remember the disagreement and wasn’t mad at me and was just tired. I’m really confused and don’t get him.

[holdem4884]

He's "just tired" for a week? How old is he, late teens early 20's? No kids to take care of? So what, he works and maybe goes to school but otherwise has no responsibilities other than to himself, right? I'd bet he found plenty of time to text other people during that week. It's not like it takes much effort or time.

Everyone fights and has disagreements, but not everyone is willing to work through problems. Blocking you for a week as he did before is just ridiculous, particularly if you're in a relationship. It's not a lot of info to go on but from what you've said this doesn't sound promising. If this is the way he acts it's not likely to improve over time but rather get only worse. Imagine if you were married and something serious happened that you too had to deal with. It doesn't sound like he's the kind of person you want as a partner.

He might be "tired" of the relationship but he's not sure and isn't up to breaking things off. Making additional excuses after claiming he was just "tired" like that he doesn’t want you interrogating him seems revealing. I feel for you. Maybe he's unsure how he feels, maybe he doesn't want to hurt your feelings or have a confrontation but he's clearly not telling you what's truly on his mind.

[Marked_Man]

First of all, if he was holding some grudge or playing games, you should definitely not put up with that. Also, there's no excuse why he couldn't have said "i don't feel like talking" or "I'm tired ttyl", but ignoring for a week is not acceptable. He might even have been with someone else, who knows?

[DermalPunch]

He might even have been with someone else, who knows? 🎯🎯🎯🎯

[wannabecuck-2]

Move on the people that bring stablity in ur life are imp those people make priorities not excuses as per moods u ll get urself played if u let such bozos take away ur mental peace u ll exhaust urself or could even worse develope self doubt and have trust issues later better to be alone or move on.

[spartan55]

There you go. Sounds like he is tired of you questioning and being up his ass about everything. You don't seem to listen to him much either, and that can't help.

[Kyr0s]

Maybe he was in a bad mood or had something going on in his life he doesn't want to share. Just tell him clearly you don't appreciate him doing that to you.

[Anonymous]

Bro you have mind?
It's clearly visible you're his backup plan.

[DermalPunch]

yep he was lovebombing someone else that week.

[DermalPunch]

Cheating. plain and simple.

[DermalPunch]

been here girly. it stings. he will just disrespect you more and treat you with disgust for demanding answers which you deserve. you are probably still quite attached (perhaps even addicted) because this is a CLASSIC narc move. I could be wrong.