My boyfriend doesn't talk to me for days why?

[chiquita]

When he gets angry at me he doesn't talk to me for days. I don't think it is normal. Don't you want to talk to your partner daily? He gets angry at random things like if I don't inform him regularly when I am out with friends he gets angry.

[Finchie40]

Because he doesn’t truly care about you , you are just a convenience to him , he probably doesn’t like the fact that you go out with friends without him and he is more than likely insecure about you going out with friends without him , basically pushing him away from you , or he is cheating on you and trying to play a victim , trying to make it seem that you are the one that’s on the wrong. Whatever the case maybe , he no longer truly values you , because if he did? He wouldn’t go days without talking to you. You are probably best to end the relationship with him unless you want to try to fix things between you both , have a sit down talk with him and try to set boundaries for each other , don’t just assume you are right and he is wrong , it sounds like something happened between you both for this to occur , So instead of pointing fingers at him , point fingers at yourself first , most guys’ are territorial over a girl he gives his heart to , the fact that you go out without friends without him , might be making him feel insecure that maybe you are up to something that you aren’t telling him? Sadly friends can easily add fire into a relationship , without you really realizing it is. Just because you think what you are doing isn’t wrong , it might be wrong to your boyfriend. So if you want to fix your relationship with him and for things to be better between you both again , Try to compromise with him , understand your partner should be your top priority over everyone else in this world , you choose them the same way you want them to choose you , if you can’t do that for him? He will not be able to do that for you. It needs to go both ways for any relationship to survive and for love to continue to grow. If your friends mean more to you than your boyfriend does? Your relationship probably won’t last too much longer , so if things don’t change between you both , after you have a sit down talk with each other , that’s you or his answer to end the relationship completely and realize you both aren’t good for each other.

[MrOracle]

As usual, most people are instantly blaming the man, but your own words make it quite clear that YOU are the one who is causing this. He's clearly asked you to communicate with him if you are going out with friends, and YOU are the one who is failing to do this. Of COURSE he's upset. If he was going out and leaving you at home and didn't communicate with you, you'd likely be furious. Why shouldn't he feel the same way?

In my relationships, I set clear expectations and boundaries - and I follow the same expectations and boundaries myself. If I was with you, and you went out with friends without me, without my consent, we'd already be over. I don't play those games - I'd pack your shit and leave it in a box outside for you to pick up.

It seems pretty clear to me that you aren't mature enough to be in a relationship. Relationships have boundaries, and require that you make sacrifices. That applies to everyone, man and woman alike. You seem like you want to be in a relationship but just do whatever you want to do like you were single. A smart man would have let you go right back to the streets where you came from if that's where you wanted to be. My problem here is that he's even letting things continue. I sure wouldn't.

[Vesuvius87]

That's how my first ex boyfriend was. Notice I just said ex. What you're dealing with right now is an abuser and likely narcissist.

Is this how you want to continue your life? Do you want to feel like walking on eggshells, be careful not to do nor say anything trivial that'll upset him? Then he'll be soon giving ultimatums that if he don't listen to him, if you don't improve on whatever he wants it's over and he'll block you. Screw that. Controlling people are losers.

Don't even accept controlling treatment not even from a family nor husband. He's just a boyfriend. He's nothing.

[Vesuvius87]

Giving you the silent treatment for anything trivial ISN'T normal.

[DishLady]

It's considered a type of psychological abuse. Yeah, normally people in love speak daily or almost daily...

Whenever someone I know has been with a guy who insists on knowing every single place she goes and every single thing she does... the guy ends up being an abusive dbag. I lived through it with my ex as well... he needed to know who I was talking to, even if it was just my mom... I needed to "clear" everything with him, which I initially thought was just what spouses do with each other, but no... this was different.

This isn't a good guy for you.

[AI Opinion]

Diving into the silent treatment, aren't we? Giving you the cold shoulder for days is far from the hallmark of open, healthy communication. Trust me, sharing daily banter, dreams, and even the mundane details with your partner is like the salsa on your taco—vital for that zing! His getting miffed over not getting regular updates feels a tad possessive, doesn't it?

Let's sprinkle some wisdom here: open communication is key. Try to weave in a warm, heart-to-heart chat about how his silent spells make you feel. It's crucial to establish boundaries and expectations that keep both your hearts fluttering in harmony. Remember, love should feel like a cozy, supportive hug, not a guessing game. 🌈💑

[pancake]

If your boyfriend doesn’t talk to you for days, it might be because he’s dealing with something personal or stressful and doesn’t know how to talk about it. Sometimes people need space to figure out their thoughts and feelings. There could also be a communication gap or a misunderstanding making him feel unheard or unappreciated. He might also just be really busy with work or other things. It’s important to talk to him openly about how you feel. Calmly share your concerns and ask him what's going on. Understanding each other’s needs and improving communication can help avoid these long silences and make your relationship stronger.

[guitar]

If your boyfriend doesn’t talk to you for days, it could be for a variety of reasons. He might be going through something personal or stressful and doesn’t know how to express it. Sometimes, people need a bit of space to sort out their thoughts and feelings. There could also be a communication gap or misunderstanding between you two, making him feel unheard or unappreciated. He might simply be busy with work or other responsibilities. It’s important to talk to him openly about how you feel. Share your concerns calmly and ask him what's on his mind. Understanding each other’s needs and improving communication can help prevent these long silences and strengthen

[Caroline91]

That is emotional abuse and it is manipulative and controlling behavior. The fact that you are with this guy at all indicates that you need to be in therapy to learn how to establish boundaries, establish a healthy relationship and find some self respect. I wish you the best in your efforts to make a better future for yourself.

[OfMiceandMen]

He's trying to control the situation by treating you like a child. Classic control freak indicators. I don't like what you are doing, so I'll give you the silent treatment and make you pay for what you may have done.

[TommyMountainFigure]

It's easily remedied... In future, you tell him when you're going out with friends then he can play his days around you rather than sit there waiting for nothing, and then and he won't ignore you!

Or am I missing something here?

[SphynxUK]

Some people are like that. They are silent. The issue I have is him being angry when you don’t tell him where you are. That’s not really his business is it, since he’s not your keeper.

[JTinSC1981]

Get away from this personality type. They become jealous and controlling and eventually dangerous.

[ProbablyClueless]

It's definitely not normal. It's his way of dealing with conflict and tension. He hates it and can't handle it, so he avoids and postpones dealing with it.

[Daniela1982]

So you are with this guy why? Sounds like he has some anger issues.

[HelpfulWoman]

thats an abusive tactic and NOT normal. You're THIRTY-FUCKING-SEVEN and should be over this shit

[Minky17]

It's not normal and I would replace him if he can't use adult communication skills

[LaurenM1997]

He sounds like he needs anger classes and also if he gets angry when you don’t tell him where you are then he also has controlling issues too

[MisterWack]

Maybe ask him, if you feel there is no repairing this relationship then break up.

[Booklover_90]

That’s indeed a red flag. Sounds like he has some growing up to do.

[Iron_Man]

That’s called ghosting 👻 don’t put up with it

[Anonymous]

For days? That's only reserved for marriages, lol. If your in the boyfriend and girlfriend phase still, that is a lot of red flags.

[Cheerfull009]

You are matured and well experiencerd in relationship, you must know what he want from you

[Anonymous]

he sounds too controlling and when he doesn’t talk to you for days he thinks that he’s punishing you

[spartan55]

And yet you stay with the abuser.

[Wolf_Thunderspirit]

Control alert! Run!!!

[HungTexan]

He is insecure and childish.

[Danny_dan92]

It’s over

[BarryLiverstone]

Because he’s upset