Im a girl who has been talking to this other girl for about 2-3 months nothing long great time together can't lie, anywho about a week ago ( does a little dane) she started to get into an avoiding phase and said she wanted to talk and then ghost me and then set times to talk. Me and he had talks about being avoided and how she hates when people play with her time and I explained vice versa then she did it to me, I felt extremely disrespected and hurt because its something we talked about. None the less we finally talk and she said she doesn't think our friendship should have a extra layer to it i. e sex and or kissing the romantic aspect of it. She said she doesn't see anything long lasting in it and she said she was scared of losing me, asked if we can stay friends. I told her I don't know, I told her honestly I wouldn't have mind if you didn't disrespect me back to back, apologized then did it again, she explained, thats who she is right now she can't promise it won't happen again, and she dosent do it out of ill intent or malice its because of trauma and etc. I dont know, Im deciding like would I be disrespecting myself by putting up with someone who isn't ready to resect me or is it an ego thing where she treats all her friends like this and why would I be any different? The thing is she didn't do this at all while we were involved romantically it was only until the end. So the question is should I be her friend? Im scared I guess because I love and I dont hide my love, and I feel people dont know what to do with that, and people get with me and start to use me for my attention and energy and dont really value me. I just help them in some way and they aren't ready to commit so they say lets just be friends. I dont think she's that type of being yet its hard to tell. I dont see the reason of being friends, I also dont know if Im just protecting myself.
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Should I be her friend?
