Is ok to kick the crap out of a Cheating Boyfriend?

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So I found his phone open and a text to his “friend” saying whe they were gonna meet up.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Never , though its even worse if you kick the crap out of him for reading his private messages to his friends (without his knowledge, which could be perfectly innocent potentially). I'm not going to share a personal lesson, not presuming it will apply to your above description, but it definitely reminds me of a very bad relationship I once had: My ex-gf was always freaking out over my communications (one of many reasons she's an ex). She would be always saying "we should have no secrets so you should give me your email password and ATM pin", I was decisively  NO , but at that time I was very in love with her, so I said " but I will show you all my sent items " (which I did, taking her through them and explaining the contexts, though she didn't listen to the explainations, prefering to take her own interperations). So, we read my messages to my best friend together (where I spoke about her), and she saw nothing but the  very worst  in even the complimentary stuff. I later worked out. unless I was continiously gushing about how perfect she was to everyone, I was immediately to be hated or distrusted (or even bad mouthing her, to her eyes). She wouldn't listen when I explained  what  I was relating to my best friend (e. g. giving context), and it was such a toxic relationship (at the time, we are now not together and still decent, if not regular, friends, I am heading over to help celebrate her boyfriends birthday in the next few days, so this is not something to criticise her, but to highlight how what your talking about is incredibly easy to turn toxic if becoming overly prying or concerned with such matters). All that said, if your certain he's cheating don't bother kicking the crap out of him, his cheating partner will surely be doing that as she's forever paranoid who he's cheating with now, because she knows  for certain  he's a cheater (or if she doesn't know, a good thing to do is fill her in on what she's unaware of so she can leave him too). Problem solved ;). Best of luck.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

1. You know that he is having an affair with the "friend," or is that just your suspicion?

2. If he has not hit you or threatened orbit with physical harm, then you are not justified in attacking him and you will be subject to arrest and prosecution for battery or domestic violence if kick him.

3. What will you accomplish by kicking him? Will it undo his cheating? If your answer is that it will make you feel better, then you should ask yourself what kind of person feels better only by inflicting harm on other people?

Xia1994 · Accepted Answer

nooooooo don't do that just leave him there are tons of single elidable men out here violence is never the answer, girl be careful don't use violence unless it's in self-defense after they hit you first.

IslaTheWitch · Accepted Answer

meeting is not cheating... I suggest solve trust issues and don't violate privacy of your boyfriend. Unlocked phone is a lousy excuse for reading his private stuff.

Avicenna · Answer

Nope- you''ll face charges. Just break up with him.

CalmUntilAbused · Answer

Only if it's OK to kick the crap out of a cheating girlfriend, as well. Which probably means "no" (or at least "no" is the answer expected by the society).

Also... I fully agree with the question making rounds in the other opinions... Are You absolutely sure Your boyfriend is cheating on You? If not, calm down. I probably shouldn't have mentioned it in case I accidentally hit a jackpot and ruin Your surprise, but He might as well be consulting His friend about some gift for You. The oldest one in the book, ask a woman about what another woman would like as a gift.

patrick994 · Answer

As a woman you can only hit a man in self-defence, in case he is harassing or slapping you first.

Violence should never be used to impose oneself, to take revenge or to lord it over an individual, I speak to you as a man, if I ever found out that my girlfriend was cheating on me I would not beat her, I would leave her and look for a better woman, I advise you to do the same.

Then if he were to go to hospital, he could report you for assault and battery, from that point you could be in a lot of trouble, for whom? for what? For a man who doesn't deserve you? It's not worth it to go to the trouble for a man like that.

The_Sexpert · Answer

Ok so you want to physically assault someone because the person was planning to meet up his friend? And you are 60? Don't blame us if he hits back

zagor · Answer

Make sure you know what is going on.

I just talked to a guy who first saw his wife of 30 years when they were in their late teens. He didn't try to meet her because she was riding around on the back of some guys Harley. When they were introduced almost ten years later and started dating they discovered he had seen her that time years earlier. When he mentioned it, she said "That was my brother"...

MrQun · Answer

Let's flip the script: Is it ok to kick the crap out of a cheating girlfriend? If your answer was no, then that should also be the answer to your original question. Consistency is key people. And abuse is never ok regardless of one's gender.

RHK36 · Answer

Why are you 60 acting like a teen still. If you still at 60 picking the wrong guys, maybe it's you seeking drama.

Who asks a group a strangers for advice when you've been on earth longer than most. Grow up already.

Flatmanlewis · Answer

First: There may be a lot more involved in deciding somebody is having an affair? Second: you are not some high school girl and should have both more maturity and stability than this.

Anonymous · Answer

At your age, can you really kick the crap out of anyone? Depends if ya need him around for other reasons. Will he accept the beating and stay? If so, yes, kick his ass. Make sure you give him noticeable wounds he can't cover up so he has to explain it to the other woman, and his friends.

Viola_456 · Answer

I. would definetly do that 😅 he deserves it so dont worry, it might make you feel better.

superchan2011 · Answer

As tempting as it is to do, I would say just kick his ass to the curb. You'll find a guy out there who won't cheat on you and knows how to stay loyal to you.

Chelsdope0 · Answer

Mmmm, I say do something more strategic and worse.

Whitey_Johnson · Answer

It's never ok to physically attack someone. You can be charged with assault and battery. You're not a cop, you can't get away with that.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

At 60 you should probably not be doing things which could result in you getting hit.

aceleon · Answer

he would prefer you having sex with him instead of breaking up with him i bet.

slatyb · Answer

No, it's not. Dump him,. Living well is the best revenge.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Meet up doesn't automatically mean cheating, does the text actually suggest he's cheating? Or could it be just meeting a friend to hang out?

JacobJordan · Answer

Yes it most certainly is... are you stupid? Of course it is felony assault

DextroShade · Answer

I hope he knocks your teeth out if you try it! That women think this sort of behavior is acceptable is ridiculous!

Yannae · Answer

Not a good idea, you're just lowering yourself to his level.

Anonymous · Answer

are you also going to kick the crap out of the girl tho?

Dongie · Answer

If you're serious you need some professional help.

OtterMan68 · Answer

if you were cheating on him, would it be OK for him to kick the crap out of you?

Starrrboy · Answer

Nope.. he hurt you emotionally not physically.. give it back the same way !..

AngryCarl · Answer

The law says no, and you could get into trouble.

TallAnon · Answer

Nope, violence is never acceptable; And don't give him a reason to kick back.

shortster · Answer

Best to ditch him. You don't want to get arrested for assault.

Apple1996 · Answer

A kick would be too nice

Billlewis · Answer

Yes, ma'am, absolutely.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Sounds fair to me!

exitseven · Answer

Yes, kick him right in the nuts.

Alex-Snow · Answer

Maybe you need some more info

Sameone · Answer

Did you text his friend or he texted his friend?

euniestars · Answer

no but like do it lol

jahaims · Answer

Why not just cut contact

Bobby88t · Answer

Yes you are right! He deserve it!

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on how good prison is

strateguy632 · Answer

not okay.

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

Nope

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