I'm still dumping him. I ain't staying with no cheater.
I got bombarded with calls, which I ignored. His gift was a wrapped old shoebox. Inside there was an ugly b-day card calling him every single bad words, along with the evidence.
Depends what reputation you want.
In my opinion there's no logical reason to add salt to a fresh wound besides your own personal emotional vendetta.
If you think you'll receive huge satisfaction, and won't regret any potential consequences, go for it.
However do take a moment to think about whether you would want this done to you, regardless of whether you (hypothetically) cheated on a guy or not.
If I was with a woman and found she cheated, I wouldn't stay with her, just like In your case. But I wouldn't go out of my way to ruin their day, potentially ruin their reputation and lives. Out of respect for her.
Regardless of what gets said and who did what, you'll both be dealing with some emotional pain. At least, if you were both together for a while, and truly liked each other, and it wasn't a superficial relationship. I guarantee without the added sting of this being on his birthday, he'll still be sad to see you go, and having been through breakups before, as a guy, that pain lasts a long time. From my experience, a lot longer than the woman, even when it was mutual.
He depends on how vindictive you truly want to be. Are you going to do it on his birthday or you and I do it when everybody's around and shove his face into the cake. But my pick is to send a quick master saying fuck you, I found out. You cheated. And tell him its over.
yes, I'm feeling better that I got rid of the POS. I'm currently getting bombarded with missed calls on my phone, asking to another chance. I only texted him a ''get lost'' message.
Hey. I get how you're feeling. It hurts. It hurts like hell. But guess what? He doesn't know what's coming. So, be the bigger person over here and choose to dump him before his birthday ( that way you won't have to get him a gift😉) Just cause he didn't know what he had and did something utterly ridiculous and stupid doesn't mean that you do too. So, do the right thing and talk to him about this earlier. He might have done something wrong and he so deserves it but do you really care anymore? Forget him. Live your life. He does not matter anymore. Just don't stoop to his level cause you have much more class than him girl. And you need to prove it now. Good luck!
Let me improve your plan.. On his birthday dress up, look amazingly sexy "for him" and tell him you got him something..
- Sit him down
- Walk out with a huge cake and candles and set it down on the table
- He looks down and it reads "Happy Bday CHEATING ASSHOLE. FUCK YOU piece of shit. "
- Before he reacts, push his head down n slam his face into the cake
- Tell him "Don't ever call me again and don't ever think you can disrespect me like that stupid mother fucker"
- Walk away, go home and block him on everything.
GOOD FOR YOU GIRL I AM SO FRICKING PROUD OF YOU, NOW MOISTURIZE, STAY GORG AND LIVE YOUR BEST LIFE UNTIL THE RIGHT ONE COMES ALONG AND KEEP UP THAT SELF RESPECT U DID GOOD
Sure, he cheated, the day is irreverent, he clearly wasn't thinking about your feelings when he cheated, why should you think of his.
EXACTLY.
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If you really wana have fun with it... get a picture of the chick and put it in a card. On the front of the card or envelop put, "guess who you can always call for birthday sex..." on the back of the picture write... "yeah it's over."
A cheater needs to be dumped no matter what day it is!
Yeah, fuck him and his stupid birthday.
Lmao those thumb downs... think we found our cheats. šš
Lol, they probably cheated and got dumped on there birthdays :P
Wow look at all these guys defending the cheaterš
Wait.. how's "dont wait to break up, do it now" defending the cheater?
I went to my ex's (then gf) place to break up with her. (Valid reasons.) When I arrived I noticed she was in a fight with her parents. (One of the reasons, she was always in a fight with her parents.) I broke up anyway. Not to be extra mean, but because I wanted to end it as quickly as possible.
Delaying the end of something you dont like doesn't do good for anyone. Including yourself.
That's good but I wasn't referring to that comment
I like how 8 dislikes from guys and only 1 from a girl xD cheaters are absolute shit lmao
That update made my day.
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Okay. So it's been a few days since you dumped him. How does it feel? If you could go back and do it again, what would you do differently?
I'm feeling good. If I would do it again, nothing would change.
Like Chris Rock said in one of his stand up shows. If a female is chasing a man boy adolescent or senior He can't run fast enough. Just can't.
My question to you is. What are you not doing to stop his eyes from looking elsewhere? Or what are you doing?
Even if a man is a Pastor filled with the Holy Spirit serving a congregation large or small, it is hard but very possible to stay committed to one woman. It is very difficult. So imagine an undiciplined wet behind the ear child walking around in a adult body that is constantly bombarded with sensuality and sex everywhere we imcluding women go. What does one really expect. Im not excusing him or his cheating behind. If you cannot forgive him and gibe him a break them by all means make his birthfay one for the books. He will never forget you!! Thats for sure. And will always rhink hard and long on the feelings rhat are going to griwve his little heart. Hold on son. Its coming down the chute to coldcock you right in the balls. Im stickin to it.
Thank you. Nope, I can't forgive cheating.
Who wants to be dating a vengeful and vindictive person because somebody cheated you? That says a lot how evil the person is. Don't be wicked. Tell him now. Don't embarrass him, it make you look bad. No wonder why so many of you have psychological problems. And emotional baggage.
Hell yes go for it... You shouldn't have been cheated on... Go for it do it on his b-day... But.. hope you got proof and... If u do my advice is go act like nothing is wrong... And when the right time is maybe like when he opens his gifts you could say I got a gift and splash him with something like water or soda etc and show him the proof that he did cheat on you etc
But just be careful because men can take it seriously then before u know it u will. Get hurt so just be careful what u do...
And hopefully he won't find u etc
Go for it
I would personally prefer to dump him as soon as possible (because I am impatient), but I can understand where you are coming from. Guys who claim you sound like a vindictive bitch or are afraid of you... why would a decent guy need to be afraid of you? They don't cheat. You are the one who has every right to be afraid, hurt and yes, even angry and a little vindictive. It's not like you are planning to ruin his life, destroy his property or kill him. You are just dumping him on his birthday. He cheated on you. Much, much worse.
This is petty af and if you dump him on his birthday just to get revenge or whatever you feel youāre going to get from doing so, then youāre letting him lower you to his level, and you shouldnāt allow a man to have that much power over you to the point where youāre staying with someone who disrespected you so you can dump him on his birthday? For what? For who? 😂 (in my opinion) this would be pathetic regardless of what heās done to you. Him being a dickhead shouldnāt motivate you to want to be one too 😂 itās not a competition to see who can hurt who more, keep it classy, if youāre going to leave him then just leave babes all this plot twisting is mad childish 😭but do what you want tho
It's perfectly ok.
Why wouldn't it be? Birthdays don't grant someone immunity from suffering the ramifications of their actions. They don't even entitle anyone to special treatment unless they're 5 years old.
You're under no obligation to stay with someone who is disrespectful and disloyal to you.
I don't know.
I'm glad you're dumping him... You shouldn't have to stay with a cheater, so I'm glad you're leaving him and moving on, but...
Waiting for a particular, special day to him, to break up with him, in the hope you will hurt him more, seems vindictive.
Not UNFAIRLY vindictive. I mean, he did betray you. He deserves it. But going the extra mile to hurt him MIGHT reflect badly on you to some people, and...
Well, if you leaving him doesn't upset or hurt him, it will have all been for no reason, anyways.
Do what you want, but I still think the best thing to do would be to just break up now, asap, and move on.
If you feel the world needs to know why, then take to Facebook, if you and him and your friends all have it, and be brutally honest about why you're leaving him.
As long as it's not in front of his or your friends.
Keep it private, but yeah... I think that'd be great. Nice touch to it. Maybe in a "sweet" love letter. And at the end mention. "Her" or something haha.
Be sure he's actually cheating though! Sorry you had to go through that. Some guys are real douchebags.🙏🏼
Thank you. Now I'm trying to find a way he'll stop calling. He won't stop calling.
Love all the pointless comments.
Cheating is pointless you fags.
Her getting some joy out of trying to make him feel is her supporting herself through some crap she really shouldn't have to know about. You fags can always say, "this isn't working." Leave the broken heart and move on. Instead y'all want to break the heart and salt the wound. Pathetic. If individuals want to address a cheater in a spiteful manner to feel better about what happened to them that's a point for them. She could kill him. Take it that far before dialing it back or writing it off and enabling the act of cheating like it's a right of passage.
Any day is a perfect day to dump a cheater, but waiting until his birthday which is just a couple of days away will be a supreme way to get rid of him. I'd get a real sweet card and then put the go get fucked message in the card. Would be hysterical watching the look on his face. If he has given you some stuff you want to rid yourself of wrap it up as his gift.
No. By doing this you reflect how much it hurt you and it'll only make it harder for you to get over him. Also it won't hurt him that much because many people will be on his side on his birthday and he'll be surrounded by people who love him. The right thing for you to do is let him know now that you knkw he cheated and break up with him and put him in the friend zone. Never agree to meet him and don't pick up the phone when he calls. He'll get obsessed and you'll move on quickly
Absolutely.
I would do this myself if I was in this position and had the opportunity. If he cheated on you, he absolutely deserves it. And every year heāll remember it was the day he got dumped. Iād also make a cake that had āI know you cheatedā on it in icing. Not even kidding, donāt let him eat the cake either.. Cheaters donāt deserve cake.
If possible, dump him when heās in public with his friends and group and such for max humiliation. Good luck, I hope the lying son of a bitch cries.
I like how people are actually saying "no dats mean ur mean ur a bad person u shud feel like shit"
Dude give me a fucking break will you? xD
Not everyone is as needy and insecure as you to keep a cheating partner, and do you even realize how bad cheating is? It's the biggest dick move and the worst thing anybody can do, the most hurtful thing. So dumping a cheater on their birthday is NOTHING compared to what they've done, so sit the fuck down :)
āHappy birthday! As your gift, you no longer have to sleep with other women behind my back!! Why? Because Iām leaving your cheating, lying ass!ā
He deserves it. Plain and simple. He violated your trust and disrespected not only you, but your relationship as well.
YES. If they cheat then they deserve it most on their birthday or anniversary or some other "big day". If they care so little about you that they would do that, then they deserve to be feel just as bad. Or at least as much as you badly as you can make someone like that feel.
Im very vindictive though so you might want to take my opinion with a grain of salt lol
Do you have any evidence of him cheating on you? Chat logs or pictures?
Print those out and wrap it as a disguised gift and give it to him on his birthday. Be sure you can escape safely. You don't want to get hurt by him if he gets violent.
Cool and yes I have both a picture of them kissing (taken by my best friend) and a text message about disgusting details about their affair.
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