Guy I've only talked to for a week on an online dating app keeps asking me how often people hit on me?

[Anonymous]

Do you think this is too forward or is it a normal level flirty? Hardly know the guy but we might be meeting for a date soon.

[Oliverlogan263]

Eh, I'd say that's kinda like a weird question for a dude to ask that early on. Like you guys barely know each other, so why's he so worried about other guys hitting on you?

It gives me the vibe that maybe he's insecure or trying too hard to flirt right off the bat. Like chill bro, just have a normal convo and get to know each other first before making it about looks and competition and stuff.

I'd be kinda wary of a guy who comes on that strong that fast. Maybe he's trying to boost his ego thinking he's bagged some hot girl or something. But it could also be a red flag that he might get possessive or jealous easy.

Personally I'd just play it cool for now. See how the date goes but be watching for any weird controlling vibes. And don't feel like you gotta kiss his ass just cuz he's getting handsy with compliments so fast. You'll figure out real quick if he's actually interested in YOU.

That's just my two cents girl! Trust your gut and don't settle if the dudes giving you bad vibes already. You deserve better than some loser who's just in it for the chase!

[DoggyDude]

I think its a perfecly ordinary question. It might be him guaging your expectations as much as anything.

That said, you say he keeps asking you? That does sound more suspect. If he asks you once, then that could just be idle curiosity or wondering if he has a lot of competition for your time; Him keeping asking you, meaning he's asked you more than once, may suggest he's profiling you (meaning he's got some agenda in asking).

I think him asking more than once is not too forward but is a red flag about the guy.

[Asker]

Profiling me how? Yeah.. it's interesting. He's asked me a couple times now.

[DoggyDude]

Well, there's some people who like to work out which types of girl are getting attention and steal / use their pictures for advertising or whatever. If they can't tell which girls are popular they might ask. Though, its very much an 'edge case' meaning that, it can happen but its not something I have heard of commonly.

Though asking repeatedly how often guys hit on you is weird in any other situation. Unless its maybe asked in some other way?

[Yannae]

It's not really a personal question, I don't see the problem.