Why does the guy I’m dating only message me once a week to meet up?

[Anonymous]

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I’m confused because there's a lot of sign that he also likes me. Recently when I got out of his car, he said “love you” for the first time he usually says he likes me or he likes me a lot. He also calls me babe, baby, sweetie, cutie. And says I’m beautiful. And I blocked him cuz I said he’s using me to him. And he messaged me through another app and said “I’m not using you, we met eleven times in the beginning and I didn’t have sex with you, if I were after two times seeing you I’d stop talking

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To you”. He always buys food for me every time and feeds me with spoon. And he always initiates contact. He used to text me everyday but now he doesn’t.

[Pinay_ako]

Probably because he’s busy at work, he’s too tired to go out after work and he’d rather crash to bed and rest. As long as he’s keeping you in the loop, just have to be understanding. But if he doesn’t, and only hits you up once a week, nah that’s a red flag. He got a family or you’re booty call. Sorry 😣

[Asker]

He says that he’s busy and that he works full time and have to go to gym after

[BlackBeauty90]

ROFL. During COVID I worked 60 hours a week. My boyfriend worked 50 hours a week. We communicated MORE than just whenever we wanted to "hook up". Be real. There's busy. And there's using someone for SEX and NOTHING beyond sex.

[RingOfFire]

I dated someone a few years ago and she said her family used to call me her Friday boyfriend because I always took her out on Friday nights. For me it wasn't that I didn't care for her a lot, it was that I had an extremely demanding job and the weekends were the only time I could see her. I told her that it would have to be that way for a couple of years and then I would have more time. Not sure what the reasons are here, but maybe it is similar to this. I understood when she used to tell me that I was putting my work before her. In a way she was probably right and I probably would have felt that way too. But to me, I was putting in the work now, so we could have a better life together later.

[Lionman95]

Because that´s the way he´s comfortable. He might be a guy that only messages to exchange information and for the bond between the two of you is mainly created by the time you spend together.

[Lionman95]

Thanks for the MHO. I hope my comment is helpful.

[BlackBeauty90]

Because you're NOT dating.

You're a "booty call" and nothing beyond that.
You're good for sex & nothing beyond that.

You're NOT dating material, you'll NEVER be dating material to him. You're cheap sex, just a step above prostitute, & nothing beyond that.

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Honestly. Get some self respect.

[hbg84]

Im glad a woman said it. I was about to say basically the same thing.

[Lis-the-librarian]

BS.

He doesn't have 5minutes for a phone call?

Even Elon Musk isn't that busy. Just using you.

Guys as well. If a woman doesn't initiate or really show you that she wants to spend time with you and you constantly have to chase them, then run for the hill and don't look back.

[Alli39]

If that's the entirety of your interaction (like you don't message/call outside of your meet-ups) then he might just not be very invested in your relationship.

[madhatters4]

- they're busy

- that's the amount of interaction they feel is necessary

does he message you at other times even if it isn't about meeting up?

[BlackJeep]

It's not a relationship if your only talking once a week. A busy guy will find time for you if he wants to.

[SnowedIn]

He's probably married.

Or he's busy with work and then has to take care of life on one of his off days.

[sheikalana]

Seems like he doesn't like to text and texts you only when he has something important to say. I'm like that too.

[Paris13]

Keep him Blocked. Once a Week to Meetup? Booty Raw Call. xxoo

[Jazzy54]

He’s probably married and you’re his dirty little secret.

[RHK36]

You were definitely a sneaky link. When a guy loves you, you'll know because you'll have his attention.

[hbg84]

Im sorry but you're not dating him. You're nothing but a booty call. If anything you're his fuck buddy nothing more than that.

[serious_miss419]

Things are going at his pace and you’re following his lead.


He’s using you

[Pohjolan]

To clarify you two are not dating exclusively at this point?

[WhitneySnow]

Maybe he’s super busy?

[DreamLife7]

Because he's not dating you.

[DreamLife7]

He's not dating you lol. He doesn't text you, he hasn't asked you to be a girlfriend, get it through your thick ass skull. If he were dating you , you wouldn't be asking us questions

[Asker]

I understand, though he said we are but doesn’t act like it

[Asker]

Lol chill

[DreamLife7]

He never said that you just assumed

[Anonymous]

Cause once a week is the max you get off in CIA

[OddBeMe]

You’re his side piece.

[normandi]

You got to be Ray Charles not to see

[peterrezeeek]

he doesn't respect u

[In_Trance]

You blocked him