My mom doesn’t let me have a boyfriend why is that?

[littleredd]

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how would i know if the guys got me pregnant?

[MysteriousDarkness]

You ask about why your mom won't let you have a boyfriend. You also asked how you would k ow the guy got you pregnant? In one reply you said my boyfriend msged me today saying have fun being a single mom and blocked me but in another reply you said ww won't have sex. In another reply you admitted to having sex with this guy who is 20 and his friend.

Here are the red flags
1. You say you won't have but also claim you did
2. If you actually did have sex with him (20 years of age) and his friend (most likely 18+) then you were raped.
3. Not sure how to figure out if you are pregnant or not.
You come across as very immature but that is to be expected since you are 13.

[littleredd]

i went on the date sneaked out and they ended up having sex with me and now they blocked me

[MysteriousDarkness]

You are not proving you are capable of making good decisions. You are sneaking around and going on dates with adults and having sex. By law they raped you.

[MysteriousDarkness]

@littleredd I would have to agre with your mom.

[andreasderjuengere]

You're still 'depending' on your Mom's decisions. You "aren't there" yet :)
I'm not suggesting to disobey; it's just that with the boyfriend/girlfriend thing also comes: some self responsibility and self handling.
Your Mom does her mom-job not out of spite, but out of love.

[littleredd]

whatchu mean?

[andreasderjuengere]

I mean that your ideas about having a boyfriend are incomplete.

[laly520]

cuz u r still a minor n u aren't mature enough n bad guys r everywhere, they could manipulate u, take advantage of u n lot more

focus on school for now

when I was at same age as u I wondered the same, didn't get it back then n I felt angry but now I get it all

dont rush into relationships n boys, u will get there when time comes

[littleredd]

i like a boy tho :(

[MrDaveAPSI]

I don't think you like HIM, i think you like the attention you're getting from him

[laly520]

I agree with @mrdaveapsi
at such age its only a temporary period of liking someome then it pass

[littleredd]

i like him.

[MrDaveAPSI]

No you like his ATTENTION, trust me

[Joshydavid25]

"at such age its only a temporary period of liking someome then it pass."

There was this one girl who liked me right off the bat in 5th grade.. Developed a big crush on me. And still had a couple of years later in 7th grade.. I gave her virtually no attention.. Sure she was infatuated, but she had that crush for a few years. So she probably likes that boy..

[laly520]

its the case for the most teens n pre teens

[Daniela1982]

Probably doesn't want you to get pregnant is my guess. More than 1 million teens get pregnant every year, and she doesn't want you to be one of them. Because in the majority of the cases, the girl's mother is the one that has to take care of it.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Because boys at that age want sex so badly, you probably have never wanted anything as badly as a boy at that age wants to... I'm just gonna leave it there and say that when it starts makes sense to you that's when you'll be ready.

[littleredd]

i went on a date lastnight :(

[Telekinetic-Potato]

How was it

[littleredd]

him n his friend just bend me over took turns and told me have fun being a single mom and left me

[Telekinetic-Potato]

could've gone worse

[David94358]

There is 2 questions there, why your mom won't let you have a boyfriend and also how you would know if a guy got your pregnant..

Seems the answer to your first question was answered by your second

[littleredd]

:( my boyfriend msged me today saying have fun being a single mom and blocked me :(

[David94358]

Are you pregnant?

[littleredd]

I don't know :(

[David94358]

Did you have sex with him? did you use protection? Did he ejaculate inside of you?

How long ago was that? There is options with plan B that you will have to talk to your parents about

[littleredd]

yes.
protection?
I don't know?
at like 3 am

[David94358]

Yes protection like a condom
If you didn't use a condom you need to tell your mom right now that you had unprotected sex. The longer you wait the less effective the plan B will work. Tell your mom right now

[littleredd]

i don’t think condoms weee used

[David94358]

You are running out of time to fix this. Get off of gag and tell your mom you had unprotected sex

Plan B can prevent pregnancy after you have sex, but it's effectiveness drops down the longer you wait.

Tell her right now

[TommyMountainFigure]

You should try asking her. I suspect though you already have, and she says something like , "as long as you are living under my roof, you will do what I say?"

[ChicoFromThe305]

If you are actually 13 then it's the age, it's quite a young age for dating, not because you are necessarily immature to date but the people you date might, they are protecting You, even tho it might not seem that way.

[rosemilk]

looking at your age, it's because you're 13 and don't have a use for relationships at that age.

[NewgodOmega]

Coz you mom is a women and she knows single female arw the happiest group that's scientifically proven. She is trying to keep you safe and you are not listening

[PBandJ_Nerd]

I'd say it's because she doesn't want anyone to hurt you. I was never allowed to date as a teenager.

[RebelinSteel]

I would guess it’s age and she wants you to concentrate on education and growing up.

[littleredd]

oh :(

[RebelinSteel]

There is plenty time

[Miristheiss]

13?

Because you aren't old enough for that yet.

[littleredd]

yes.

[genericname85]

i would say the reason for that is cause you're 13 and she doesn't know how to properly rise a child but she's scared that you get pregnant.

[littleredd]

like her

[genericname85]

well it is completely normal for a parent to want their child not to make the same mistakes they made.

[sheikalana]

You're 13! Why do you need to have a boyfriend at 13?

[Kelly6]

@sheikalana for virginity i guess

[sheikalana]

@Kelly6 what do you mean for virginity?

[Kelly6]

@sheikalana
i mean to have sex with

[sheikalana]

@Kelly6 at 13? She's freaking 13 she's a child FFS.

[Kelly6]

@sheikalana
yes she is 13, but now a days girls start having sex from 13 or 14.
this is not something new to me

[Kelly6]

@sheikalana
current generation is not what you think.

[sheikalana]

@Kelly6 maybe is not what you think.

[Kelly6]

@sheikalana
tbh i hope i'm wrong.

[Joshydavid25]

Because she is trying to protect you.. You're 13 and need to focused on school.. LOL..

[Staximus]

Probably because she doesn't want you to get pregnant

[littleredd]

we not gonna have sex?

[riverrat3]

Good to play it safe

[jahaims]

You are a child. A romantic relationship is pointless at your age.

[littleredd]

why?

[shortster]

She wants you to enjoy your childhood while it still lasts?

[shortster]

I think that the problem is that you want to date a 20 year old man and not someone your own age. When you are underage you should date people who are your own age. Also if you don't know how to find out if you're pregnant; you are definitely too young to be having sex.

[littleredd]

:( i had sex with him and his friend lastnight and today i saw he blocked me

[shortster]

You should tell your mom and the cops

[riverrat3]

Maybe she thinks you should wait till you are as old as you look

[riverrat3]

How old is the boy you like

[littleredd]

how old i look?
his 20

[riverrat3]

You look a good bit older than 13, you look nice, she may not like the age difference

[littleredd]

she hasn’t meet him

[riverrat3]

What type of date are you expecting

[riverrat3]

How old is your sis's boyfriend

[littleredd]

his 14

[riverrat3]

Could that be the difference

[riverrat3]

What will you do on your date

[littleredd]

he said dinner and a shown

[riverrat3]

Sounds fun

[riverrat3]

It would take awhile to know if you are pregnant

[BigBootyKay]

She thinks you’re to young

[littleredd]

i am not too young

[BigBootyKay]

I know

[Booklover_90]

Maybe it’s because you’re 13, my dear.

[littleredd]

but my sis 14 and she has a boyfriend?

[MrDaveAPSI]

That doesn't make it right

[littleredd]

well :( i’m trying to figure out why i can’t date

[MrDaveAPSI]

Doesn't matter, you're 13

[littleredd]

:( my parent gonna kill me

[MrDaveAPSI]

You're 13

[littleredd]

okay and?

[MrDaveAPSI]

You're 13, you're too young

[MrDaveAPSI]

You would miss your period. If you're actively having them at your age. Some girls do, some girls don't

[littleredd]

i started my period at 11

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