Do you prefer being ghosted or being rejected when flirting with someone?

[thatshydork]

For anyone who doesn’t know, to ghost someone is basically to never text them back even though you’ve seen the message or you’ve seen that they’ve messaged you.

Ghosted

Rejected

[godfatherfan]

Anyone that "ghosts" a person is a sniveling coward and a piece of trash. Be a grown up and talk to the person. Tell them what the issue is. If you don't want to go out with them, tell them. Same goes to anyone that breaks up over text. have the balls to speak with the person. There are a whole lot of sad people out there.

[Screenwriter]

Neither of these options is COMFORTABLE, and they're pretty much the same, except ghosted is usually LESS painful because it's not done in person.

However, sometimes people ghost you that you've known for decades. And you never know what happened. Did you do something? Did something happen to them?

If it's simply flirting with someone you vaguely or don't know at all, being rejected on the spot isn't painful at all. They aren't interested and you know right away. That's easy.

[Damiyah_Dahmer]

I’d definitely rather be rejected. Just get it over with, rip it off like a bandaid. Ghosting just shows you have no balls at all to be straight up or you’re just trying to keep an extension open, just in case your first choice rejects you, in which case I’d have no interest whatsoever in that type of person anyway so you might as well reject me so I don’t reject you first.

[ManOnFire]

I'd rather her say Yes to a date and get my dick sucked same day. Jk😆

Of course I'd rather be rejected. That shows me you at least have courage and upfront honesty.

[Hardshell1234]

Naughty! Haha. But I agree about the honesty. Just say goodbye at least don’t be a wimp.

[ManOnFire]

@Hardshell1234 Hey, if she's down for the date and a good suck I'm game🤣 Ghosting leaves you feeling terribly empty and hurt, especially if you were seeing that person for some time.

[Hardshell1234]

Haha!
And yes it does. Hurt and confused.

[pinkchampagne97]

I’d rather be rejected and I’d rather reject than ghost someone too. It has happened a lot of times someone to ghost me and quite few times someone to reject me but I can say it hurts more to be ghosted cause there is always this kind of feeling and thought in me that is staying on my mind like “what did I do wrong” … so I’d rather be clear with the person about my feelings and I would expect the same even though is the harder thing to do tho. But it is more respectful for both sides.

[DJB72]

I'm not into texting unless I've got an established friendship with you. Have the guts to simply say "I'm not interested". Traditionally you can actually build a friendship on that kind of honesty.

Of course, that requires being adults. In modern life, ghosting and blocking are the equivalent of my 5 year old stamping his foot, pouting and standing facing the wall.

Grow the fuck up.

[Anonymous]

I think that it's only right to be up front and polite about it. I've been rejected a fair bit does it hurt yeah. But it's much nicer to hear that they just aren't interested in you that way. They nicest rejection I had she basically just said that she was looking for someone much closer and didn't want to do long distance. And I'm still super appreciative of her being so kind and honest about it.

I think it's both unfair to ghost someone and pretty cowardly most of the time. If they keep trying to contact you and that after your nice about it then ghosting I would say is fair.

[Mybeachlife8888]

I think it’s pretty dumb to rather be ghosted…. Those people must be the types that like to lie to themselves. Rejection isn’t the end of the world unless you’re an egomaniac. I love answering questions if anyone here has any to ask a guy that has lots of experience ;-)

[Drew-1990]

Rejection sucks badly but I still rather have that then Ghosted at least then I know and maybe if you are willing I can actually figure out if I did something or not.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Rejection can sometimes be fun.. Not knowing whether the other person is dead or alive certainly isn't!

[EmmaMary]

I can't say that I recall ever having those experiences.

[thegreenyogi]

I'd prefer to be rejected face to face. That said if someone ghosts me first and then comes back after a while I will tell that person what I think and then ghost them back.

[Anonymous]

I’d like the truth. Ghosted leaves way too much open for interpretation. A certain man here from GAG basically ghosted me and it hurt for a while.

[Valdemort]

Ghosting is honestly just disrespectful and immature. At least have the decency to let them know.

[deus_ex_sisyphus]

Personally, I use rejection as fuel to push me to new heights. Ghosting just doesn't burn the same way, so I'd much rather feel the heat, directly.

[Still-alive]

Just tell me straight up that its over please. Ghosting hurts me badly and worse that her telling me bad things instead

[MushyKiwi]

Agreed, it's screwed up when they don't tell you whats wrong

[Nikki1989]

I don't text, so I couldn't care less about that, and I have never been rejected to know what that is like.

[Booklover_90]

I’d rather be rejected. Ghosting just shows how much of a coward you are.

[Rangers]

If you don't like me, just say it, I won't get mad, i will ask why, so I know what I need to work on to better myself

[DrPepper12]

TBH in would depend on how interested I was and how much I invested in attempt.

[bobby_bush_eater]

Rejected 100%. I can't even fathom why anyone would choose ghosted

[SolitarySolace]

Either way I’m living my life the way I want to and not the way someone else wants me to.

[Anonymous]

I'd rather be introduced to her hotter friend or sister who I end up fucking.

[Jay-_-]

Honestly I could care less both are bad but I guess rejected 🤷🏽