Would you rather be rejected or ghosted?

[coachTanthony]

Rejected

Ghosted

see poll ( Don't ghost me Coach )

[Cynicaldreamer]

Okay, so let's start off with an obvious statement: they BOTH suck. I, along with most adults have been through both.

If you haven't? Your time will come. In the meantime, most of us don't want to hear how easy dating is for you. With that out of the way...

I prefer being rejected... you know, considering the circumstances. And I mean a real, honest rejection where the guy admits I'm not his type or he's not attracted to me.
Not some cliche, sugar-coated letdown, such as, "You deserve someone better than I am..." or, "I'm not ready to date [you] right now."

Yeah it hurts, but it's like ripping off a bandaid: it hurts at first, but over time you move on.

Being ghosted? Don't get me started... I can go on a soap box with that and my feelings towards ghosters.
When you're ghosted there's no closure so to speak. You're left wondering why they left you: was it you, them, or something else? Will they come back? Did something happen?

There's too many what ifs, and yeah, it's emotionally and mentally scarring in some cases. Especially if it happens a lot, because then it plays a toll on one's self esteem.

So while I'm bitter as hell about being rejected by a crush or guy I like, I DO get over it eventually. And respect that no, I was not his type.
But ghosters? Y'all make me sick.

[coachTanthony]

Ghosters are the worse. I agree 100 percent.

[Sarahr123]

It will never come down to it because I don’t care enough about anyone to be ghosted OR rejected. I have only been in one long term relationship from 15-present and ghosting doesn’t occur when a relationship has been that long. Desertion is a possibility but I highly doubt it given the dynamic.

I hate the concept of dating and would only ever be in relationships with the purpose/goal of it ending in marriage.

I am not a frivolous person so I don’t talk to a lot of men like that and men I associate myself with aren’t dickhead enough to do anything like that.

Lastly I don’t get attached that easily. Especially not to strangers or people I have merely spoken to online or seen a few times in person. If they ever do ghost me I probably won’t even notice let alone care. I’d be indifferent to it. I have only a select few people in my life whom I genuinely care about and apart from them the doors of my heart are closed for the outside world. Nobody can enter it for anything they do to affect me.

[ChrisMaster69]

Rejected. I value straight up talking and just say ‘Chris fed up with you bye’ or ‘Chris, it’s time we did our own thing, please don’t text or call etc’. That makes it nice and simple.

Personally Ghosting sucks, as I do actually care about people and the first thing I think about is not, fuck they are ghosting me, it’s are they okay, has there been a problem.

Ghosting is a really shit was of doing things with another person.

to me it makes them less than they should be.

a male friend of mine has done this a few times to girls and we have said enough is enough. He is seriously on last warning with our social group and will be kicked out (not sure if we can Ghost him lol jk)

What usually happens is he ghosts a girl, the girl then contacts each of us asking what’s up and one of us eventually tells her, which is shit.

on a personal note, it plays havoc with my depression and PTSD side of things, luckily I’ve never really had it in the real world, mainly from online dating etc.

[ChrisMaster69]

@coachTanthony thank you most appreciated

[TheorionMage]

While being flat out rejected initially is MORE crushing. Understand the 'pain' you feel is actually a neurological chemical withdrawal from life's MOST evolved addictive bonding hormones.

That's 'why' those who don't participate in 'friends with benefits' rebound relationships go through
a period of 'cold turkey' withdrawal.

Your brain had grown accustomed to that stimulation to release YOUR 'happy' drugs... if you don't replace that person who held the 'key' to your emotional 'medicine cabinet' with another 'key holder... the 'higher' your happiness had been the DEEPER will be your withdrawal depression.

Most just have to 'suck it up' and endure the slow return to 'neutral' emotions.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

At least with rejection, there's closure.. People ghost and some people still expect/hope they'll call/text, but they already moved on to the next "victim"...

[coachTanthony]

Agreed

[poneglyphs]

true as someone who gets ghosted a lot, it sucks. :(

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@poneglyphs sorry to hear that

[Chikky]

I can deal with rejection, at least you'll talk to me on where it went wrong, why it won't work out. But the latter is confusion and disorientation

[Account]

I am at a point where I can deal with both.

[Paolaa988]

Ghosting because its disrespectful and it leaves you wondering wtf went wrong, its frustrating, rude, and cowardly because it shows that person dont have the balls to be honest with you. Id rather have a guy say he isn't into me or wants someone else then "click block" goodbye like what the actual fuck? Most of the time some ghosters have girlfriends too at least from my experience so their not good people and lack maturity.

[Paolaa988]

I mean id rather be rejected than ghosted!

[electromagnetic]

Reject me on the spot no hesitation. Getting ghosted is the worse feeling on the planet. You don’t know if it’s because of your looks, personality, or what you said during dinner. Everything is just up in the air and you end up self loathing trying to figure out what happen. Really puts someone on an emotional spiral.

[TheUniqueOne96]

Rejected.

Ghosting is the pussy way out, like how hard can it be to say that you aren't interested when you don't even have to say it in person, it's just straight up rude and inconsiderate, despite it 'being a sign that one clearly has no interest', it's also a sign that they're a dick.

[TruthBringer]

Direct rejection is far better than getting hurt over a longer period of time because of uncertainty. No self-respectable person wants to be stringed along. I'd much rather know immediately so I can not waste more time and move on to find someone who is willing to make things work out. Only cowards resort to shallow tactics such as ghosting in order to avoid 'confrontation'.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

I say ghost my ass! I rather be ghosted because the way I look at it is that the person is doing me a favor by vanishing & I never have to see the jokers again. On the other hand when people reject me I bust out laughing & than I walk away with my head held high & life moves on.

[Anonymous]

Rejection because with ghosting it’s kind of just blowing them off at least with rejection you know for sure whether that person is into you. Plus I hate it when a person who ghosts me like a year ago tries to talk to me again.🙄🙄 especially since now I have a boyfriend and most of them know that like cmon you already had your shot.

[ChiTown33]

Rejected of course. At least you know where they stand.
See ladies this is why I say again and again. Stop worrying about how to reject a guy, letting him down easy. What's important is that he KNOWS you're not interested and will never be. Then he can move on!
Ghosting a guy is cruelest because guys are taught to be persistent and go after what they want.

[Dragonpurple]

Rejected, when you get ghosted you don't know why and at the same time you really wonder IF it was a mistake, or maybe they just got busy and so forth.

At least with rejection, you know where you stand... and its easier to move on.

[ShadezMcgee]

Rejected, always. At least that way it is upfront and shows some character, even if the rejection is not direct and instead a simple bullshit excuse (although that is just as bad and shitty.)

Ghosted is just plain rude and disrespectful.

[NoLookingAtSoleil]

Both are bizzare,
In the end we all want to be fully received with the other side/party's willing decision being what matters.
In that sense, there is no need to reject or ghost unless you are playing games/out for a vengeance on the (presumably) other gender.
Just saying how you feel should do it

[Oceation]

What? I don't think there's anything wrong with telling someone politely you aren't interested.

[HawkPerception]

Rejected 100%. Let me know you're not interested so I can stop pondering why you're not responding. It's simple respect and yet so many people don't seem to understand that.

[Aether1]

Rejected. I'd much rather she just straight up tell me that she's not interested and I accept that and move on. Ghosting me just wastes my time and I make a couple of attempts to contact her because I think she's busy or something.

[verdiane]

I prefer being rejected because it shows how mature the person is. Ofc some people reject for stupid reasons but at least they're being honest about it. Ghosting says more about the ghosts than it does about the other person. Ghosting is never a good choice and in some cases, it is a disguised rejection.

[umm_yes]

I would beixh rather rejected because you know how the other side feels and maybe you can still be at least friends (if you would be able to) and you wouldn't get awkward when coming around this person because they didn't answer you and you don't know why.

[Wiredone]

I would rather have people reject me. Ghosting only proves that they don't have the balls to tell someone they are not interested. Ghosters are cowards.

[Aimée__LJ]

I'd rather someone tell me they aren't interested, maybe a reason why than be waiting weeks on a reply.

[MCheetah]

Rejected. It's honest ad upfront. Ghosting is cowardly and cruel.