Is it my fault I’ve never had a girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

I’ve tried in university and I tried the dating apps. Complete fail

My life is in order, I love the gym, I’m a hard worker and high up in the career. I’m also tall and good looking (not ugly for sure).

I’m also a really nice guy, I’m a good listener, humble and very loyal. Funny too

Being in an ethnic minority also it makes it hard.

There’s nothing more I can do. I have to give up. I remember it was always the guys that weren’t that great that used to get girls. It’s the brutal reality. Women don’t pick the good guys it’s not exciting. I mean I’ve seen a homeless man with a girlfriend. Wtf.

It’s your fault

No it’s not your fault

Updates

1 mo

I’m just going to have to be an incel I guess. Like it’s too late now it’s messed up

[Telekinetic-Potato]

What a load of crap. Spend some time around woman. That's first and foremost. If you're thirty and never had luck with women, you need to stop trying to fuck them and try just being friends with them.

They're going to start flirting with you, even if you're friend zoned, it's conditioning you to communicate with them. You'll pick up bad habits, but it's better than thinking woman only want 3% of men because of social media.

Women want men who who turn them on. You could be ugly as sin, a good guy and broke and still get loads of women.

It has so much more to do with keeping their minds stimulated than anything else. Being a jerk just happens to be one of the most effective methods. But there's plenty of others.

Learn public speaking, be a more interesting conversationalist. Get a hobby, be able to hold a conversation about music, snowboarding, pop culture, your job, sports, fashion. It could be anything, just make it stimulating. Get good at making people talk a lot.

One of the most universally loved guys I know, will barely talk. He gets the other person going for a good long time and then they go "what a great guy, I had so much fun with him"

Learn togget comfortable while making people feel good around you and your situation will change.

[AngryCarl]

A lot of guys imagine that they have to jump through hoops to get a girlfriend, and if they can just find the right hoops and jump through them the magic will happen. That's nothing like reality. Girls will either pick you, or they won't. If you're not getting picked it's not your fault and there's probably nothing you can do to fix it.

[IslaTheWitch]

you can always give up, so leave it as your last option, not the first.

personality > appearance

do your math, and find the strengths and weaknesses you need to work on. Be honest, and don't hide things. The real confidence is created inside and based on your strengths and self-acceptance. If what you have done until now didn't work you have to change something. And it always starts from you.

[Asker]

No I’m tired of having hope in something that’s not gonna happen.
I’m doing well in life. But I avoid women that may like me for my money. But it’s hard to feel confident when you’ve used social media and realise girls only want 3% of men.

[IslaTheWitch]

as you wish... no one will ask you to do something you don't want to

it's your life, your decisions and your consequences

enjoy

[Asker]

Thanks. I think if you grew up in this social media she you’d realise it’s absolutely fucked

[IslaTheWitch]

the only person able to change your way of thinking is you

[strateguy632]

it depends how you start a conversation, watch youtube videos about how to flirt without being creepy.

if you were creepy it was your fault. if not it was her loss!

[DarkWinterNights]

Yes and no. You probably could have found someone by now if you really pushed to improve yourself and date, but I can relate to not,

[Billlewis]

I'd say that to some extent it is, but not entirely, in today's society.

[Anonymous]

Check out hoe_math on YouTube. Sounds like dating has effectively died.
I do wonder if you may be moved to a different area you'd get different results though

[boggboss]

Are u the Indian guy that cries that white girls don't like him

[LiamJHayden]

Approach, do not give off "desperation" vibes, and being interesting in some ways. Rpeat as necessary.

[Anonymous]

Women do not want nice guys. Have you seen bad boys out of women?

[Anonymous]

If you're a guy everything is your fault but not the other way around

[handsomelad70]

Maybe, maybe not. What sort of lad are you?