How to get a guy back that you abruptly pushed away?

[Anonymous]

Guys, if you were pushed away abruptly by a girl you were seeing (beginning stages), how do you think the best way is for the woman to get him to come back? I sent him an abrupt kinda rude text saying "the mixed messages are insane, just leave me alone" - not mature on my part but I was upset about being confused with where we are at. We are not serious yet but had an insanely strong connection. Should I give him space for awhile? Should I reach out and apologize and explain? What would spark your interest in her again.

[coachTanthony]

(you're not really confused by his messages are you?) he just isn't into you seriously yet like you are him so you lashed out because you have stronger feelings then he does?

Does that sound about right? So if that is the case then you obviously need to understand that most people need time for feelings like that to develop... so if he is interested he will reach out and say lets talk about it if not then he's not. You chasing him will make you look even crazier then you have already came off.

[Asker]

no I lashed out because I was frustrated about mixed signals - I've expressed my regret in my immature actions, im here looking for constructive advice of what TO DO (see the question above). He has expressed he has feelings for me, but I think they are new and I pushed him away by being rude. if you feel like giving constructive advice on how I could repair the connection, great. I never suggested I chase him.

[coachTanthony]

Apologize then leave him alone …if he truly has feelings for you then he’ll be back if not then he won’t. If this little thing scares him away then he ain’t the one

[Anonymous]

Stop relying on emotionless text messages would be a good start.

[Asker]

dont get what that means, nor is this actual advice? if you are talking about my admittedly rude text, that's not something I was relying on - I was upset and pushing him away, which I admitted was immature.

[Billlewis]

Make him jealous;)

[Asker]

as a man, that wouldn't push you away?

[Billlewis]

No, it drives me crazy and makes me fall at her feet ❤️