How to get back a guy you already (accidentally) rejected?

[Anonymous]

My friend admitted feelings for me, but I wasn't sure if I liked him. He told me to take my time and think about it.

He asked me if I wanted to go to the mall with him a month or so ago... well, he had me at a really bad time... I was being pressured by my mom to go to one school and not the other, my dad wanted me to make up my mind about what I want to do in life, I was extremely tired from going back and forth between two church fundraisers the night before, and the whole weekend was pretty hectic...

He made a joke about me not wanting to see him (he said "if you weren't so tired and wanted to see me") I was so fed up with everything else I told him I made up my mind and that we were just friends.

He said it was fine and that we could still be friends. Honestly, I said "no" to a lot of people that weekend... but he's the only one I regret saying it to. I wasn't sure at the time, but I'm pretty sure I like him now.

How do I tell him I want a second chance? I never meant to hurt him, honest! I know he still likes me, because, before I rejected him, he asked if he could be my first kiss.

He still wants to kiss me :)

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+1 y

Since we already graduated, I'll have to text him. I need opinions, please!

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+1 y

When I said we were just friends, you had me at a really, really bad time! I was going through a lot of pressure; I had a lot of decisions to make. Believe me, you weren't the only person I said "no" to that weekend, but you're the only person I regret saying it to. To be honest, I don't even know why I told you that, I was still undecided... I'm totally willing to take another shot, if you are... and if you can find it in your heart to forgive me. I never meant to hurt you, and I'm sorry I did

[EmptyVoid]

Everything is gonna be fine because he still likes you. That's what matters most. You should take the initiative this time and ask him to hang out with you some time. Be honest with him and tell him the truth on why you turned down his invitation last time. Your reason sounds perfectly acceptable to me I'm sure he'd understand too.

Best of luck! Enjoy your date soon.

[SaramadHill]

Just be honest about it. If it's too embarrassing, send it over a message or something. Find out if he still likes you, either discreetly or indiscreetly. If he does, you'll have good chances to get with him, but expect to explain yourself-- without making him feel like 'a bad week' was the only reason you rejected him.

[SaramadHill]

Your text seems fine, for the most part, but don't just send that out of the blue, set him up for it. Make sure he's going to read it at a good time, not when he'll be busy. Be like "Hey, I've got something I want to tell you when you've got a moment" or something..

[Asker]

Should I send it to him before or after his trip to Cancun? He leaves on the 8th or 9th...

[SaramadHill]

Tough call..
If you send it real soon you'll have a possible chance to see him again or at least get an answer before he leaves.

If you send it right before he leaves, he'll only be able to text you back his feelings on the matter, and it will either effect his vacation in a positive or negative manner. I don't know if thats a good idea.

If you send it after he gets back, it might be okay then... if he doesn't meet a girl while he's down there, that is..

[Glittergirl4]

I rejected my current boyfriend when he asked me to go to a movie with him, but then I regretted it. All I did was wait a week to make sure I truly felt something and I told him that I liked him. So yea, just tell him you changed your mind

[Daltron]

Go up to him, say that you were burned out from what you told us, then say you'd like to start over and get a coffee or something.

[Uliscor]

just explain what was going on and he'll understand

[luckypshah]

Grab him back!! Just go and tell him that you also like him.

[Anonymous]

Apologize and tell him how you feel he should forgive you!

[vsbw14]

go & kiss him! close the deal