What makes a man stay loyal to one woman when he has plenty of options?

[Babygirl_S]

[DishLady]

While it might look like a guy has pleanty of options, he doesn't really. If a guy is looking for a particular type of woman, there are only so many to go around. It's all just an illusion.


A guy who "has pleanty of options" is usually popular, successful, from a good family, etc. But I've been friends with so many of those guys that I can tell you first-hand… they're the loneliest fellows around. Girls tend to throw themselves at this sort of guy because of his charisma or his wealth and it becomes bothersome to the guy. But guys are simple, linear sort of creatures who just want to feel physically and mentally happy. (It sounds reductive, but "happy" is the part where the details differ from guy to guy. The need to BE happy and fulfilled is common to all of them and is very linear.)


Not many girls (and I say girls here on purpose — the pretty, dramatic, demanding, pouting females who spend half their time primming and begging for a guy's attention and time) are able to satisfy a man's craving for happiness. A well-balanced woman (here I would call that "a lady") has the poise and dignity to also be searching for happiness and purpose (so she's able to meet a man on equal footing in terms of mental and physical stimulation) and still allows herself to enjoy the time with her man. A lady knows that she's not in a deadlock competition with her man to acheive things or race to any invisible finishline. A lady knows that she has a life of her own to fulfill, that her man has a life of his own to fulfill, and that they will make an effort to find the time and space to make a fulfilling middle ground where they exist to rock each others' worlds and find things like love, pleasure, satisfaction.


When a guy finds the woman who does that for him, all other options vanish — even the ones who are slitting flush on their laps, "giving the milk away." In cases where they're with the hook up person, their minds are on the one they want, not the one they have, and even if they're enjoying the hookup, it's an illusion for them. Physical and psychological release without emotional or intellectual satisfaction.

[laly520]

him being a decent guy who is mature enough to respect the relationship he has with that woman

[Finchie40]

She stays loyal and honest to him as well , a relationship only works if both people are on the same page with things , What you don’t want him doing to you , needs to be the same thing you do for him as well , not the other way around , set boundaries with each other choose him the way you want him to choose you , If you don’t want him seeing other girls’ you don’t see other guys’ if you want him to remove selfishness for you, you need to remove selfishness for him. Always remember you can’t always be right and he is wrong , it’s ok to be wrong , Make him a priority the same way you want to be his priority , That’s where Love grows between 2 people , without that you have nothing

[Lionman95]

I would say an emotional bond that is created by both them. Guys look for a woman that has similar interests and appreciates what they do when they enter a relationship. A man stays to a woman when she shows and tells him that she likes what he does and a woman that also invests in the relationship. Guys like women that make them feel and seen as well so they look for someone to bond with.
The reason they stay loyal is that they get out of a relationship what they look for. Guys that cheat on their girl often do so because they don´t feel like they get what they want. If a guy is happy with a relationship he has no reason to go after other women.

[Summeroflove]

Well. If someone genuinely loves someone. You wanna be with them forever. But unfortunately people who sleep around will never understand. I can’t help those people

[Lynx122]

When she treats him well. She respects him, she loves him. She does what she can to make his life nicer, easier and more comfortable. She listens to him. And he feels like he doesn't have a reason to search for anything else because he's so content with his relationship.

[Berethor]

Well Chris Rock has famously said that a man is basically as faithful as his options. :)

https://allthetropes.org/wiki/I%27m_a_Man,_I_Can%27t_Help_It

[patrick994]

Satisfying sex: If the woman satisfies all the man's fantasies, fetishes and kinks, the man will not be tempted to seek satisfaction elsewhere, because he already has what makes him fulfilled.

The girl has a good character, is respectful, does not pretend to be spoiled, has a job and is independent.

Believe me if it is a woman it is as I have described her, no man in his right mind would betray his partner.

[Beau2024]

For one hopefully marriage. Second it’s a promise to be loyal and committed to a person and them to you! You make a choice and you have integrity to stand by your choices and decisions. I don’t always like my wife and I don’t always want to be around her but I love her and made a promise and you can’t base a relationship on emotions or feelings because I don’t always feel a certain way but I always am committed.

[IslaTheWitch]

hard work of both partners on their relationship

[charlie9mm]

I faithful man wakes up everyday and choose his spouse. When the younger prettier girl flirts with him he chooses his spouse. There will always be someone younger, someone more successful and someone prettier. It is a constant choice.

[SixFootSexy]

Strong morals and character. If a man has options and no scruples, commitment to one woman, there are only a few reasons why he shouldn't mess around. STD's, pregnancy, etc.

[The_Sexpert]

Well if he is not a player and if he truly loves a woman, the other "plenty of options" just won't exist in this eyes

[MysticDevice]

Integrity and personal honor. On my part anyway.

But if I wasn't satisfied in a relationship I wouldn't be disloyal I would simply end it before starting another one.

[DrPepper12]

Friendship in the deepest sense. Self-awarenesd that you know you have options but also self-aware enough to know that it's not worth it for person X. Economic security. Kids. Guilt. Lotsa reasons

[Alwayreckles93]

A true spiritual christian men. Lets be honest millenial men are all spoiled mommas boys.

[NathanDavis]

he either is, or it isn't

true loyalty is not conditional...

[bobby_bush_eater]

Because a relationship and a partner is so much more valuable than just having sex with a different women

[Squatting_Slav]

It's down to the man and his mentality. A woman could do everything right ahd still get cheated on if she's with a pathological liar or cheater

[Nikki1989]

Once you have true love, he is not going anywhere.

[LiamJHayden]

Integrity. If he does not have that, even with only limited options he will still cheat.

[loveslongnails]

That depends on his set of values and how interesting she keeps things.

[KostasKouvalis]

For me, it's her being loyal to ME and being non-judgemental

[Pennywise_6]

Commitment. A decision to be faithful and loyal to a person no matter what your emotional state is.