Have you ever had a terrible first date, but still gone on to have a second? What made you give them another chance?

[Anonymous]

[DishLady]

Ages ago we used to say, "Why would a person buy the cow when the milk is offered for free?" I don't think it's politically correct to say that anymore, however the sentiment still stands. Some women are "hook up material" because they come on too strong or display behavior that's unappealing to the guy for a long-term relationship. To share, one time I spent an entire day with the slightly younger brother of a guy I was interested in. I was helping him out with something small, then we went to lunch and it organically turned into an all-day thing. At the end of the day he offered to drive me home and I accepted. When he pulled up to my place he asked me to go out again and said something I still remember today: "I really like you… you're solid girlfriend material." At the time I didn't know what he meant, and I didn't want to encourage him by asking questions because his elder brother and I had just started a flirtation that was escalating to a long-term relationship. We're still good friends to this day, even though apparently it took time for him to shift gears and get over his non-platonic feelings. We just have to keep conversations light and away from dating topics otherwise he gets all flustered again.


The point is that the kindness I showed him all those years ago… the nondramatic, honest-but-kind approach to life, the sense of humor and the many values we shares, the easy way I connected with his circle of friends, etc. all combined into something that attracted him physically, appealed to him mentally, and ignited that little torch a guy carries in his heart when he finds someone he feels he can consider "girlfriend material" (or "wife material").

[BarryLiverstone]

I have them another chance because often on first dates people are not themselves and to worried about messing up or about finding red flags. So better to go on a few dates to see if they relax and are more comfortable

[BarryLiverstone]

*gave

[ProbablyClueless]

Never a terrible first date, but I have had bland first dates that I followed up on. I'm just a patient guy who believes in giving people a few opportunities to show me what kind of person they are.

[NathanDavis]

never would... not a chance