Would you give someone a second chance if the first date doesn't go well?

Question

Doesn't go well, but isn't an absolute disaster.

StingRayxoxo · Accepted Answer

Yes, it may be worth a second try.
I went on one date and was very nervous and my date chalked it up to incompatibility, and told me he wasn’t interested in going out again. I was a little disappointed because I would have responded differently.

MasterKey18 · Accepted Answer

Many times, round two.

Myk13 · Accepted Answer

Anything can happen to anybody at anytime. Second, maybe third chances too. Depends on how much I’m interested.

NYCQuestions1976 · Accepted Answer

Yes, unless it didn't go well for unreasonable reasons.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Assuming that there were no warning signs and that I felt some positive feelings towards her (physical attraction, respect, and she has some intelligence,) I would give it a second chance. Maybe it was just a bad day for one or both of us.

Pinay_ako · Answer

Yes I will if I still like him and wants to know him more. First impressions are not always the last

Apope16 · Answer

Yes but only if I was sexually attracted to them physically.

sjoes006 · Answer

Yes in cases where it is maybe just shy and awkward to the point of where I can’t even get a feel for if we have chemistry.

It’s been a long while for me since I have had a first date, but when I did they usually went well. Second dates are where the flop usually happened if it was going to.

The few first dates that didn’t lead to a second, we both left knowing there was no potential and we’re fine with that. They were usually fun enough and not a waste of time, by you know there isn’t a click.

Worst mistake for me to learn was the combo of good first date, questionable second date then accepting a third date. Those few third dates went wrong in ways that I thought they would.

Second dates are key. Not like you can give up and poo with the door open after that. But if you are both presenting honestly and make it through 2 dates the 3rd is where you can start exploring a regular dating schedule.

TarrAva · Answer

There are multiple reasons why a first date can go wrong and it would not be correct to judge this person solely on what went wrong.

He/she could have been nervous because it was his/her first date ever or was suffering from a cold/flu. So many things can go wrong that you can barely influence.

While first impressions are usually right, there are occasions where a 2nd or even 3rd impression is necessary.

You may miss out on the most fantastic relation ever if you don't give your date a 2nd or 3rd chance and see how those evolve compared to the first one. Only then would I make up my mind and decide if I want to go ahead with this person.

Jesslin412 · Answer

I was so nervous our first date I couldn’t talk. He though I was not infested! I thought he was bored. He was headed straight to drop me off when I asked if we could ride around a little while. That changed the night and welcomed date #2. We are now engaged!!

Browneye57 · Answer

What exactly does 'doesn't go well' mean to YOU?

She burped?
Told you you were a MF?
You slammed her finger in the door?
Didn't have enough to talk about?

I mean really, what does this mean? The whole reason for dating is to discern, to judge whether they're a match, whether they're worthy. The more you do it the better you get at it. Most people lack sufficient experience to even be able to make a determination, and then down the road they whine about how or what that person is.

Guys get with girls hoping they'll never change.
Girls get with guys thinking if they can work on them some they just MIGHT be someone they could stand to be around. FAIL :)

FlyingHorses · Answer

It depends on why it doesn't go well! If it's just coz nerves got in the way and I really really liked them before and they have a lot of the things I'm looking for in a partner then probably, yes! In my experience though it mostly doesn't go well because they've done something major to put me off or its obvious they'd lied to me about something! Those things I couldn't overlook!

Felinegirl · Answer

Depends on how. Sometimes, the date can be alright but you still notice a lot of incompatibilities. If I'm sure it's not going to work out, I won't go on a second date as it would only feel like leading them on for nothing.

If the first date is just a bit awkward and I haven't really gotten to know the other one way or another, it's definitely worth a second date.

sawno · Answer

I have no idea what to vote in this, i do not give a verdict based on the date but based on who they are. So if i like her as a person she will not need a second chance to begin with even if the date went poorly as ill happily go on another hopefully more successful date. However if our personalities do not align a second chance won't fix it. I am very good at reading people in those regards so after one date well or not i should have a reasonable impression of how she is and if there is a basis for more even if she acted clumsey, shy or found it difficult to talk during most of it.

Nita2585 · Answer

Depends.
If the guy is just shy, inexperienced, too emotional, i mean something i would forgive, yes i would give the second chance.
Unforgivable manner is when the guy is arrogant, self centred, talkative, stubborn... Then No, not a second chance

vonasaurus · Answer

i voted yes, though it really depends on what your definition of 'didn't go well' is.

ie: if he forgot his wallet and i had to pay his share of the bill, i'd be fairly forgiving. if he forgot about the date completely, then no.

MementoMori_ · Answer

I haven't had many dates that didn't go well because I don't ask someone out unless I am really attracted to her in the first place... so by the time we go on a "date," I already know what to expect. But if I did have one that didn't go well, and she wanted another one, I guess it would depend on who is paying.

MrMilti · Answer

I think it is absolutely stupid, to believe to understand someones personality after only one single date.

People are complex creatures. How can anyone think to have a perfect understanding of someone, after spending a few hours with said person? Thats bullshit.

DocilexElle · Answer

I gave the guy a second chance... a WHOLE year later! It lasted about 4 weeks. Maybe my gut was right from the jump.

itsarapp · Answer

My fiancé and I had a horrible first date where we went for a walk, it rained a lot and we were both kinda miserable but now over a year later we are getting married in a few months so I say always give a couple dates to decide whether you want to continue in the relationship or not.

Answermyquestions31 · Answer

I think yes because first dates and meetings are filled with so many nerves. It takes a few times hanging out to be comfortable. That’s why I opt for hanging as friends first then go on a date.

Wowgirl10q · Answer

Stop it they scare me already Depends how bad? Is he is just awkward and nervous yes If he smells or brings out drugs no

CassieIsTrans · Answer

If I like them, and I think that it was mainly circumstances rather than my date themselves causing problems, then yes, I would go on a second date. If what went wrong indicates to me that they aren't right for me, then no, I will not.

VIVANT · Answer

Yes three no way I can comfortably be myself upon one date, so i understand and I’d def give another go if they wanted.

I think it’s unrealistic to make a decision on a person from the one meeting/ why I hate dating lol

Xoxocutekitty · Answer

Depends why it didn't go well. Was it a timing, transportation or weather issue? totally. or are talking, nah theyre not attractive, they seem misogynistic, or just 100% no connection.

Anonymous · Answer

If I'd asked her out on a date in the first place, I'd have to be pretty interested. So barring a disaster, it's hard to imagine why I'd no longer be interested. I suppose the exception may be if the date were a set up and I just wasn't attracted to her, then I'd probably not bother, but that's unlikely if I actually asked her out.

hmmjustanothergirl · Answer

It depends on the person.. if bad because of his personality definite no.. but if he was nervous or something uncontrollable then sure.. everyone deserves a second chances in that case

Multi_personality · Answer

People get nervous and try to impress.. I would try it again and see how I feel... did we talk for hours and felt like minutes... or did we talk for minutes and felt like ever..

spartan55 · Answer

Sure, I'd give it a shot if I liked her enough. I'd recommend changing the type of date of you do. I've had first dates torpedoed by loud restaurants, big crowds etc. Good luck!

MsgtDixon · Answer

If a first date went bad, of course i would give them another chance. I would want another chance if it didn't go well but i was still willing to try again.

DevilsAngel117790 · Answer

Not if I didn't feel a spark which I know by the end of date one, if not before. A spark always means good date so bad date means no spark!

SuccessfulPoem · Answer

Yes, but it depends on in what way it didn't go well. If it was awkward and stuff like that then yes. But if he was rude and acting weird then no.. :)

fashionguy17 · Answer

LOL. Women are LYING out of their ass with the YES answers in the poll. I've been on plenty of dates with women in my past and if the 1st date didn't go well, I got ghosted! Happens to a lot of men I know.

Massageman · Answer

I did. Heck, it's only a second date and Rome wasn't built in a day, and you both have to eat lunch anyway, right? We never made a go of the relationship, but if we hadn't have met a few more times, we might not have found out until it was too late.

Kemil_Zhoki · Answer

Depending upon the reason (s), yes. Some people get very nervous on first dates. That would not be a deal breaker. If she were to be rude to a food server, however, I would consider that a deal breaker.

jvenmo · Answer

It would really depend on how bad the first date went and if I can tell that he is a good person at heart

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, I mean it's alright, they might have been awkward or it might have been their first time out or too nervous or anything, they just need to get a little comfortable, so it won't hurt to try again, lol

smg99 · Answer

Why not it’s only a social outing not a freaking interview;) make light of it later but it’s a shared inside joke

Anonymous · Answer

Since girls are at first not attracted to any gender. In general, Women are not sexually attracted to anyone of any gender, but if an emotional connection is formed with someone else, they may experience sexual attraction towards the specific partner (s).

A muscular body, attractive guy is just nice looking as like nice painting or it is something that attract them. Because before forming emotional connection they can't feel attracted to muscular body, attractive guy even muscular body would not attract them until they get to know a guy.

So, they wouldn't know whether they are attracted to a guy or not until they continuously date a guy.

Ganeshr992 · Answer

Patience s must.. Good things doesn't happen within a flash f time.  F we miss that, we will be called as LOSERS!!!

TacocaT6969 · Answer

I would just assume it didn’t go well because we were both nervous or whatever and see if it goes better the second time around.

mintmint1990 · Answer

Of course, it may just have been a miss communication between both parties due to anxiety. Definitely, a second chance if they still wanted it.

madhatters4 · Answer

definitely 1st impressions are important but they aren't always the best method of judging a person or situation.

Daniel3035 · Answer

Depends on the disaster if it’s something uncontrollable / unforeseeable then fair enough. But if it’s just to do with her personality or something characteristic no point it’s first time impressions that count and show the true person.

zagor · Answer

Depends on why it didn't go well. If it is due to something unrelated to either of us - fire alarm goes off in the restaurant or something - I would definitely give it another go if there appeared to be mutual interest.

Anonymous · Answer

Could you give an example? I may be thinking of this question a different way lol

MittenstheGlove · Answer

I love second chances. They just help me learn about how people handle initial failure.

Ultimate_Gohan · Answer

Nah...

Somegirl_49 · Answer

I would give it another shot. I always fear that I will mess my chances up with a guy due to my nerves, so I would hope (just as I would give) another chance to be more comfortable the next time.

Guanfei · Answer

Why not, if she really wants it. It would also depend on what went wrong.

CuriousFemale007 · Answer

It could be nerves get in the way so if you think something can come form it why not.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

I keep going until I'm pretty sure I understand someone

stormbreaker06 · Answer

we all can't hit doubles and singles at our first times at bat. Sometimes you have to ground out or pop fly out first. By the next time up at bat you might hit a dinger.

Eridan · Answer

No. If there clearly wasn't any attraction to begin with, there's no point in looking for it for the second time.

RinXD · Answer

This is why I'm a firm believer that alcohol needs to be a thing on first dates that way both groups relax and talk

master_shaggswell · Answer

I think everyone deserves a second chance. Sometimes you're just having a bad day. As long as there's some kind of attraction at least

Juxtapose · Answer

Probably not. A first date is when someone puts up their best act possible and if that doesn't go well.. Why bother?

ColoradoKid · Answer

Some times people have an off day. And everyone deserves a second chance.

latinabutterfly96 · Answer

Yes. It’s okay, they were probably nervous and it’s normal for the first date to be kinda awkward

ultimega · Answer

It all depends on the circumstances of why first date went bad.

Johnnie1000 · Answer

Sure I would. First dates can be a little tense and it's hard to be yourself.

Rangers · Answer

In most cases, no. If I knew them a little bit, I might be able to tell that it was just a rough day and we can try again.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Absolutely not and I would hope that she wouldn't either. If things don't work out initially, it's going to grow into a much bigger shitshow later.

chrisbigman · Answer

It depends, but usually I would. It would have to be something quite severely bad for me to not give them a second chance.

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