How to know if you are getting used in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

ways to spot when someone is just faking it to get what they want even if that means dragging a relationship

[Oliverlogan263]

Here are some signs that could indicate someone is just using you in a relationship, sis:

- They only seem interested in hanging out when they want something - like a ride, a favor, money etc. and are flaky otherwise.

- It's always about them - they don't ask about you or your life, conversations are one-sided.

- They avoid talking about the future - won't openly discuss if you're together or what they want long-term.

- Intimacy seems transactional - they only give affection when getting something in return like sex or attention.

- Isolation from friends/family - they want you all to themselves so others can't point out red flags.

- Broken promises - they say what you want to hear but actions don't match words.

- Makes you feel insecure/crazy - gaslights you or turns things around to blame you.

Trust your gut - if it feels like pulling teeth to get basic respect, they may just be using you. You deserve someone who chooses you everyday sis, not just when convenient. Pay attention to patterns over time.

[StarWarGirl]

Imagine yourself as a jar full of something what others needs full of various useful things. And when you see other person is taking things out from that jar whenever they feel need or required or this jar is itself pouring it out to that person as per his/her requirements but nothing is coming back to fill that jar again. Or barely anything is coming. That means that jar is getting used.

Also another way of knowing this is when you have to provide something to someone even when you are unhappy or in bad mood. And you are not feeling true happiness or true satisfaction to do that thing for that person or while doing that things that's sign that you don't want to do but you are getting used.