How to know when your relationship has run its course?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have recently moved in together. Shortly before that, things just didn't feel right. We started having a lot of arguments and could never agree on anything. That's still true, but feels amplified now that we live together. I'm constantly anxious since my boyfriend has begun to take offense to what feels like everything, he doesn't talk to me about anything anymore (he says it's just the way he is and I need to accept it), and I tend to feel like an outsider in his life.

We've talked before about how our relationship just isn't the same as how it used to be and he's somehow convinced it'll work itself out and we'll get back to the way we were. He says he hasn't noticed a huge shift in our relationship dynamic, but I find that hard to believe. We can never compromise, we argue all the time (about stupid stuff), and I have a very hard time feeling loved or even accepted as I am.

In my mind, I'm thinking, "this is it", that this is the beginning of the end. He thinks we just need to work on things, but I'm finding it difficult to feel any hope. I haven't been in very many long-term relationships (this being only my second), so I don't know what it feels like when your relationship is no longer working and you need to move on. I'm obviously still invested in this, I know what we had at one point and how amazing it was and would love to have that back, but if it's just not right, it's not right...

[Reallio]

If it's meant to be it will work out. If it isn't then eventually you will both part ways. I'm no relationship expert but I did this with my boyfriend when we had a rough patch: Took a break. We had some time apart (which only lasted a couple of days cause we're used to being around another, we both felt lost without each other.-.) and we reevaluated the relationship, figured out why we were fighting so much. We then fixed it, and decided that we love each other too much to let go. This could be the case for you guys, or it couldn't. It just depends. Try to rekindle the relationship before calling it quits. Don't give up yet ^_^ (Just wanna say, if you're not feeling it anymore, then yes break up. If you have no fight left in you then it's okay to leave. Be happy <3)

[Curlybeauty17]

It takes two for a relationship, if one or both of you no longer want to make it work, it's over. But as long as your both willing to try, it still has a chance. Try couple's counseling.

[Afrochick]

Constant fights about nothing, neither of you making the effort to see each other. no will for sex/intimacy

[Azgeda]

Looks like it's time for couples therapy.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zfdxqRXM6Sc

[selmo93]

If it's not right you can't change it

[Marinepilot]

This happens very often when you move in together.