What would you want for Christmas from your secret lover?

[PatrickHimebaugh]

This special Lady in my life has been my best friend for three years. we live 2h away, so there is some distance, though we have only seen each other twice over the 3 years once when we met and once when she was single.but we talk on the phone at least once or twice a week... she does have a boyfriend. and I always hear how unhappy she is with him. but every time we talk on the phone We laugh, smile, make sexual jokes, we talk about our life's problems that we both face, we ask serious questions towards one another, usually fantasize how we would be together, how romantic and happy we would be, how special I would treat her,and she know because I have shown her, to all the way if we got married and ran away.

(keep all the She's using you comments to your self please)-not the case..and I'm not blind.

So today we were talking about how I want to get a puppy for Christmas as a present to my self.. because patiently I have been waiting her. and she did ask when we don't talk for a long time do I loose interest or feel differently towards her.. I said a honest yes. I told her sometimes I think I'm wasting my time and I put my self out there again and only to discover that girls want to fall in love with me Quickly and the relationship burns out quick. because they don't want to be friends first or I find something I don't like and wrong.. and that's not what I want. and I told her I wanted a friend ship like what we have going on..

after that being said I had asked her what she would like for Christmas... I just started a new Job with Microsoft and in December ill have more money than I know what to do with.. And I want to get her a very nice gift.. because she has been there for me...

Shes not rich nor am I. but I had asked her if she would like a Coach Purse she said she would be happy with anything I give her no matter how much I spend it could be 5 bucks at Walmart and she still cherish it. but I know she will feel spoiled if I got the coach purse and that's What I Want...What do you think?.

[Anonymous]

get her something useful.

some gifts I got from guys in the past: this really cool small reading lamp because I stay up at night reading, and it's good when the power is out and I need a small powerful flashlight. I still have it after 3 years and it still works.

some fluffy white gloves or mittens, works for those times when it's cold 8 months where I live in the north

a soft fluffy small throw blanket, good to decorate the bedroom with or just good to cuddle with in the living room while watching tv

some bathroom smelling stuff like frangrance sticks or candles that have very nice scents to them

or something like a stationary set, or a personalized calendar? but whatever it is, make it personalized and something useful that's how I like my gifts.

like for example, my husband complains about back pain a lot so I bought him a wooden back massager that he absolutely loves. something that is useful for him and I was thinking of him when I bought it. Just an example of the types of gifts I buy.

[lavender]

I don't think your relationship is at a point where a Coach Purse is a suitable gift. She has a boyfriend, and she's essentially your unrequited love. Give her a gift that expresses that you thought of her, but not one where you are spending extravagantly.

Maybe a special book from a mutually favorite author...cashmere gloves or a silk scarf...a bracelet (in the $100 range).

[HappyFace]

wow! 422 views. Obviously your not the only person out there with a "secret" lover. I admit, I'm in a similar situation as yours, but with it's own twist of complications. I like the response of getting a gift that she will find useful... that's definitely a good idea. I know you also have to take into consideration it probably can't be something that is obviously from another man besides her boyfriend. I think from my point of view, getting her something that is either useful, reminds her of yourself, something you created yourself, or a combination of any would work well. In my case - once my "secret" lover told me she looked at me as her compass and that she feels lost when I'm not where we can be together... thus for Xmas I decided to find a nice compass as a gift that she can keep where she wants. I hope she likes it!

And I hope this helps you find that perfect gift you are wanting to give your perfect woman

[Anonymous]

5 million dollars