My partner and I have been together over 6 years and have been living together for 3. We never really used to argue over dumb things, only over "crucial to our being together" things.
Obviously I love him and I know that he also loves me. But, lately he has been a jerk. There is no other way to describe the way he has been acting. He's just not treating me well at all.
He doesn't exactly tell me my opinions are wrong or dumb, but he questions them in a way that makes them seem so.
He doesn't listen when I tell him about my day, or need empathy for one reason or another. Just says "Yeah?", like "Yeah? What's your point?" or"Yeah? What do you want me to do about it?".
Also, we used to just pay for things for the both of us and we never brought it up, but he's getting really naggy about where I spend MY money. As if it were also his. He also gets naggy about who paid for what and splitting everything exactly in half, which I can't complain about. But once he's run out of money and realizes I still have money left, he still gets all cranky, and then of course acts like my money is HIS.
There are also heaps of little things, anyone else might go "ah well.." or just talk it through for a minute if it was a huge problem. But HE'LL sulk for a whole day! Sometimes its such a small issue that I cannot for the life of me figure out what his problem could be. And he DOESN'T talk it through just sulks and acts quite nasty until he gets over it. Even though I try to ask him what is wrong, he just says "nothing" and continues ignoring me.
He also just doesn't tell me anything lately. Not that he is keeping secrets, just that he doesn't tell me at all.
It's not all the time, some times he goes back to himself and its great and I get used to it thinking that he won't turn back, I get such a shock when the jerk returns!
To sum up, he shows no interest in conversation with me, he has become selfish, he has become so petty. When I hear about my girlfriends "relationship problems" it makes me think that he is the woman, whinging and sulking over nothing, and I'm the poor guy sitting there taking it going "Huh?".
We used to have a lot more open relationship and now I feel like I'm walking on eggshells, what do I do!? Why is he acting like this he's driving me nuts!
Obviously I love him and I know that he also loves me. But, lately he has been a jerk. There is no other way to describe the way he has been acting. He's just not treating me well at all.
He doesn't exactly tell me my opinions are wrong or dumb, but he questions them in a way that makes them seem so.
He doesn't listen when I tell him about my day, or need empathy for one reason or another. Just says "Yeah?", like "Yeah? What's your point?" or"Yeah? What do you want me to do about it?".
Also, we used to just pay for things for the both of us and we never brought it up, but he's getting really naggy about where I spend MY money. As if it were also his. He also gets naggy about who paid for what and splitting everything exactly in half, which I can't complain about. But once he's run out of money and realizes I still have money left, he still gets all cranky, and then of course acts like my money is HIS.
There are also heaps of little things, anyone else might go "ah well.." or just talk it through for a minute if it was a huge problem. But HE'LL sulk for a whole day! Sometimes its such a small issue that I cannot for the life of me figure out what his problem could be. And he DOESN'T talk it through just sulks and acts quite nasty until he gets over it. Even though I try to ask him what is wrong, he just says "nothing" and continues ignoring me.
He also just doesn't tell me anything lately. Not that he is keeping secrets, just that he doesn't tell me at all.
It's not all the time, some times he goes back to himself and its great and I get used to it thinking that he won't turn back, I get such a shock when the jerk returns!
To sum up, he shows no interest in conversation with me, he has become selfish, he has become so petty. When I hear about my girlfriends "relationship problems" it makes me think that he is the woman, whinging and sulking over nothing, and I'm the poor guy sitting there taking it going "Huh?".
We used to have a lot more open relationship and now I feel like I'm walking on eggshells, what do I do!? Why is he acting like this he's driving me nuts!
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